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Dating Websites

Why do people lie when compiling their profile for a dating website? What do they hope to achieve? I have recently read two profiles in which the person (male) has been either economical with the truth or has exaggerated accomplishments which he hasn't got. In one profile the writer, who I know, has suddenly acquired hobbies such as canoeing and rock-climbing. In all the years I have known him, he has never been near a canoe or even a rowing-boat for that matter - and the gardening and cooking - forget it! As for the rock-climbing - he is afraid of heights!  In the other profile the person says that he does not have children - yet on a different site he mentions a daughter. I know that we would all like prospective partners to think the best of us and possibly be the ideal match BUT is lying at the start of a relationship a good idea? I think not - which is why, although I occasionally browse on these sites, I have never been tempted to join. Odd spells of loneliness are much preferable to mistrust and the more outlandish the declarations, surely the sooner the truth will out. Now, where are those ropes and crampons 😉 Oh, and by the way, I'm sure that women lie just as often as men - don't want to appear sexist!


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artyguy
26th Sep 2017 11:57:03
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i must admit i have tried a couple of dating sites always been dissapointed go to meet the woman in the photo and find out they have all been fake
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gwynp
12th Mar 2017 20:18:47 (Last activity: 13th Mar 2017 08:17:57)
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Hi Carole, we both and (I hope others do also) that it is not dating and friendship that most are after. I have some female friends who I used to work with who are on some 'dating' sites and the things that they tell me that they are told is son unbelievable, though sadly many do believe what they are told.

P.S, I am male lol
Response from CaroleAH Original Poster made on 13th Mar 2017 00:19:10
Hi Gwynp, I suppose that there are many genuine people on these dating websites who would love to meet someone and be "happy ever after" but, being an old cynic, I think that they are few and far between! My hairdresser, who is in her 50s, decided to join one of these "posh" dating agencies who come out and interview you and ask loads of intrusive questions. She then had an email from a fit-looking chap who complimented her extravagantly; he also said that he was in the SAS - alarm bells starting to ring. After a few more emails with loads of 'smooth-talking' and lots of xxxx's she received an urgent email from him saying that he had been on a mission in Africa and was stranded so could she send him some money. Fortunately, she is a down to earth Yorkshire lass who told him to go forth and multiply - perhaps not quite phrased like that 🙂 and she never heard from him again! But there are many people, both men and women, who are intelligent human beings yet they are taken in, hook, line and sinker, by these 'love-rats'. I don't know what the answer is, especially for older people who don't go to night-clubs and pubs but being alone is much better than wishing that you were!
Response from gwynp made on 13th Mar 2017 08:17:57
My friend has just had a similar experience a few days ago, Supposedly a French guy, who took a few weeks to get to his main objective of asking for money. He was 'lucky' enough to have a million pounds worth of gold bars in a safe deposit in Morocco and needed financial assistance to get it out.. He would then buy her a house and marry her. He had photos that he sent to her and also a Facebook profile all with photos of 'him' golfing. I did a number of searches on the internet and discovered that the photos of the person golfing were genuine, but just not of him, he was using some innocent guys photos. The dating site yesterday removed his profile and he is 'under investigation'. The problem is he will just rejoin under a different name and with different photos.
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CaroleAH Original Poster
1st Mar 2017 09:19:47 (Last activity: 1st Mar 2017 11:53:19)
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Definitely a case of "buyer beware", Lochinvar! Now this trip round the moon - I had assumed that the two passengers might be Sir Richard Branson and Sir Philip Green (spending the BHS pension contributions) but, if you are going, then I'm sure that the SS Showcase will be greatly enhanced with your photos!!!
Response from CaroleAH Original Poster made on 1st Mar 2017 11:53:19
Now wondering if you have turned over two pages of your calendar at the same time to April Fool's Day - you have brightened my day! Think it's coffee time. 🙂
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