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3rd Jul 2023Riolassy commented on:
Holidays with dogThere are friendly groups that run rallies in many areas, and very cheap too. I am member of Mustang caravanners based in Lincolnshire, and Retired caravanners, who have groups around uk. Both very helpful. Also there are groups for people who travel alone. They all welcome newcomers, and have very low priced membership.ViewDate:
6th Apr 2021Riolassy commented on:
Talking on the phone during a family meal. OK ....or not?I wouldn't like it, it spoils any chance you may have had to chat together, and it feels rude to be put in the position, where you are waiting in vain for the conversation to end. But to some this is normal life, and if you say something, they think your the rude one. Some have a phone like an extension to their hand, its always there. And some put it down only to keep checking it every few minuits. I know it makes me feel unimportant to them, and if there were 3 people together and two of them chatted constantly ignoring the third, well, its the same effect really.ViewDate:
6th Apr 2021Riolassy commented on:
Families of carersHave you tried a google search? There must be quite a few forums, and with tips, advice or just chat. I was thinking, actually, that there should be a national carer's day, not for paid workers but families and volunteerers, who dont get paid for giving up their lives for someone else. It should be remembered and acknowledged that it is a duty of love, but one that totally changes their whole life, and like yourself, affects others around them. I took my dad in after my mum died, he lived 13 years, which got progressively harder, and with a young family of which one was severly asthmatic, it was hard with no other family or outside help from anyone. Try not to get too down, lock down is ending soon, and things are going to change. your local council may have advice on forums for carers, or maybe on line libraries in your area. Soon things like WI will be starting back up again, or church hall type keep fit, etc, may help you from feeling lonely. I am sure others' on here will have been through similar, and may have other ideas for you. Maybe you will be able to visit soon.ViewDate:
6th Apr 2021Riolassy commented on:
HelloWhat do you like to chat about? I hope its not politics, covid, etc, or sport! (lol)ViewDate:
6th Apr 2021Riolassy commented on:
Just joined and looking for like minded friendsHi, Jazz, you sound very fit and healthy, with all those active hobbies. I love being out doors too, using an ebike when weather permits. Your little cottage and location sounds a dream, I hope the move brings you a lot of friends and happiness. I live much further north, just outside Sheffield, so the contrast from your area is quite considerable, though I do have a largish garden with fruit trees and a few chickens. I hope you get lots of replies.ViewDate:
6th Apr 2021Riolassy commented on:
CyclingYes, after over 50 years not cycling, I got an ebike to do the converted railway line and country park near where I live. At first I thought 'there's no fool like an old fool', but I soon got the hang of it again, and the motor helped with hills and when I got tired. The freedom is fantastic, and fresh air, nature, its all wonderful, even the aches are doing me good, using muscles that got forgotten years ago!ViewDate:
6th Apr 2021Riolassy commented on:
Cycling on pavements and in parksI am a 68 years old lady, with a little e bike. I have baskets front and rear, in which I take my two tiny dogs. Please don't think us all inconsiderate. I am always giving way to pedesrtians, and always thank them if they do the same for me. I am saddened by the treatment you all seem to have had. But if these safe places to ride were taken away, then I would lose my hobby, and source of excersise, and the little old dogs their bit of fresh air. No, they cant walk, having various health problems before you assume I am not doing right by them. Many many people stop me for a chat, remarking how the dogs enjoy the ride. As most of my friends have now passed on, it is a wonderful way to have a little chat with passers by. Please don't think us all the same, we are not. If you ever go to Rother valley, look out for me, and the dogs. Say hello, or wave. Don't be angry with me just because I am a cyclist.ViewDate:
31st Aug 2020Riolassy commented on:
"really" making new friends!Yes, looking at what you have, rather than what you have not is a very good way to feel more satisfied, and if you have your health and strenght that is everything. I bet it is realy uplifting, seeing school friends again, and chatting about childhood, and the teachers! I never went to a re-union, after being bullied at school, and seeing on facebbok so many of them having high flying careers, and feeling fat and frumpy, it would be the last thing I wanted, to meet a dozen of them and be the outsider again. No thanks! It is hard when your family have been your whole life for decades, then they up and leave, and live far away. But some may wish to change places with you, not every family works well when living close. Maybe you should try ringing and arranging a coffee, even if they decline, your no worse off, and maybe there is a chance they want a break, and could say yes? Even if they say no, at least you have tried, and they know your thinking of them. How long till your back at work? As you say, soon be interacting, and also, less time to be bored!ViewDate:
31st Aug 2020Riolassy commented on:
"really" making new friends!Hi, Joannief59, it is sad, really, so many people who just need a friend, but cant get through. I think as we get older, we also get less trusting, especially with people you don't know. Out with my 2 tiny dogs, I usually get people commenting about them, especially if we are on the bike, after all its not everyday you see a strange woman with 2 dogs all on a bike! I do have a husband, but he's no company, he can go days without any conversation. He sits in another room, watching sports, and falling asleep. I was thinking once of contacting the friends page of the magazine 'Yours', but chickened out. I suppose, especially since lock down, that this is it, After a few years of being friendless, although I will chat to anyone, it will not happen, I cant replace the friends who I knew for many years and have lost, so I just get busy on my own most of the time. Many times I have got chatting to someone, and given them my email, or even phone nunber, saying I realy enjoyed chatting, lets do it again, and never heard from them. I do think it is a trust thing, we are wary of being conned, so it spoils the spontaneity, and we dont meet the same people enough to form a bond perhaps. Or maybe they are too busy and just forget. Anyway, it is very nice of you to have answered, appreciated. I think we have all had less time for friends once we meet a partner, unfortunately this is how it often goes, but we soon remember them when it gets tough again. And some frienships are very one sided, as in its only one person doing all the contacting. Hope you soon feel a bit better, at least lock down has eased somewhat now.ViewDate:
31st May 2020Riolassy commented on:
Lost LoveAll this is a normal response to greif, and its a process we all have to go through, either with people or even pets. Be patient with your self, this is all new and very sore. Try to be busy, reach out to family and friends, and do take courage in the fact it will get easier, time realy does heal. Sending you kind thoughts.ViewDate:
31st May 2020Riolassy commented on:
Make new friendsI'd love to chat by emai. I'm 68, married, and have lost almost all my friends over the last 8 years.ViewDate:
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31st May 2020Riolassy commented on:
Hair lose and sensitive skinCoffee does darken slightly, and is used as an after towel drying spray. Please dont use instant, this makes it sticky!ViewDate:
31st May 2020Riolassy commented on:
Pineapple Face MaskI now avoid eating pineapple, kiwi, and grapefruit as they seem to burn my mouth. I googled it, it appears certain fruits have a slight reaction with proteins, so I can believe pineapple has smoothed your skin. Thanks for the tip, it is bound to be healthier than chemicals.ViewDate:
31st May 2020Riolassy commented on:
Food shopping during Coronavirus pandemicMy husband is similar. We have self isolated from each other constantly, in the same house, for years. I think as we get older, we get more set in our ways, and its harder to see others' views, and I'm not excusing rude or inconsiderate behaviour. These incidents, though seemingly small on the outside, are very upsetting. They do give an indication of how a person will react in circumstances, and what we expect is often very different from what we get. This is not insurmountable, all couples have difrences, but learning from his behaviour, do you really want to continue if he didn't consider you or your feelings? Another thing, I learned long ago that whoever is the person pushed out of the relationship suffers most. Its like a rejection thing, usually not deserved. Or maybe a punishment for upsetting them? Dont accept the punishment, prove you are worth more, and move on if that is what you want to do. The confusion over love 'you one minuit, reject you another minuit,' is a pattern to some, and there is often some baggage from previous relationships. So, its always not about you. Keep well.ViewDate:
31st May 2020Riolassy commented on:
"really" making new friends!I know exactly what you mean. I began feeling inferior, and stopped trying. I just spoke to people in passing while walking the dogs, but it was the dogs that got the attention. Its hard when your not in a regular environment to keep mixing with people. 2 hours a week in a class is not frequent enough, and when your the newby it is hard to break into groups, I think waiting for another newcomer to join is the only chance, but it is a slim one. The best time I had was making tea at a church hall, waiting on the tables got me talking to lots of people every week, but no real friendships, after all, they brought their friends with them! Feel free to contact me if you want to chat,ViewDate:
6th Feb 2020Riolassy commented on:
My latest kitchen gadget. A digital pressure cookerI cook a whole chicken in it, then brown/crisp it off in the halogen oven. I never have any doubts about it being cooked through after . And its deliciuosly moist and tender, with lovely stock for my next soup or gravy.ViewDate:
6th Feb 2020Riolassy commented on:
CyclingSorry I dont know the area, so not much help there. I use an e bike, without it I wouldn't be biking at all. I was told that almost any bike can be converted, there is a kit available. I believe you need a new back wheel that contains the motor, then you have a wire that goes to the handle bar. There will be more to it than just this, but may be worth looking into?ViewDate:
6th Feb 2020Riolassy commented on:
Tea?I make 'rainbow ' tea! Its yorkshire tea (black), green tea, white tea, and red bush! I tear open the horrid plasticky tea bags, then mix one part each of green white and red to 3 parts black, keep this in a vintage caddy, then make my tea using an old fashioned tiny tea pot, complete with a cosy, use a strainer, and china cup! I'm getting the benefit of the other teas, but it tastes just like ordinary tea, realy, and makes the drink seem more special.ViewDate:
19th Mar 2016Riolassy commented on:
Calling all Chorkie dog owners!Yes, I have a most lovable little black chorkie, he's the best thing to cheer me up, get me out walking, and, is he attention seeking? Well, not when he's asleep! I've never laughed as much, or been as happy in years! He's 9 months old now, and has the most happy little personality ever. He's got long black fur, and a face like a little muppet/gremlin/teddybear/Chewbacca, and I love him to bits! He's internet dating with a lady who has a little chiwawa, sending photos, etc, and 'getting married' so to speak in august. Bless him, pimping him out, already, lol.ViewDate:
19th Mar 2016Riolassy commented on:
Falling standardsUnfortunately, it had the reverse effect on me. I grew up shy, awkward in social events, and no confidence in myself. This caused me to doubt my abilities, and hinder any career I could have had. After fostering teenagers recently, what a difference! I wish I had as much confidence at that age, and been as outspoken (not rude). Maybe a mixture of the two ways, but nothing is ideal for everyone, is it.ViewDate:
19th Mar 2016Riolassy commented on:
November 5thWe adopted 2 cats from a sanctuary, after being told they had to be homed together, too. They totally avoided each other, slept separately, wouldn't go through doorway at same time, etc. My daughter eventually took one, and they both settled down much better, and developed different, more loving personalities. I had hers back each time she went on holiday, and they preferred seperate rooms!ViewDate:
19th Mar 2016Riolassy commented on:
Memories of the Summer holidays in the 70sYes, the freedom we had, and felt safe, too! Other adults weren't scared to help us, or tell us off if we misbehaved! Seems like a different world, now.ViewDate:
19th Mar 2016Riolassy commented on:
Photogrpahy KitIs it that, when time or money limit us, then the rewards of doing something, feel greater. When its more easily available, its not as valuable? Finding a different hobby for a while, you may go back to the photography with renewed interest after.ViewDate:
19th Mar 2016Riolassy commented on:
Borrowing books from your local libraryI think the library has some online books in Derbyshire, but I haven't tried it yet, I will have to look it out, thanks for the reminder.ViewDate:
19th Mar 2016Riolassy commented on:
Model boat racingSounds fun, and not too energetic, lol. Do you ever get to Rothervalley?ViewDate:
19th Mar 2016Riolassy commented on:
Travel plans up in smokeYou are a very kind and caring parent, and with having to help out my children too, I know the sacrifices. Hopefully you'll get to Paris next year, good luck!ViewDate:
19th Mar 2016Riolassy commented on:
I would like to make new friends for general conversation onlyHi, catcarer, you live in a beautiful part of England, where we love to tour in our motor home on holidays. I would love to chat with you, feel free to private message me.ViewDate:
18th Oct 2015Riolassy commented on:
Childhood HolidaysAt 5 years old, I broke my collar bone the 1st day in Blackpool, so spent the rest of the week in hospital, in a metal contraption of sorts. The following year, my brother erupted in chicken pox, so he was isolated in hospital for his holiday, to avoid affecting the other guests in the boarding house I suppose. We never went back to Blackpool!ViewDate:
18th Oct 2015Riolassy commented on:
Would you like to turn back time?Yes, I would like to go back. As an adult, to visit my family, see my mum and dad again. Also, I think if I could visit me, when I was a child, maybe I could try to encourage the confidence that was lacking and has always held me back. Love to see our old dog again. Yes, things are better, but we have also lost so much.ViewDate:
16th Oct 2015Riolassy commented on:
Has the magic of Christmas diminished?Yes, its such a shame when true value is unimportant, kicked aside for something to show off with. There have been at least 2 generations now that have been commercially lead. I hope it will change back to better values, but afraid I wont be here to see it.