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29th Feb 2020Firefly123 commented on:
"really" making new friends!Ohhh Lily I so relate with your experience of joining groups with the aim of making some new friends. Tried all kinds of groups just like you and came away feeling more lonely and isolated and downright disappointed. One art group I joined were of same category of people as myself.....retired, children grown, age 68 up-wards etc. i introduced myself to each member of the group asking their names etc. At the end of the 10 week course I could not recall any of their names because they never spoke to me and I gave up trying to speak to them but I did create some fantastic artwork. Well taking the advice of my daughter I got a dog for various reasons. That was three years ago. Eureka....last week i met another dog walker and we got chatting. He was polite, friendly and did not seem to be in a rush to move off like most other dog walkers i had come spoke to in the past who only shared pleasantries then quickly rushed off to get on with their day. Long story short we met up to walk our dogs and chat each day. We got on well together and conversation was two sided. Got to point were he gave me a little hug upon parting after our walks. I did not see this as strange because I do hug my friends and I considered him to be a friend. Secretly I was thrilled......I HAD FOUND A FRIEND????? On a very rainy,cold day, he invited me to his home for a coffee (he lived near by to where dog walk ended whereas I drove to the walk). Still seeing him as a friend who i was relaxed with and trusted, I accepted his invitation. Big mistake on my part!!!!!! Coffee was lovely, among other things, talked about his family and wife he had lost to cancer nine months ago. Our dogs were getting on well together. All was well, then he called me into the kitchen and when i was near enough to him to gave me a hug. Now this was not a parting hug between friends. Warning bells came on....then he kissed me one the lips. It was so unexpected and took me totally by surprise i was unable to say anything. Of course i was unresponsive and managed to pull away. Well good grief, we were not singing from the same hymn sheet. Shocked is an understatement......So disappointed at not having found a friend at all. So Lily just goes to show the length some of us go to, chances we take to avoid being lonely and feeling isolated. So this experience drove me to silversurfers and I had the pleasure of reading your post Lily which i so identify with. Thank you so muchViewDate:
29th Feb 2020Firefly123 commented on:
Pen palsHello surfers I am new to this site an looking forward to communicating with people and getting to to them. I am 68, live on my own with my precious dog who is my constant companion. I adore her. Have one daughter and a grandson who I seldom see as they lead very busy lives. Still see my ex-husband every now and then but he is not one for talking....part of the reason why we got divorced many years ago. In all honesty I must admit that I am quite lonely and need to connect with people. There is only so much I can say to my precious dog!!!!! Will reply to all posts. All who read this post: "Have a rewarding and prosperous day" My favorite quote is "When the pupil is ready the teacher will appear" Bear in mind we are either teacher or pupil at any given time.