Caring for a parent at a distance

Caring for a parent when you live miles away can be very difficult and fraught with anxiety, but here are a few tips which can help:

  • Set up a weekly online food delivery for your parent with one of the main supermarkets, so they do not have to worry about going to the shops and carrying heavy bags home
  • Open a taxi account for your parent if they need to get out and cannot drive, or manage public transport
  • Set your parent up with a computer  or iPad so you can email each other  about how to introduce computer technology to your parents without the fear or watch our video
  • Set up Skype. It is easy to do and you can talk face-to–face with your parent, even if you cannot be physically there
  • Get them a care alarm, so that they have peace of mind if they fall or get into difficulties
  • Help them to travel to you by arranging train travel, so they do not have to drive. You can book tickets online, which can be sent directly to your parent
  • All airlines offer special assistance for the elderly if organised in advance, including accompanying them through the airport and transporting them to and from the aircraft
  • Set up a visit rota with friends and family to ensure there is some regular contact happening throughout the week
  • Get them to carry a mobile phone with them and add essential numbers, just in case
  • Make sure their GP has emergency numbers on their records
  • Suggest some new activities, such as volunteering

 is a UK-focused information website and social forum aiming to providing everything you need, or want to know or discuss about caring for an older person all in one place. From positive ways to keep them active and healthy, to maintaining their financial and legal needs, through to specific information on care options, local authority funding and age-related health issues. The website draws on a wide range of experts, consultants, lawyers and charities, providing an authoritative and continuously updated source of information. It a member of The Society of Later Life Advisors and is used as a key information resource by many UK local authorities and GP practices. Contact [email protected]

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Jean Leishman
25th Jan 2014
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Dear Terence,

When I finished reading your story I have to tell you I had tears in my eyes. You and your wife have given your family all your life and they are so used to taking, they don't know how to give appreciation or show thanks for all you and your dear wife has selflessly done for them throughout your life. Why wait Terence? Contact the estate agent tomorrow, get your house on the market and only when it is sold and you and your darling wife are en route to a new and well deserved life in Portugal, send them a postcard and spend the lot on yourselves. I'm telling you Terence you both deserve it more than they do.
1st Aug 2013
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When I lived in Wales for a year, my mother was still in Norfolk and she invested in an iPad so we could Facetime. It was the best money she had ever spent she said as she could see me! It also paid for itself when, whilst talking to my mother one evening she suffered extreme pain (she had shingles a few years back and gets extreme facial pain sporadically) in her face and could not talk through the agony. I was able to watch her while my husband rang my brother and sister in law who went straight round and looked after her while the pain subsided. Technology can be a curse but in this instance was a blessing and a Godsend!

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