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Raindrop
6th Jan 2019 16:44:38
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Hi so sorry for the loss of your wife, everything is probably still very raw and unbelievable at the moment for you but trust me when I say you will learn to come to terms with your loss in your own way. I lost my darling husband suddenly last March, we had been married for over 42 years and I was dreading Christmas this year but I`ve come through it and out the other side with my families help. Some one once told me they still cry for their partner all the time even after 4 years had passed. This frightened me at first but most nights I understand what she means. Don`t be afraid to ask for help and do talk about her all the time, remembering the good times and funny things she said this will help you I`m sure. There are loads of emotions you will go through and they are all normal. Sorry once again.
CaroleAH
5th Jan 2019 22:29:44
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Hello fhsgb - please accept my sincere condolences on your unexpected bereavement. I'm pleased that your family are rallying round to help you. I agree with Ecarg below. I know through experience (I lost my elder sister, many years ago but it feels like yesterday, unexpectedly when she was only 43) that a lot of people may avoid you because they simply don't know what to say. You are now going to go through a year of "firsts" - birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, Christmas etc without your beloved wife but you will come through as you will have many happy memories of the times you had together and the love you shared. Don't be afraid to seek help if you need it and do let us know how you get on.
ecarg
5th Jan 2019 19:44:12
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Although we are strangers I know how fragile you must be feeling,we all cope with bearevment in are own ways,and you will find that you will find the strength to cope.
I found that platitudes and sympathy actually made me more upset,I responded better to those who would share happy memories and move on to other subjects of a day to day nature.

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