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11th Mar 2021PDurrant commented on:
Speakers Corner CommentsHas the pandemic changed your opinion of care homes and social care for old people in general? If so, how?ViewDate:
29th Jan 2020PDurrant commented on:
Worried about MILI've only just joined SilverSurfers (was trying to deny my age!) and I can see this is an old post but maybe people are still reading it. There has been research done about going into care homes and almost no one wants to - everyone wants to stay in their own home but think they don't have a choice. But there is a choice - you can have a carer come daily to your home or even live with you - and I don't mean the social services supplied carers who are only allocated 15 minutes and it's always someone different who turns up each time (been there with my Dad). Neither is it as expensive as people think - I'd say check the cost of homecare or live-in care before you assume you can't afford it. My Mum paid £1,200 per week (that's per week!) when my Dad was in a care home for 8 weeks rehabilitating after a fall but when he came home they found a lovely carer privately (but on a social services approved list) who came to the house for several hours a day. When he passed away some months later it was in his own bed, his own home and with his family there. The 8 weeks he spent in the care home was enough for us all to know he would have hated living there full-timeViewDate:
29th Jan 2020PDurrant commented on:
Full Time CarerTotally agree with Sally too Carers need time off even when they are caring for family - if you don't look after your own physical and mental health how will you be able to look after your mum? Maybe mention that to your brothers - what would happen if you are taken ill? But don't pussy-foot around the conversation and become bitter - just ask your brothers outright if they will either provide respite care themselves or pay for someone else to do it.