hyperbod's bioThe mirror tells me that I've no chance. Inside my head its a different story, things to do, places to be seen, life to be lived and enjoyed.... but the recent loss of the woman I was to spend the rest of my life with has adjusted those thoughts somewhat. I hope to start again one day, but of course time is running out.
Otherwise I still do a bit of work, bike ride, read, eat even. I like being creative, seeing new things. But when it comes to technology, there are some useful devices and some really annoying ones . I haven't strayed too far into that world.
Not keen on sport.............
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12th Jul 2019hyperbod commented on:
Win ONE of THREE pairs of Mobileyesthat was meant to be whole......... not awhile . spellcheck.......hmmmmViewDate:
12th Jul 2019hyperbod commented on:
Win ONE of THREE pairs of MobileyesActually ... although glasses very useful, I could do with awhile new head.ViewDate:
8th Jul 2019hyperbod commented on:
Silversurfers Dating SiteNow living on my own I seem to be almost continuously on the lookout for a diversion or something to look forward to in the near future. It is a way of coping and trying to get through time when previously I hated the thought of time racing away. So I still try to work, give the days a purpose. Its become a habit to turn the computer on at least twice a day and check the emails in case there has been a message, something exciting that isn't lighting.com telling me about their new range of lightbulbs. These posts seem to develop great spaces in them, sometimes weeks or months between comments and then maybe a little rush of comments. My first reply in June was to a post of March 2017! But this was a series that was relevant to me in some ways. Somehow the threads or posts themselves are rather elusive, and although not lost are not easy to find, and only used be a very few?ViewDate:
24th Jun 2019hyperbod commented on:
Do you feel lonely?still nothing! So much for the lonely............ViewDate:
23rd Jun 2019hyperbod commented on:
Silversurfers Dating SiteDon't give up! This dating thing is fraught with problems. So many people want 'perfect' and by the time any of us reach 50 plus what really are the chances of that?! The written statement is so easily misunderstood. Very easy not to see ourselves as others see us. I have seen myself enough times in the mirror to know that at 69 my best chances , if any, will be helped by heavy shadow and poor vision. What I wanted to say was that in 2001 I embarked on the dating scene. It was simpler then, there was a locally run agency.... and you got a list of numbers and brief descriptions. It was up to you to call and chat and take it from there.... sounds too easy? I must have met about 30 ladies over the months, all in public places, all genuine. Sometimes we would get on quite well, sometimes it was a straight thumbs down and back in their car from her! I was never that blunt, but always knew if it was going to be a strained meeting. Never the same face to face, even after several phone conversations. Did eventually have a relationship that lasted for a couple of years, but it was on and off. I found I was being changed into someone I didn't want to be, and eventually it ended. Back on the road again and on a chat site a bit like this, (Saga) I was messaged by a lady living quite nearby, we met and we never looked back. We were always going to be together. Two years ago, both of us with cancer, things looked bleak. But I survived... prostate. She, bowel cancer, also clear. However, reason for this long story, as the tragic result of a simple reversal operation I am again alone as of a couple of months ago. Far too soon to be looking for anyone else, she was my life. But sometime in the future I would want someone to love and support, to hug and to hold. Its a human nature thing. But, older, bald, physically diminished.......... what are the chances!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!hyperbod commented on:
Have you had a cancer scare?me and my partner back in 2017. I am still going.... sort of wish I wasn't sometimes..... but due a lack of hospital care my partner didn't survive a relatively simple follow up operation.hyperbod commented on:
Worried about husband!Its a difficult one. Maybe you are just living with a friend, and that is how it is going to be? Difficult to accept, but it sounds as though the physical side of your marriage is important to you. Sometimes there are options , but it does depend on who you are. I was in a marriage for about 23 years and the last 12 must have been pretty much like that, I felt my life had been wasted. All the good years when I was the only one up for it. Separated in 2001, eventually divorced, then after 6 years and a brief but unsatisfactory relationship found the love of my life... as they say. So after a tremendous wait happiness came at last. Then in 2017 got prostate cancer..... so that put an end to that. Still keep going though, but partner also got a cancer, was sorted out, but then died this April after a short but straightforward operation. So sometimes life is just what it is, 'a bitch' Sorry, I have been no help, but maybe after hearing this you won't feel quite as bad? Good luck.hyperbod commented on:
Prostate cancerthese posts seem to just peter out.... whats been happening to HowardJ2 since 9/11/18? Hopefully a successful outcome? There is a lot of cancer about, we are in that age. Me, radical prostectomy in 2017. I seem to be alright now, but various previously enjoyable bits of me now redundant. My partner, she had bowel cancer the same year, a bad time for us. Got over that, but decided to have the stoma reversed, and died in hospital at the end of this April. So now an even worse time.... it isn't always the big op that gets you.hyperbod commented on:
cornish piskie showcase imageI am fairly sure we were here about this time last year. I use my picture as a 'wallpaper' for the computer, but it has me and my partner there as well. A very happy day last June,hyperbod commented on:
Dating After BereavementVery apposite comments. I have just lost the love of my life. We were together for nearly 12 years, having both come out of unhappy marriages, so we found out what happiness really was. But even now, feeling lost and empty, I cannot imagine spending the rest of my days alone. Maybe I will, time will tell. One day it will all be over, but there has to hope. Certainly there will be feelings of guilt and disloyalty, but there are all those other feelings too. Dum spiro spero........ as someone muttered .hyperbod commented on:
Silversurfers Forum: "How To" GuideI registered with Silversurfers over a year ago, I can't remember why as I was in happy relationship so didn't feel the need to 'chat' or find friends. I think I was seduced by the opportunity to share pictures of art work, or the chance of 'offers'. Anyway, I hadn't used the site for anything, but knew it was there because of the occasional Surfers email that drifted into the mail box to remind me. Now, however, I find my self recently and suddenly bereaved...... dazed, lonely despite having friends nearby........... just lost. I still retain a sense of humour, and the view that life is to be enjoyed. It will get better. Maybe this will lead to something . The world was different when I chose my online nom da plume!hyperbod commented on:
Do you feel lonely?yes, looking at this particular thread years seem to pass between comments. What was the chatting to be about? I know the subject is loneliness but will it be each of us bemoaning that fact? I wonder how Rawhideranch and Lonelyandblue have got on since their posts........ Maybe life has improved and they no longer feel the need for support, or did they give up? I find a certain comfort in the fact that in a few years time none of this will matter to me. I also find it sad!!!ViewDate:
28th Mar 2018hyperbod commented on:
Searching & Finding People, Friends, Ancestors UKFor years I have wondered about the whereabouts of Andy Howarth..silversmith... royal college of art 1977. Someone that good should be easy to trace but so far no luck. We get to the other end of our lives just wanting to know how it went for past friends.
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