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Four years ago my husband ended our marriage and we separated. Soon after he asked me for a list of family birthdays etc. I should say that during our 35 year marriage I bought and arranged family gifts etc and paid with our joint credit card. I even arranged gifts for his female work staff. We are still married but live separately.
I have continued to buy modest gifts for family and send cards for birthdays, new baby etc. When I was ending a condolence card to a friend he asked if I would include his name and I did, on that occasion, although I felt it inappropriate. Each Christmas we have words over my wish to send gifts separately as I cannot bring myself to write “from X and X” which I feel is understandable. Last year we split them and I bought for female family members and he for the males (which probably meant money in a card).
As Christmas is approaching I want to sort this once and for all… his view is that we are still Auntie and Uncle whereas I feel that they know we are no longer together and will understand presents from both separately. I think he really can’t be bothered to buy for them all as he never used to but I want to present as an individual and single person (which I am).
My daughters think if it annoys him then I am being unreasonable… what do you think?
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