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Dating After Losing Partner

I would be interested to hear other people’s thoughts on dating again after losing a spouse. I lost my partner over a year ago. I am very lonely, but in two minds as to whether I should date again. Even thinking about it makes me feel guilty. I am 58.


Created By on 10/03/2019

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CaroleAH
10th Mar 2019 23:17:43 (Last activity: 11th Mar 2019 12:31:59)
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Thanks for voting!
Hi,
I don't think that you should feel guilty at all DD1959. In today's world you are still a young person and there's no reason why you should spend the next 30 or more years alone and lonely. I think that people who have had a happy marriage are often the ones who want to find another partner because they want to replicate what they had before. This can cause problems for a prospective partner who perhaps feels as though they have to live up to a "perfect" image but as long as you are sensitive and treat each person as an individual it will be okay. Good luck! 🙂
Response from Gk59 made on 11th Mar 2019 11:49:40
Thanks CaroleAH, that is very good advice and has given me something to think about.
Response from DD1959 Original Poster made on 11th Mar 2019 11:54:37
Wise words indeed CaroleAH. I think my problem is I worry too much about what other people would think, and particularly what my children would think.
Response from CaroleAH made on 11th Mar 2019 12:31:59
Thank-you for your kind comments. I often think that it is easier for people to be judgemental than it is for them to try and understand the crushing loneliness that follows a bereavement or separation/divorce. Surely family and friends would rather see you happy than miserable?
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