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9th Apr 2020Janel1948 commented on:
Step Mothercassien, we must be related. My father had an affair when my parents were married. In fact, he introduced me to her once when he took me to dinner. She was conveniently at the restaurant. I was 15 at the time. My parents divorced a month later. I had nothing against this woman; I just wanted my parents to be happy. This woman was friendly to me, but had no children of her own. I never found it easy to relate to her. She was simply my father's wife. I had no relationship with my father (his choice) so I rarely saw either of them. I married, had children. My father died in 1982 and his wife remarried 10 years later. That husband died. My father's wife just died at the age of 93. My brother asked about how to list me in the obit. I didn't want the word 'stepmother' used as the woman and I were never close. My brother distanced himself from age 20 and now is reaching out to my adult children. They make their own decisions about how to handle this. It does irk me he is doing this after 50 years of ignoring me. My point with this explanation is that people show you who they are. Granted, your 'stepmother' is lonely. Sometimes the hurt is too great and like they say, 'you can't go home again.'ViewDate:
9th Apr 2020Janel1948 commented on:
"really" making new friends!That happened to me, too. Some people are just desperate that they miss the signals. He sure did. Did you confront him about this? I sure would. It would be a good experience for you.ViewDate:
9th Apr 2020Janel1948 commented on:
"really" making new friends!Lily49, it is hard to make friends after a certain age. If you are living in a senior community I imagine it is much easier but then you have the opportunity for some intrusive friends perhaps. I relocated to be closer to my daughter 20 months ago. It is hard to make friends in New England. The experience you have had is quite common. People go to activities for a singular purpose and then leave. What is sad for them is that when their relationships end, they are lost. I would consider it a blessing that these people haven't tried to engage you. Be particular. There are friendly people out there who want to meet others. What state are you in?