Reading body language signals on a first date

Whether you realise it or not, body language sends out many useful signals.

Understanding your own body language and being able to interpret someone else’s can help make dating new people easier and more comfortable.

Here’s some common body language signals and what they mean.

Eye contact

Maintaining good eye contact is a clear indicator of someone’s interest and attention. If your date is looking at you when you speak, that’s a clear sign they are engaged with what you’re saying. If they are constantly dropping eye contact and scanning around the room, it suggests you probably haven’t found your perfect match.


How you hold yourself sends out big signals, and most people don’t realise it. Even if you’re feeling nervous, standing straight and upright, with your head and eyes facing upwards rather than to the floor, will help indicate confidence. Keep your arms and legs uncrossed – as crossing them can give the impression you are uncomfortable, unhappy, or closed off.

The Flick

The “flick” is a simple and high-impact way to show your interest in another person. Allowing your eyes to move down towards their mouth briefly before looking back up and meeting their eyes can help you subtly indicate you are interested in a kiss.

Hand gestures

What you do with your hands also lets off signals you may not even realise. For example, women will often touch their face or hair to indicate attraction, while men often smooth their hair or touch their chest. If you find yourself doing these things on a date it is likely a very positive sign. On the other hand, if they are fidgeting, biting their nails, drinking quickly, it could signal they are bored and disengaged. It may also simply be a sign of nervousness, so as with all body language, make sure to consider it in the context of your interaction with one another.

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I think you’ve read mentioned most of the important ones above. Not meeting your eyes could mean more than one thing ie he could. be insincere or he could just be shy and afraid of showing it. Edgyness can be the same I think in most cases body language is awkward on a first date. I would probably take much more notice in the effort he had put into getting ready ie clean shoes and nails, well dressed appropriate to where you are going and not asking notice of other people instead of you.

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