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16th Oct 2022silverteddybear commented on:
Looking for like minded friends to chat withHello. I'm in the UK. My husband died suddenly , with no warning, 4 years ago. He was very fit and had no health problems - or so I thought. Then, one day he was sick at work and came home. 20 minutes later he died. He had a blood clot which went to his heart and blocked it. he was only 56. Then I lost a pet and 3 months later my dad died. I lost 2 more pets a year later and my mum died of dementia. My sisters cut me off because I was grieving too much. I can't get a job and found I couldn't cope. So, I was put in a unit where I got no help whatsoever. 4 years on and I'm still crying. I have no support from anyone. Doctor, sisters, family etc all don't bother. I lost all my friends when they got married and the neighbours where I live are not nice. So, I too am lonely. People have said it is a good idea to join clubs. Here in the UK we have University of the third age in most areas where we live and you can do activities like chess, knitting, book club. I went to one and I felt really old and on the scrap heap. I didn't go back. 4 years on after my husband's passing and I feel so lost with no direction. Older people where I live don't make friends. I was on Gransnet - another forum like this one - and 2 people contacted me and started talking but they didn't talk much so I gave up. There isn't a single day where I haven't missed my husband, my mum and dad and my pets. The pain is unbearable. So, I just thought I'd let you know that you are not alone in your feelings. It is really a struggle I find. If you have found any answers please let me know. I try to plan a task for each day and tick them off so that I get a sense of purpose.