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Finding new friends

I am in my 60s and have a family, although I don't see them unless I drive to see them .. Although I'm a very sociable person I do get lonely - I have car but no fun going alone .. I live in KENT but it's so nice to meet other people. My family live in Worthing so always driving up and down to see grandkids. I find weekends /holidays the worse time to be lonely. I tried different a club but they can be very clicky. I would love to hear from anyone in my position


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yahsue
20th Aug 2016 14:12:08
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Hi maureenmargaret, I moved to Kent 6 months ago - nearer family, and I'm gradually getting to know the local area. I took the plunge and joined a few local groups, U3A being one of them, and have found people to be friendly and welcoming. As you say, it is difficult to join in to new groups as most people already have their own 'set' but its early days yet and its helping me get out and make an effort to socialise.
I hope you manage to make some new friends soon.
MichaelC624
21st Mar 2020 08:20:55
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Missing socializing with the fairer sex. Any one in the Brighton /Worthing area who would like to meet (when possible again) for a drink/conversation. I am a widower in may 70s
ElaineB347
27th Sep 2019 17:15:33
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I would consider going to learn bridge, it's a great game and you soon get to know others in different groups on different days. I love it. Golf is another great social hobby too, try some lessons.
sonroy
19th Sep 2016 22:33:04
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Hi, so pleased to meet you. I am a widow and can understand how lonely especially nights drawing in. You are so lucky to have grandchildren, which I haven't got, but would love to, just don't think it will be for a while. I love reading books and play soft bowls so I do get out, it's the nights when you are on your own that's lonely. I do understand. Best wishes hope to talk again
Starlit
20th Aug 2016 23:48:32
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I think once you start doing the visiting, it is expected that you carry on with it.
My daughter visited a lot more when my granchildren were quite young but once they started school It was me that had to visit. I joined the U3A they offer plenty of activities to suit most people, I'm sure there will be groups in your area, check it out.
major red
20th Aug 2016 15:03:00 (Last activity: 20th Aug 2016 15:06:23)
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i lived in kent for 40 years i got married at 43 and moved to middlesbrough i have not got friends up here but i joined the RSPB and we go there most weeks and i can talk to all the fellow bird lovers it the best thing i ever did. sure i miss kent and family but i visit when i can now my mums on her own its hard but my sister sees her loads and her friends and neirbours well best ever even though my dad died 6 weeks ago. claire the neirbor shopped for my mum for the first few weeks till my mum wanted to go for her self
Response from major red made on 20th Aug 2016 15:06:23
if you love birds it £4 for a single adult and im sure theres one near everyone if they look up https://ww2.rspb.org.uk/joinandhelp/join/
georgesmum
19th Aug 2016 22:03:32
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Groups, clubs, classes etc., are great for some people but not everyone is confortable with them. Outgoing confident people seem able to join in but there must be a lot who would find it too daunting to walk into a room full of strangers......I can remember once desperately wanting to join a local knitting group but never plucked up the courage to walk into the meeting room!
myra
19th Aug 2016 20:25:39
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The best thing you could do is join the U3A there are groups all over the country ,go to their website to find out more , I don't have a day spare when I have something to do.
Fruitcake13
19th Aug 2016 19:23:19
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If you have any interests or hobbies then you could perhaps see if there are any local groups you could join, or try volunteering. I do volunteering and have made some good friends through it. Only last night I spent several hours socialising with a fellow volunteer after our afternoon shift, just coffee and chatting in an outdoor cafe, but it was fun. Sometimes groups you join can be tricky because they can be cliquey, but don't give up, just keep trying, eventually you will 'click' with someone.
janevalv59
19th Aug 2016 18:31:05
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I think making new friends is more difficult as you get older because most people already have their own circle of friends. I recently finished a 3 year degree and made 4 really good friends over that time so finding a class or course that interests you is the easier way to try
Marika111
19th Aug 2016 10:51:08
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I think it takes a long time to make friends.I use the bus and strangely I have made some friends because of meeting them so often.If you use a car you miss some chances of meeting people as you don't walk up and down your street.I think you need to be in a place like a class where you meet people but it won't be immediate that you find someone you like.Some people go to Church for social reasons.

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