Easy conversation starters for introverts

Do you struggle to make small talk when meeting new people? Don’t worry, you’re not alone – and we can help.

We’re sharing some foolproof tips to help conversation flow even when you’re shy, so you can be confident you won’t be stuck for something to say at your next social situation…

“How do you know?”

If you’re at a party, the easiest way to make conversation with a new person is to ask them how they know the host. By starting this way, there’s even the possibility that you’ll find another connection between you – making it all the easier to keep chatting.

“I like your…”

Everyone loves a compliment. Whether it’s a hairstyle, a coat or a slick phone, comment on something about the person that you like or admire and ask a few questions. Chances are, the other person will be more than happy to talk about them.

“Is this your first time…?”

When you’re at a class or regular social gathering and you see a face you don’t recognise, get the conversation going by asking them if they’ve been before. That way, you might also be able to share some tips and advice.

“What’s your favourite…?”

It doesn’t matter what kind of social situation you’re in, this is an excellent way to start. If you’re in a bar, ask about their favourite drink. If you’re looking to make friends at a book group, ask about their favourite author.

“Can I get you a…?”

Offering to fetch something for someone, such as another drink or a slice of cake, gives you a very easy opening. If the person says yes, they’ll want to thank you and if they say no, there’s a chance they’ll want to tell you why.

“Any nice plans for the weekend?”

Give people the chance to talk about themselves by asking about the things they are looking forward to. This is also a good way to find out if they have any interesting hobbies or if you have any pastimes in common.

Give some of these handy conversation starters a go the next time you’re looking for a way to make a new friend.


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30th Nov 2014
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My grandson (4 yrs) complained that his much older brother wouldnt talk to him so I said to ask him a question, that way it would be rude not to answer. 1 minute later this little voice asked his brother 'whats your name'. Brilliant.

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