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Finding my father

I’ve never met my father, seen a picture of him or even know if he’s tall or short or blue eyed or brown eyed, a nice man or a not very nice man.


I’ve lived with this all my life until my daughters just had my first grandchild and suddenly it’s made me wonder about him.


I know so little about him as he left town as soon as my mother fell pregnant and I’m at a loss to know where to start. All I know is his name and a rough idea of age.


I’m not wanting to cause him or his family any hurt, however just to know mine, and my children’s possible medical implications for the future would be great.


Hope you understand why I’m searching and I hope this is allowed as a topic Thanks


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Debimas Original Poster
21st Jan 2019 18:19:01
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I’ve never met my father, seen a picture of him or even know if he’s tall or short or blue eyed or brown eyed, a nice man or a not very nice man.

I’ve lived with this all my life until my daughters just had my first grandchild and suddenly it’s made me wonder about him.

I know so little about him as he left town as soon as my mother fell pregnant and I’m at a loss to know where to start. All I know is his name Leslie James from Birmingham and a rough idea of age ( 77ish now)

I’m not wanting to cause him or his family any hurt, however just to know mine, and my children’s possible medical implications for the future would be great.

Hope you understand why I’m searching and I hope this is allowed as a topic Thanks
Response from StewartY made on 26th Jan 2019 11:40:21
Hi Debimas

I never met my father or even seen a photo of him, i know he passed away quite some time ago but often wondered what he looked like.
Speaking with siblings who knew him say he wasn't a very nice man and was often violent towards them.
Am guessing you have tried a search on Facebook and social media as such but have you thought about contacting the local press in Birmingham or Ancestry DNA?

Hope you find him
Response from Debimas Original Poster made on 26th Jan 2019 15:27:38
Thanks Stewart i might give ancestry dna s try that’s one Avenue I haven’t explored
Thanks again
Debi
Response from StewartY made on 27th Jan 2019 16:45:11
I think it cost about £80 so not cheap but i think they can match you to other relatives, depending on whether they have had tests done.
Good luck
ValC3000
27th Jan 2019 11:07:23
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Thanks for voting!
I found my fathers relatives through Genes Reunited.
Sadly I never knew my father either and he’d passed away some years before I started my search. I also found I had a half brother but sadly he had died too.
Be prepared for the unexpected and, in my case, heartache.
Good luck.
ColinM1
26th Jan 2019 18:29:35
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The information made available through the internet has made your task somewhat easier than in earlier time . Because of the somewhat outdated regulations regarding privacy “ the hundred years rule “ holds sway in this country and the last available Census you can consult is that of 1911 . You can however now consult a wide choice of other sources including the electoral rolls ( voters roll ) and valuation rolls. If you draw a list of blanks there is a good chance your father emigrated . Passenger lists are very detailed and comparatively easy to follow . If you locate him abroad you can often continue the search in the country of adoption I wrote a story for the family of 5 brothers ( my great grand uncles ) who left these shores to seek their fortunes in the Ballarat Gold rush in Australia I used ancestry.com and accessed a mass of previously unknown info . Google names , try Facebook – there is lot out there – do not despair and good luck !
MargaretG05
26th Jan 2019 15:50:57
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