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When feelings and needs are not equal

I am really fortunate to be in great health and good shape at age 66, with no prescriptions needed. My wife, on the other hand, suffers from fibromyalgia ( a hard to pin down, but recognized problem that causes generalized pain and discomfort) and has a number of prescriptions. We are great companions and share many good times, good meals and laughs together. We have been married nine years now and her pain levels are worse than they were at first by far. All this leaves the intimacy level of our relationship at a very low level. My desire for intimacy is still quite high; hers is nearly non-existence. I don't expect any revelations to come from this post, but wonder is there are others here that deal with problems like this.


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CaroleAH
11th Jan 2019 09:42:02
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Hi Elsiemay,
Thank you for your kind thoughts. It was traumatic at the time and much worse followed but, 6 years later, it's water under the bridge and I'm happy with my independent life 🙂
CaroleAH
10th Jan 2019 14:55:50
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Hi Elsiemay,
I agree with you - what happened to "in sickness and in health" ? I was once rushed to hospital by ambulance with chest pains and when a colleague rang my partner he said "Thank you for letting me know - I'm not quite sure what you want me to do"! When I eventually drove myself home some 7 hours later his first words were "What are you making for supper?" The writing was on the wall and I can happily say that he is now my Ex!!! 🙂
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12th Feb 2017 21:46:12 (Last activity: 13th Feb 2017 18:57:40)
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Response from JamesRain Original Poster made on 13th Feb 2017 18:57:40
Thanks for the reply. I suspect this kind of situation exists for many people, male and female. Your advice is good and I will think of a good way to start that conversation.

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