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I haven't seen my son, aged 26, since 16th March. We made an arrangement to meet outside as soon as lockdown started to ease, but two days before my visit, his live in gf said he wasn't to see me as I might be infected. Naturally he took her side and I didn't go. Fast forward several weeks and I invited him down a couple of weeks ago. We only live about 45 miles from each other and I live alone, so I was naturally looking forward to seeing him. I had previously made the visit to my daughter a couple of weeks earlier and had had a lovely time. He told me he could only come down on the Sunday and when I asked him why not Saturday, he told me he was going to a birthday party. As my son seems to have the "I am invincible" attitude about COVID, and refuses to wear a mask, limit his time shopping etc, I was naturally concerned about my own health. I said we should postpone the visit then as I was concerned about him passing it on to me.
I have left the invitation open to him to visit when he's had a quiet couple of weeks at home, he's working from home, but no joy. It was actually his sister who said it might be an idea to check he's not socialising too much before we all meet for a birthday meal. It never occurred to me that he would be out n about so much. He has told her that he is furious with me, for what reason I have no idea, but won't pick up the phone. He said he had to go out with his mates as I am causing him so much mental stress, and the drinks were to help his mental health.
He refuses to speak about me to his sister, has completely cut me off, and I don't know why. My daughter has been made redundant and is under huge stress, although covering it well, so I am trying to sort this out without involving her, but if he won't speak to me, it's a bit difficult.
All I am asking him to do is have a quiet time so that he can reduce the possibility of passing it on to me, as I live alone, would have no one to care for me, am self employed and also a small menagerie of animals that rely on me.
Any suggestions welcome. I have made the trip to him three times this years before lockdown and I am not going to run up again. We have had fallings out before, any parent/child does, but this one is completely doing my head in and although I am trying to brush it off for my daughter's sake, it's clearly bothering her and she doesn't need it right now.
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