Tips for building your online dating profile
More and more people are finding romance online, so if you’ve created a dating profile in the search for new love, it’s vital that you make your profile stand out from the crowd.
We have lots of ideas that can help your dating profile shine.
Stay away from the negatives when you’re writing your profile. Potential partners don’t need to know about a bitter divorce, trouble with a job, bad dates you’ve had or personal heartache. They need to know what you’re looking for and what you love in life. Think of it as you might do with a job application, where you only write about the good things that you can bring.
Start by thinking about what is really important to you in a potential partner. Do you want to date, or commit? Do you want to meet someone who lives locally, or who is in another city? You should be honest about this in your profile, as it will help find the right matches.
Don’t pretend to be a height, weight or age that isn’t true. If things go well and you meet up with a match, they will see that you lied and things will go downhill from there. Be accepting of who you are and let this shine through on your profile.
Show What’s Important to You
Talking about what you love to do and why is a very important part of your profile, and there are a few things you can do to help make this stand out.
Don’t resort to clichés when you’re talking about your hobbies. Think about what you really like to do, and write about those activities. Maybe it’s walking the dog in the local park, meeting friends for drinks in the evening, taking part in pub quizzes, or going for a swim in your local gym. Try to get specific about things if you can. If you like travelling, say where you’ve been and what inspired you. If you are musical or artistic, talk about what medium you use and why. If you cook or home brew, talk about favourite recipes and tastes you love.
Whatever you do, don’t lie about your favourite hobbies or interests. If you pretend you like ‘long walks in the park’ and meet someone who likes that too, they’re going to be very disappointed when you say you prefer staying at home.
You can talk about more than just your hobbies in your profile. Think of different things that are important to you, and include them too – your favourite song, favourite artist, a quote you love from a book, a charity you’re passionate about. Use these things to really show who you are and what is important to you.
If you find it hard to write your profile, try asking a friend to take a look at it, or ask them what they would write. Once you’ve written your profile, always double check it for poor spelling or grammar.
Get the Perfect Picture
A well written profile is nothing without the perfect photo of yourself.
Medium shots – with your head, shoulders and at least part of your upper body, ideally from the waist up – work best. Don’t wear anything that might distract from your face in the photo, like bright patterns, sunglasses or strange hats, and don’t pose with anyone else. Most dating websites have the option of uploading a few photos, so you could try a mix of headshots, medium shots and full photographs of you standing or sitting, so people can see what you look like.
Ask a friend to take your photo, and think about what you want to say. It can be a great idea to incorporate your hobby into your photo to reflect your personality – for instance you could be in the garden, reading a book, walking your dog, even holding a coffee. Make sure you smile in the photo and look directly at the camera.
There are a few definite no-no’s for online dating profile photos that you should keep in mind. Don’t use an old photograph of yourself, don’t use a selfie, don’t use a photograph where you are not the focus, and try not to use a photograph of yourself with friends (or exes) who could be confused with partners!
What do you most like (or hate) to see in a dating profile?
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