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16th Mar 2016 23:37:43
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Why should you care if he wants to drink, He does not care about how you feel. if he wants to view life through the bottom of a glass let him get on with it, just ignore it and get on enjoying your life. He only has himself to blame if drinking damages his health.
Happy Ted
6th Feb 2016 00:27:44
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In our sixties we have lived through good times and hard times, probably raised children and have certainly seen life so if his drinking does not lead to anti social behavior enjoy the now.
Response from Angel48 made on 8th Feb 2016 00:38:55
Having worked as a doctor and having seen what alcohol can do to health, I find that comment extremely unhelpful. However thank you for voicing it, you have a right to your opinion.
Response from bobby47 made on 3rd Mar 2016 20:23:13
i had a triple bypass and used to drink every night..i was lucky i got a way with it..i still have a beer at weekends moderation and i enjoy it much more
18th Feb 2016 20:21:01
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I sympathise with your concern for your partner's health but speaking personally, I would not consider a tea-totaller to be boyfriend/ why material simply because I too enjoy wine and alcohol. I can say that I have made a conscious effort to reduce my imbibing because if you have a taste for the stuff (probably genetic) it can get a hold on some of us (and I'm not casting aspersions on your partner here).
I am twice widowed and live alone and wine can certainly become something to look forward to when you're in front of the tv and feel like treating yourself.....The other issue is weight gain of course and this may be more of a health problem than the actual alcohol because the fatter you are, the less affected you are by the intoxicants. I belong to a monthly Wine appreciation group-informal not Jancis Robinson types-and perhaps you could find something similar for your partner to enjoy. Many of the wineshop chains (Majestic, Tanners, etc) hold regular tasting events and you could go along and ask for a soft drink youself. They would be delighted because your partner might buy....
13th Feb 2016 23:00:46
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Short and sweet so easy to answer: Yes
john stewart
5th Feb 2016 19:46:40
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nice of you to be concerned.
Response from Angel48 made on 8th Feb 2016 00:41:02
It would seem that my concern is unwanted, I therefore say nothing now, but have to watch him drinking every day and have the consequential behaviour
Response from john stewart made on 8th Feb 2016 06:37:35
dont worry be happy. sure he knows what hes doing. carry on regardless
5th Feb 2016 14:18:04
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A whole bottle every evening is a problem I'd say .. Maybe he's bored or fed up ?
Response from Angel48 made on 8th Feb 2016 00:39:32
I have asked him and he says not.

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