caring for an aged parent
Watch this postHi to all. I have just joined and am a full time carer for my mother who is 87 and is high care. My social life is just about non existent I retried 1 1/2 years ago and imagined my retirement to be different. I live in Australia. I’m still trying to work out how this all works. Would love a reply to see it I’ve done this correctly.
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I look back with amusement many decades, when my father got into a big argument with his brother. My father thought that he and his brother should assume care for my grandfather, though that older person was younger than I am now. The brother disagreed.
My big failing with postings is that I can get too wordy, so it's time to stop.
It's great that you still manage to do your shopping by walking to the shops - most people, myself included, simply jump in the car! As you are obviously computer literate have you thought about getting one of the big supermarkets to deliver your weekly shop especially in the winter when the pavements may be icy and hazardous? Also, many pharmacies not only deliver your medication but will also order it from your GP so that might save you some time - I'm thinking of times when you might not want to venture out but would rather sit with your feet up. 🙂
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I am myself now 87 and pray to God that i can keep going on my own.
Whilst I have my husband to help and carers for bathing, I find the whole of my way of life revolves around organising things for Mum! Appointments, pick ups, drop offs, clock watching! I totally understand how you are looking forward to an hour of pampering!
At the moment I feel especially frustrated as we've recently had 2 new grandchildren in 3 weeks, but Mum is put out that, for once, she isn't the centre of attention and gets very sulky if I go to visit them without her. This is a parent who found 40 miles a long way to travel to see her grandchildren! I had always resolved that I wouldn't be like my parents.
Last Saturday my husband and I went out together for the first time in ages but the organisation to get a Granny sitter nearly defeated me! Our retirement is on hold, we can't plan anything and my brother and sister in law can't do as mucg respite next year
what a challenging job you have taken on in your retirement and I hope it is rewarding. Do you get much support from any agencies with your mothers care? Do you have Social Services or similar in Australia? Have a lovely day 🙂