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Watch this postHi just joined and like many of you, recently widowed, last year, no kids or furry friends. Could have retired but decided to stay on in my post within the NHS.
Since my husband died. I feel I have been living my life on the back of everyone else's. I would like a life of my own with my own friends and interests, which was why I joined this site.
Look forward to chatting to like minded people but need help as to how this could work
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Patricia
I’m sheltering, not because I’m on any list but because I have severe arthritis and high blood pressure. I’m always worse in winter. But I’m ok, I’m coping, I knit. Use internet to order what I need and great for talking grankids face to face.
I feel sorry for those that don’t know how to do this or don’t have equipment.
My iPad has become very important to me. Information, knitting patterns, interests etc.
I have a friend on Facebook who often puts up lovely photos of Swanage area that I love. So even though we have restrictions and world problems, bereavement etc. I too feel that I’m doing what I want to. My only problem is the face to face meeting of friends and family. The option to sit at an outdoor cafe with a friend, a coffee and watch world go by. Think about good times and rememinise! Ah the good times.
Having lost my husband of 47 years August 2019, I’d got to point of thinking about my future world. Then Covid-19 so getting to be me again would be nice. To be able to go to theatre, the cinemas socialise. I’ve got to learn how to do it again as it’s very different when you’ve been a partnership.
In my case it's being too accommodating to my children and not saying no often enough.
Happy to chat further on this topic in a private chat.
I’m the same very recently widowed after 47 years married. It never bothered me before as I’d always worked, enjoyed my social life and was very independent.
Unfortunately, I stopped work due to severe arthritis back in 2007. I’ve been very happy but suppose I lived through family and did more and more as a couple. With losing him this August it hit me that yes I can cope but where do you begin to regain some sort of social life? I feel very guilty asking family to keep me company but am lucky they care. People you knew as a couple do keep there distance whether because they don’t know what to say or whatever. How are you all doing out there?
I sent you a private chat a few days ago.
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You may find others have been in touch too.