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Looking to chat with like-minded new friends

Just joined & very new to this.


Widowed 15 months ago & trying to find my way solo, though do have lovely supportive family.


The self isolation isn’t helping.


Would like to hear from those in similar circumstances


Created By on 17/04/2020

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Sally - Silversurfer's Editor
17th Apr 2020 06:48:24
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Hello Llynfi

Welcome and many thanks for your first comment in our Forum.

So sorry to hear of your loss - now must be a challenging time but you are not alone here.

I am sure there are other members in a similar situation to you, and hopefully it won't be long before they come and join you in this thread.

In the meantime, if you are looking for some lively discussions, head on over to the Forum homepage https://www.silversurfers.com/silversurfers-forum-home/ - to see what’s trending right now and feel free to join in the discussions, with all our friendly members.

There is also a very lively thread from others who are in lockdown and discussing the challenges which this brings, here - https://www.silversurfers.com/silversurfers-forum/category/health/coronavirus/ -

Best wishes
Sally 🙂
Response from Llynfi Original Poster made on 17th Apr 2020 18:00:14
Thank you
Llynfi Original Poster
10th Jul 2020 11:40:14 (Last activity: 19th Aug 2020 15:19:08)
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Started a course via Zoom & was able to continue qigong class the same way. It hasn’t been has bad as l thought it would be. I still have to isolate because l have a autoimmune problem. I really liked the tranquility & the fresh air when we were in strict lockdown but it is awful not to hug the children & grandchildren. How have you got on?
Response from redpepper made on 19th Aug 2020 10:27:25
Hi Llynfi,

Sorry to hear about your health problems that must make it much more difficult for you when it's already hard enough. I must admit I had to look up what qigong is 🙂 but it sounds really good I might look into that. I do meditation which I've done for quite a while and that's really helpful to me in all kinds of ways.

My lovely social bubble includes my son and grand daughters, it's so good to finally be able to cuddle them and really makes you appreciate what you have.

I do hope you're now able to see your family too and are managing ok.
Response from Llynfi Original Poster made on 19th Aug 2020 14:50:42 > @redpepper
Hi l am doing ok l can give you email of the Zoom classes for qigong if you would like?
Response from redpepper made on 19th Aug 2020 15:19:08 > @Llynfi
That would be really helpful thank you Llynfi.
redpepper
18th Apr 2020 13:47:52 (Last activity: 19th Aug 2020 10:01:48)
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Hi Llynfi,

I'm also flying solo now after losing my husband just over 14 months ago, so I know exactly how you must be feeling. I'm very new to this too I've been a member for a while but have never posted anything before. I guess we're doing things we'd never perhaps have done without this isolation. It's good to hear that you have a supportive family, I do too but of course they can only do so much and the loneliness can be tough I find at times.

It would be nice to make a new friend who understands and is in such a similar position.

Take care, just let me know if you'd like to chat.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 18th Apr 2020 15:17:45
Hi redpepper,

Welcome and many thanks for your first comment in our Forum.

If you already know your way around, then we will leave you to it.

If you are looking for some lively discussions, head on over to the Forum homepage to see what's trending right now and feel free to join in the discussions, with all our friendly members, perhaps ask a question or even start your own post.

Response from Dinabob4 made on 4th Jul 2020 20:18:05
Hi red pepper, sorry to hear you are also going through bereavement as well as lockdown. We do not know how long it will take for things to feel like they are back to normal even though were are having some lockdown releases. Do you feel able to make any plans yet?
I have not long lost my father and I know what strong grief feels like.
I would be interested to chat to others who are bereaved.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 4th Jul 2020 21:23:24 > @Dinabob4
Hi Dinabob4,

Welcome and many thanks for your first comment in our Forum.

If you already know your way around, then we will leave you to it.

If you are looking for some lively discussions, head on over to the Forum homepage to see what's trending right now and feel free to join in the discussions, with all our friendly members, perhaps ask a question or even start your own post.

Response from Dinabob4 made on 5th Jul 2020 10:37:33 > @Sally - Silversurfer's Editor
Thank you Sally
Response from redpepper made on 19th Aug 2020 10:01:48 > @Dinabob4
Hi Dinabob4,

Thank you for your response, I'm sorry to hear about your father grief is such a difficult thing to deal with even in more normal times.

The lockdown releases have helped at least we can get out and about more now. The hardest thing to come to terms with is the loneliness of actually living on my own and dealing with everything myself. All those little problems that crop up that I've never had to deal with before as my husband fixed it or dealt with it - still on the upside I'm acquiring some new skills I didn't know I had in me! Needs must and all that 🙂

I certainly feel a lot stronger now than I did, but not too clear on any plans as yet.
Llynfi Original Poster
10th Jul 2020 11:42:58
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Hope you are well. See my reply to red pepper.
Dinabob4
4th Jul 2020 20:07:17
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Hi Llynfi, how are you getting on? have you managed to find a way to feel less isolated. Having lost someone and going through this lockdown and health crisis is very difficult. Do you talk to your family on video call? I have not long lost my dad before lock-down who was very important in my life and we are not in normal times.
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18th Apr 2020 03:20:36 (Last activity: 18th Apr 2020 21:37:31)
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Response from islandPat made on 18th Apr 2020 07:14:50
I am the leader of C3A (Cyprus version of U3A) Family History Group. You can trace your family online if you are keen to start a new hobby. I have lots of information I can give you and help you to get started. There are billions of documents online for the family historian these days.

Also lots of short courses, many subjects, free on Future Learn (Open University spin off) the is the genealogy course as an example of the courses. Check out the rest.

https://www.futurelearn.com/courses/genealogy


Pat 🙂
Response from sunglasses nanna made on 18th Apr 2020 21:37:31
Hi Blarney. I also used to be a member of the U3A but the meetings were so full you couldn’t get in (I live in a London Borough which probably explains it. I did used to go to French classes though and their choir group but had to give up when I was diagnosed with a brain tumour in 2018
sunglasses nanna
18th Apr 2020 21:31:29
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Hi. I was widowed 25 years ago at the age of 42. My family are all grown up now and married with children of their own,
CristinaF
18th Apr 2020 18:39:53
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I'm a widow since May of last year, so this May will be a year. I live in a small rural community, so being a bit isolated is normal, but miss friends and family. I feel I need to shake this routine I'm in, but feel stuck, I guess it's the quarantine.
Carribelle
18th Apr 2020 15:40:48
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Hi Llynfi

I also was widowed at the end of January last year, so know how you feel. This lock down is particularly difficult having to cope with it alone. Funnily enough and strange though it might be, I feel a bit upset that I am left to cope with it alone. Not logical I know but...….

I also have family, but cannot see them and phone contact, etc. is not the same and the days seem very long.

I was hoping that this year I would be able to get away and do more, but it is obviously not possible and goodness knows how long this will go on for. Anyway we must all be grateful if we are well.

Looks like you, redpepper and myself all lost our husbands at the same time.

Chat anytime if you wish.

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