Dating know how advice please
Watch this postI have never asked a lady out for a date. Partly for fear of rejection and partly to save them the embarrassment of saying "no". Too late now of course but it would be interesting to know how other gentlemen cope with this dilemma.
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I always remember years ago someone saying to me - it was nothing to do with dating - "well, no-one else going to market you, you have to do it yourself". Since then I've never had any problem with communicating with either sex.
If they don't want to know they will be honest with you as you are with them - male or female.
I think most women don't mind a man showing interest, if it's genuine and honest.
Luckily, through my late teens and twenties, I found that girls were attracted to me and they would ask me out. I think playing guitar in a band helped. I married the girl of my dreams when I was 29. I had seen her walking down the road a few months before and fell instantly in love. She happened to know a friend of mine and we met at a party. I couldn't ask her out as rejection would have been devastating. But luckily, she felt the same about me, asked around, got my phone number, called and asked me out. I still feel the same about her now. I look at her and wonder why she picked me.
Unfortunately, recently we have been having problems and she has gone. I miss her dearly and hope that we can one day sort out our problems.
But have faith. One day the right person will come along.
I suppose in the age group you mention there are more women, or so we are told, and is therefore not easy being a single senior lady and on that basis it should not be difficult for a chap. I have been trying to "give it a go" for some time but when it comes to the crunch it becomes the Woody Allen scenario. You often hear about people having "exes" in the plural as if it were normal to just jump in and out of relationships almost by the dozen. Not being able to find even one is both pathetic and frustrating. It makes you feel as if you are somehow not part of society.
Nil desperandum. Something will turn up.