How would you go about choosing a care home for a loved one?

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There comes a point in some of our lives when we may need to seek a care home for a loved one, who for various reasons, may not be able to remain in their own home.

It can be a challenging time, and it may be something you have already done, or need to consider for an older relative or friend.  Today we are taking a look at what you may do or have done, in order to research and reach a decision about choosing the care home to meet your needs.

Below are 4 questions you may consider …

What would prompt you the most to look into care home options?

Downsizing
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Illness or injury (mental or physical)
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Loneliness
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Home care vs care home cost
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Based on 171 public votes.

What is your main consideration when choosing a care home?

Cost
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Location/Distance
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Facilities and activities
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Standard of care
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Based on 169 public votes.

What is the main resource you would use to research a care home?

Care home website
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Visiting the care home
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Brochure
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Online reviews from others
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Based on 162 public votes.

How long would/did you spend researching a care home?

1 month
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1-3 months
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3-6 months
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6-12 months
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Based on 157 public votes.

Feel free to add any additional comments based on your personal experience or anything else you feel may be relevant in the comments section below….. 

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Gislaine
3rd Mar 2016
1
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I would recommend dropping in unannounced and talking to residents (if at all possible) and watching how staff behave towards the residents. It should also give a chance to assess how clean and well kept the home and residents are. My mother in law was in a care home and doubly incontinent. While we visited during lunch time she needed changing. The carer my husband approached told him they would see to her when they had finished lunches. They were generally understaffed. Once a loved one is living in a care home it is very difficult and traumatic for them to have a change of home suggested. All the more reason to do a thorough check before the choice is made.
tedith
2nd Mar 2016
0
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Arrive without an appointment.
Mid morning or mid afternoon to see what activities are taking place or is everyone sat in a circle with tv blaring out.
meal times to see quality of food and if assistance given to eat.
check for any overpowering perfume smell hiding odour.
chat to other residents/relatives about care etc.
barge
26th Feb 2016
1
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When you visit make sure to smell for urine odours iin the home.
Chat with the residents and observe their interactions with each other
Are they encouraged to get up and go to bed when they are ready?
stephtong
26th Feb 2016
1
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Costs are also a consideration especially if a top up is needed not everyone's family can afford that.
Wilf
19th Mar 2016
0
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Yes I really agree with this and many care homes are really expensive.
Joan Fraser
19th Feb 2016
2
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Location and accessibility for regular visits was also a major consideration. Choosing locally was also made easier by knowing families who had relatives in various homes, and some staff who worked there.
Wilf
19th Mar 2016
0
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Yes location has been vital for us with an old aunt who is now 96. We have her in a local carehome which is so much easier than going somewhere miles away
JohnHerb
18th Feb 2016
3
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Probably choose one by asking other people what their recommendations are. there is nothing better than this and you generally hear the trusth
wiffler
17th Feb 2016
4
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Own room with ensuite shower/toilet facilities. Although my mother had severe dementia she appreciated her own space. In the case of Alzheimer's/dementia check on security. Put my mother in a local home that boasted dementia care whilst we were on holiday. She got out through French Windows, on several occasions. Once it was freezing cold and they found her in her nightie in a neighbouring school yard. Also, most women, dementia or not, prefer female attendants. Good luck.
Meggy
17th Feb 2016
3
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It is such a huge decision to make and so much has to be taken into consideration.In the end, I went on gut instinct when I visited. I hate when the term "put into a home" is used, as for many, there is simply no other option. My father needs daily nursing care and the 10 - 15 minute home visits he was receiving from carers just wasn't good enough. He was admitted to hospital with severe pressure sores and dehydration.I would have felt more guilt at leaving him at home in such circumstances. He is now living (as opposed to existing) in a lovely nursing home where he is beautifully cared for and reassured that the staff will help him. He would have lost all dignity if I as his daughter had had to bathe and toilet him. His only concern now is that we had to sell his property to fund his care and I found this part of the process far more complicated than it needs to be especially at such an upsetting time.
Munsterlander
15th Feb 2016
4
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We have an elderly relative who now needs to go into a home and have looked at many on the internet. We are not sure where she should go but it would be much easier if she was in one near us. I think it comes to us all at some time and there will probably be far more home built in the future with a UK population that is getting older
JohnHerb
15th Feb 2016
4
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My parents are getting to that age where they will need to go into a carehome or even a nursing home soon.For us its about them being happy in nice surroundings, is the food good and most of all are the staff kind.
Wilf
15th Feb 2016
4
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I have an old Aunt who is 95 and just gone into a Care Home. We spent a few months looking at alternatives. We looked on the internet and then visited homes to get a feel of the place and the staff
maggie10
12th Feb 2016
5
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Twice we have had to look into care homes for a relative with dementia and I would say look past the fixtures and fittings into the policies and attitudes of dealing with dementia. Ask questions such as " How do you cope with challenging behaviour " ? Are there any organised activities or are they just slumped around a television set. Go unannounced, go with your gut instinct. As well as things like location and cost.
Marley444
12th Feb 2016
5
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I have had to choose a care home for my mum who has dementia. I considered most of the points above ... location for visiting is important alongside cost and level and standard of care. I visited many care homes, and at the end of the day your gut and instinct takes over. I had to sell my mother's house to fund her care, and decided that it would be better to choose one that was top quality and unfortunately top cost on the basis that whilst her mental capacity will get worse in the long term, she should enjoy the best now, and if she deteriorates along her funds, if we have to move her as the money runs out, she will be less aware of her environment as her mental state declines. It is all very upsetting, especially as the proceeds from her house sale are dwindling 8 years down the line. I am burying my head at the moment. Best of luck to everyone in the same position

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