Aspergers Syndrome
Watch this postIt would be helpful if anyone has or has had a partner or relative with Aspergers, its affect and how you coped. I remarried very late in life not being aware there was a possibility of my husband having Aspergers. I understand there are many symptoms and, unfortunately, the ones affecting my husband broke the marriage after only seven years. Now living alone and still loving him, I sometimes feel guilty that I couldn't cope and many times question if I should have been able to help more. I'm so interested to know the affect this problem has had on others.
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I don't think you should feel guilty at finding yourself in a situation you hadn't anticipated or had experience of and thus felt unable to cope. As you continue to have deep feelings for him, there may be organisations that could give you more insight and support to help with understanding.
Life was dire with him but the occasional guilt stems from parting from a man who had no idea what was wrong. I will look for organisations connected as you suggested. Many thanks for replying.
I think there are many people like your ex-husband who probably were not diagnosed sufficiently to get the help needed. If I recall correctly Aspergers was first separated as a sub-section of Autism in 1944 but there still appears to be confusion regarding the condition.