Deputyship - need help
Watch this postMy mum has been diagnosed with Alzheimers and I need help with applying for deputyship. All suggestions welcomed.
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I used both extensively when I had care of my ageing MIL (who developed dementia).
You get not just information, but huge sympathy and support.
Sadly, with Alzheimers/dementia, you are setting out on a long and challenging journey. Learning from those who have, alas, 'got the T-shirt' may well be invaluable to you.
There is so much to learn, from how best to relate to someone with dementia, but also practical and financial matters as well (eg, Carers allowance, attendence allowance and so forth.)(and yes, things like power of attorney etc etc)
Carers UK (a charity) is for anyone who has any kind of care responsibility or role, whether its the parents of a child who needs care, or an elderly relative.
The forum is hugely supportive. Please check it out.
If you have siblings then it would be a good idea to get them involved as Deputys/Attorneys as well because then joint decisions can be made with no recriminations about how or why funds have been spent.
I hope/think that I am in good health but I have got Lasting Power of Attorney forms drawn up and registered for my daughters so that if I had an accident or a stroke and couldn't manage my affairs then they can take over even if it's only for a limited time until I recover.
Good luck!