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27th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Should alternative medicine be offered by the NHS?Too Costly for NHS Budgets at present.ViewDate:
27th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsMany Thanks Tedge. Becoming 10-pound POMS turned out to prove this was the VERY Worst decision for the Breaking up of our Family of 5-Schoo.l AGE Children. Future Job Prospects were the big attraction as Fife was suffering much unemployment in 1964. Now with 21 Aussie's & us Two finding the Loneliness a Big Problem causing Depression. We are now expected to return there--so that some of our Family Members can keep an eye on us.--Makes you Laugh when you realise how the Clock turns us around.--(:-))ViewDate:
27th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsFlight's To Australia from Scotland--dreading that VERY long haul which can be O.K. when younger. But now 90yrs of age. Considering Flights & Airlines alongside these Increased Fares past the 31st October when the busy season sets in. Whether to leave on an EARLY Flight or Much Later in the Day as sleeping can become most welcome to pass the time away. If only we weren't required to spend an Extra 2-hours inside those Airports for Security Reasons. Not feeling too co-operative at this moment. Any Suggestions for an 90yr Old Travel Weary Great Gr-mother.???ViewDate:
27th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Hi All - any one fancy a chat?Are there ANY 90yr Old Silver Surfers our there. Australian on Paper only. Brit' by Birth. (:-))<<ViewDate:
27th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Hi All - any one fancy a chat?Loneliness can be devastating to one's mental abilities--Well versed in this subject myself. Wherever you live, I have lived or moved too many times--so I can say this safely that unless you are prepared to join into Group Situations--that no one comes knocking on your front door to find you. At one time in my Earlier years that Neighbourhoods felt responsible to-wards their Locals. Those days have well gone, which is a Great Pity as those feelings of never being quite alone were such a valuable asset into Communities. TV's & Cars managed to kill that off sadly. Enjoy Life we only get one chance of living. Australia--supposed to be the Friendly Country is every bit as lonely I found out.ViewDate:
11th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Hi from Scotlandabbe42 I am an Australian on paper so happy to see that you join in here as well. Those 42% heat days & weeks were really draining. Take Care I might even be back fingers crossed abbe42ViewDate:
11th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Hi from ScotlandHi CaroleAH--noticing your enjoyment with U3A I was amazed to see that mentioned as I myself while living in Adelaide Aust. attended this Teaching Group & loved every minute of being involved. Benefited so much form Company & mental stimulation. Missed this part of my life ever since.ViewDate:
11th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Hi from ScotlandI wish I wasn't so intrigued & wanting to chat with you as I too also Love those Interests. Plus Scotland is another Joy. Am a wee bit worn out now time for some sleep & early bed is now a must. Enjoy this Group I Do.ViewDate:
11th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsianB89 I really did enjoy your message. Gr-sons being as caring & loving as yourself appear to be quite a rare source these day;s unfortuantely. I have Gr-sons who because of marriage break ups-distances Etc. Never any contact for too many years. Don;t even know where they could be living or even if they still are.ViewDate:
11th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner Commentskobyhodge you really sound like a great person I applaud you for these comments.ViewDate:
11th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsWell Said jasmine7--being in this situation myself with most of my friends popping off. No-one to phone for chats either.ViewDate:
11th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsHow about Losing their Cars as well. That Car turns into a Weapon while under their control which brings up the point of CARELESSNESS while using this weapon.???ViewDate:
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11th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner Commentsnellydean--we Oldies have been confused ever since.(:-)) YOUNGER MINDS learn to adapt like we had to.ViewDate:
11th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsSeems that my ONLY option now is to REALLY concentrate on Moving On-wards away from this misery & my present circumstances with on-going problems. Husband has always been really aggressive to-wards me even while pregnant & I reported him ot the Local Police Sergeant who was at his desk. But this was never acted upon. In 1963 Women under their Husbands Control was everywhere. With Two Older Children of Four & Two there weren't many opportunities available allowing Women to actually leave their Torment. Public Opinion then. (Family's were kept out of those pictures) Plus I grew up in a very religeous Family. (Men Ruled). Always staunchly believing in placing our Children First I never wished to place them into a Situation of Choice. Taking Sides was also against my personal belief. Two Parents bring those children into this world-!! Nothing available for women then in Contraception that I knew of either. Sexual demands back then were 'Husbands Rights' now I shake my head in disbelief. Presently realising that at 90yrs of age I have been a b it too late in deciding I HAVE to leave while I can still recall how to write. Biggest problem is where to go & how can I re-invent my life all over again.?? Not sleeping properly being deeply depressed I approaching the Dr' has resulted in a Stalemate. Wondering if it is worthwhile getting myself out of bed. I am even giving up on dressing & showering which was always my best part of each day.ViewDate:
10th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsSadly deteriorating on a massive scale--Rot Started in amongst this 'Family'-?? When Dad goes to the PUb each night. Mum has to become the disciplinarian. (Decent Citizens but very Dysfunctional) regarding relationships--Alcohol has been used amongst the Adult Children--never to the degree of Lawlessnes Thankfully operating in the Home--where it couldn't be seen--my wages were solely to keep everything running as smoothly as Possible. But Children do require to see & be appreciated by their Fathers. Unfortunately Emmigrating to Australia in 1964 was another downturn in every way possible. Must have ripped the very roots of security out from under their--OUR Feet. But sticking it out to finish raising the 5 Children. Working /full time/worn out by the time I-'we' returned just as a Couple. With that Size of this Continent of Australia Distances were a HUGE problem when attempting ot Travel Interstate even. Ended up with 42yrs there while raising each of them successfully--apart from built-up anger with separated siblings. Thanks so much for your thoughtfulness & do take care//we never know for how long. I always drove myself around everywhere both in Ozz & here. Now loss of confidence has taken it's toll. Lack of Mobility causes Isolation Depression Etc. Cheery Bye for now.ViewDate:
4th Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Just joined so I'm introducing myself.Isolating Circumstances adding to loneliness even depression. Apparently this subject is all too common in our world of living human beings now-a days. Why is this happening.? I place myself under 'above conditions' Choices available--:-21 Direct Descendants all Australian Residents. My Abode is Scotland. Now reaching 90yrs & reasonably decent health. seriously considering 'returning' to Australia--Citizenship O.K> My Husband & I arrived there in S.A. back in 1964 with our Five School--aged Children now all grown Adults with Gr-children. Returning home to Scotland 10yrs ago. But time is running out now being almost 90yrs. Upheaval has been a constant experience thru-out my married life. Probably much more 'scared' now of this time around. Family members there aren't keen ot see us returning--reasons being variable. Now realising with Supporting Company this upheaval would be very much easier to cope with emotionally. Anyone interested in replying would be appreciated. Thanks for taking an interest in my present dilemma.ViewDate:
2nd Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsThis is also my Pet hate--the English Language has sufficient words & this was always hammered into our minds in School.ViewDate:
2nd Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsOnce you give up driving yourself around because of road & traffic congestion--then also being less mobile for stepping into public Transport--getting out & about becomes a huge problem--then this results in Isolation. (90 never out)--I actually LONG ot go to Visit our 21 descendants in Australia but our Adult Children all 5-of them are resisisting any mention of this. Do I live this life I have Got--or accept that Life is now unavailable because of being Old--yet fortunately of good health. Quite upsets me.ViewDate:
2nd Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsYour Statement Ian sounds good to me an Old person of 90yrs attempting to have closer contact with our Great Grandchildren who all live in Australia. But the Gr-parents are resistant to my expectations when is Love Never important Ian.ViewDate:
2nd Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsWhile doing a search to-day found out that the Salvo's undertake a Befriending Service but I never got any further than my phone call up to now.??ViewDate:
2nd Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner Commentsjasmine7 Thanks Jasmine for your comment as I myself am just one of these Loners. Yet I have this cheerful personality & always wish to either listen to understand or add cheery comments with a smile. I have been trying to explain to our Dr' about this situation causing depression & anxiety. Referred on ot the Social services--who are much too busy--so we go on waiting for what-??ViewDate:
2nd Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsThinking the very same Christine. British made goods used to be much sought after.ViewDate:
2nd Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsDid you listen to Bill & Ben the Flower Pot men.?? So innocent & entertaining for y0ung ones.ViewDate:
2nd Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsYes Please Follow this request--children are the Innocent following generation of this world.ViewDate:
2nd Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsYes I think so--Cms & Kilo-grams are confusing to 90yr Old people/ViewDate:
2nd Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsI do like your philosophy. Take Care speaking from one who is battling with depressing dysfunctional family.ViewDate:
2nd Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsWhy am I being rejected by the Family that I had always championed & worked hard for thru-out their growing years while their Father went out drinking & socialising each & every night of the week. Asking myself did I place their well being & expectations above my own daily needs. When you go thru' those years not being supported emotionally I was always running on empty & even resentful for my situation. Not having enough confidence in my own importance or how to voice these emotional requirements that children have a Father as well as this Mother to provide stability within the Family. Instead of battling all of those difficulties involved with growing healthy children--4-daughter's & 1-Son while holding down a Job. Is there something in the Male Physci' that brings out a selfish self survival mode of behaviour. Those Children are now grown Adults & Gr-parents. I made a foolish sacrifice in 1964 when the future prospect for Jobs in Scotland were very bleak. Also thinking or wishing for some alteration in their Dad's selfish activities that by emigrating 12.000 miles away from his Booze Buddies that he would realise the importance of his young Family. Sadly this never happened. Verbal angry abuse became his normal attitude to myself. Always wishing to place our Children first who deserved to have both parents--why did I even think 'BOTH' when he wasn't there to help with homework or encouraging after school activities. Now that I am nearing 90yrs & wishing to rejoin with some of our Adult Family's (having returned to my native Land some 10yrs ago from Australia) on raising my hopes & expecting positive response's I have been left Sad & heart broken even mentally depressed. Should I just accept this defeat after always being a determined person. As I just have this need to be held close to my own flesh & blood. I throw this declaration out into the sight of your Members.ViewDate:
2nd Oct 2017fifer90 commented on:
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