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Hello - brand new!

Hi, just joined about two minutes ago. Trying to get the hang of this place/layout etc.

The reason I joined 'just now' is to ask a question of other members about 'family etiquette' - so I think the best place for my question to you all (sounding you out!) is in the Am I Being Unreasonable section, which definitely suits what I want to ask. (About being on phone calls during family meals.....)(and it's not even teens, but an 'oldie' like me who should know better)(BUT, what do you all think??) I'm sure there is loads and loads and loads more here for me to discover, so am looking forward to exploring.

Cheers, Carriex.

Created By on 31/03/2021

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carriex Original Poster
1st Apr 2021 22:59:14
Thanks for voting!
Well, I agree that fashions can change, and manners with them sometimes. But to me it's just so rude and selfish to impose a private phone call on other people. Everyone else just has to wait until the person on the phone deigns to get off.

I do think, with young folk texting, not speaking, that's not so bad, as it doesn't interrupt or stop other people chatting .....though if a young person is texting they are clearly not paying any attention to the general conversation, so it's rude in that sense, but not so rude as talking, which stops others talking.
31st Mar 2021 16:34:28
Thanks for voting!
I think it's mostly younger people who don't see anything wrong with using their phones during more intimate occasions (family dinner, eating out with friends or loved ones, etc). I heard a comedian the other day (I forget who - my apologies to the person concerned, but I am very old). He asked a younger person, "Why do you have to live on your phone?" The answer came, "It's the only place we CAN live." Although it was a kind of joke, it was also kind of true - young people find it hard to achieve the kind of lives that we old 'uns used to take for granted: a job that'll last and give us a pension (and possibly private health insurance), our own home we knew we would be able to pay for in time (because we had job contracts longer than 1-2 years) and so forth. Young people face a hard time these days - something we retirees might not fully understand. It's nobody's fault. But you hinted that it's an older person who's forgotten the rules of politeness - that's more tricky to understand and deal with. But, just as everything else changes through time, so do our "rules of engagement", and there's nothing much to stop older people simply going with the flow of change. Maybe that's what's happened with the person you spoke about? Sorry to be so long-winded - a problem I face (due to age or changing personality, who knows?) is the ability to talk succinctly, which maybe irritates other people the way I'm irritated by phone yattering.... Live and let live, then, I guess...

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