Menopause truths – the things nobody tells you

The things nobody tells you about the menopause

The menopause can be a difficult subject for many women to talk about – but there’s no need for anyone to shy away from the issue.

It’s something all women will go through and something we should all be happy to talk about.

Not talking about issues can often lead to misconceptions being heralded as the truth and falsehoods being given undue credence.

So, in the spirit of openness, here are some less well-known facts about the menopause that you may not have been told yet…

You may forget things

Trying to remember where you left your phone or wondering which music artist sung that one-hit wonder that you loved?

It’s a common occurrence to forget things during menopause. Your short-term memory can be affected by hot flushes and concentration issues may be related to stress rather than hormonal changes. It’s important to challenge your brain during this time – simply reading a book or watching a great film can help keep your mind sharp. 

Your heart may skip a few beats

Yes, your heart may start to skip a beat – and not in that exciting way of a new love.

In the time leading up to menopause, some women may experience heart palpitations, which is often due to hormonal changes. 

However, if the heart palpitations last more than a few minutes and you feel out of breath or faint, ensure you visit a doctor and get a thorough check up.

Weight gain can be avoided

Although picking up a pound or two is common during the menopause this is not directly linked to your hormonal changes.

The real culprits are a slowdown in metabolism and lack of physical activity.

By exercising regularly and sticking to a healthy diet, you can maintain muscle and help keep weight off you as you age.

You can still enjoy sex

Before menopause, hormonal changes can lead to surges in oestrogen, which means you could be more in the mood for sex.

However, other factors like vaginal dryness (another common symptom of the menopause) can prove a hindrance to an active sex life.

Products like the non-sticky Canesintima intimate moisturiser help moisturise and lubricate the area and are even compatible with condoms.

Naps are great

The menopause can take a toll on your mind, body, energy levels and emotions.

While there shouldn’t be too much need to make big changes to your regular lifestyle, there may be times when you need to take things slightly easier.

Where possible, a little power nap in the afternoon can make all the difference to your day and help keep your energy levels high.

Do you have any surprising stories about the menopause? What do you wish you’d known? Let us know below…

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11th Dec 2016
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Nobody ever told me I would lose interest in sex reaching the age of around 56/57, (you must be talking of someone else) I would have said, but hormones acting on my body to dry me up and be uncomfortable has left me feeling "is it too late to find the real me back again? "
I never thought I needed HRT and at 61 now, no hot flushes and just wanting to have this closeness back, I'm going to give this Canesintima a try. Anyone recommend this?
8th Dec 2016
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I came off HRT in 2009, I still have hot flushes, drinking tea or coffee create a flush aswell, I also have dreadful mood swings to the degree that I refuse to have company on those days.

Have been back to the doctor, but all they have offered is blood pressure tablets or mild anti depressants neither of which I would take...........I have no problems with my blood pressure and I am not depressed. I have spoken to other women and they agree that when you come off HRT all the symptoms return, I am 70 now so I guess I/we are stuck with it !!!!!!!!!!!!
7th Dec 2016
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Have just had a total hysterectomy and have gone into the menopause - my consultant doesn't think I need HRT at 56. Have hot and cold at night but also have lots of 'sad' flushes - unexplained crying - do others have this and how do you deal with it - does it go eventually?

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