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13th Feb 2019Branchingout commented on:
Washed up and washed outHi Andy, I just noticed the date of your post and so hopefully these several months on you are putting some measures in place for a better life by now. Just to second what you say yes I fully understand how lost you would have been feeling. Because you'd been with your wife for such a long time I'm sure it was initially very challenging to function maybe practically or emotionally (maybe both) without defaulting to the old way of living. There's no denying that it can be utterly exhausting to start anew. We can be hampered by the aftermath of rejection, the loss of 'someone' even if it was a dysfunctional relationship, plus the overall experience of having to bury the nostalgia. The brain does us no favours does it when it starts only to filter the good at first even when the relationship has had its fair share of problems. I think maybe accept that it does take time before you get your sealegs and you can't shouldn't try to rush the natural process. I think even though there were issues in your marriage, you need to grieve and confront its ending. Mental healing will bring physical improvement. A good start is what you have done, by joining here. In the meantime, keep building yourself up with vitamins and nourishing meals, go for walks, talk to people in shops or walking, don't let your self esteem crumble, make lists of things you would love to have done and haven't. Maybe join a local Meet Up?