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Hello in the Lockdown

Hello, I just joined here cos I am all alone in the lockdown and it is kind of scary.


I have three adult children but right now can't see them and it tears you up.


So I thought it would be good to find others in this strange time and chat.


I live in Kent and have lovely walks around me which go on but sadly both my doggies passed away last year and does anyone here walk alone and get funny looks?


Nevertheless, I do walk but have to be careful not to be social! Just a wave and a smile.


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Scalbygirl
21st Dec 2020 07:09:04
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Hello....I am really struggling with everything right now. I live alone and have no family. My ex husband was around during the first lockdown but he has found someone on a dating agency and dropped me. All my usual activities are on hold, Don’t think I can cope with all this trauma at the same time. I am so scared to go out now with all this. I hate to burden my friends they have their own problems. Trying so hard to keep sane. Forgive my rant.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 21st Dec 2020 08:08:51
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Response from PurpleHat made on 21st Dec 2020 09:07:13
Hi Scalbygirl, I feel for you,I'm widowed and lucky enough to share a house with my married daughter, so I am not alone. All I can say is just hang on and try to find something positive to keep busy with. I'm scared to go out as well, but pick your times. The supermarkets are not usually busy early mornings, my disabled friend walks down the middle of the road in her cul-de-sac and waves to people. and my friends are quite pleased for a chat on the phone, so don't be afraid to talk. You will find that you are not so alone. Keep safe!
frenchman96
22nd Dec 2020 11:39:32
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Hi There

It says "add your comment" so i don't know if thats the same as "reply" as in most forums.

Either way, I am a fit 79 yr old, happily married but always willing to chat, have a laugh, help in any way, just respond to this post. I don't know my way around this forum yet as it's laid out differently, any advice is welcome.

George
ColinB843
5th Dec 2020 11:07:43
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Good morning all, I hope you're all keeping safe and well. Just out of curiosity: If I had the Covid-19 vaccine would I be able to stop wearing those wretched suffocating masks when I go out?
Len45
4th Oct 2020 16:39:49 (Last activity: 5th Dec 2020 10:46:40)
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Ellie, I live in the midlands but I'm interested in your comment regarding lovely walks in Kent. My daughter lives on Sheppey and I haven't explored as much as I would like to down there. I've been unable to, but now I can get to my daughters more often. Id love to know any really nice walks. I've a book on the Saxon way and intend to do sections of that but I'm sure there are many more beautiful places in the 'Garden of England'.
Response from ColinB843 made on 5th Dec 2020 10:46:40
Hello Len, I live in Hampshire, near Portsmouth so I know very little about the garden of Eden. Good luck when this wretched lockdown is over. I was in shielding for three months first time round but escaped part 2. I hate wearing those masks, suffocating and trying to see through fog on my specs. Good luck with your walks pal.
Alain
23rd Aug 2020 19:24:10
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I started to self shield due to health issues on the 9th March.
Ive been at home since then. Shopping and Medicines were ordered online and delivered fortunately for me,
I havent been anywhere till last Friday 21st Aug when I went and fitted a new battery, delivered from Halfords, to my little old car. She started first time and after a bit of manuvering in the bungalows private carpark to make sure things were working properly I drove up the road to a local park. and sent messages to my family who live about an hours drive away that I planned to drive over to see them on Saturday afternoon. It did feel strange seeing people in the streets and also other cars on the roads. At the height of the lockdown it had been very quite in the area I live. I arrived at my Ex wife number 1 house and my daughter and my son also arrived with their partners and brought the dogs who I have really missed seeing as well. We all stayed in the garden with a reasonable distance between us and enjoyed being able to see each other again. We spent about 3 hours together chatting then all made our way home. Its really helped me getting out as I was starting to go very frightened of actually leaving the house so it has done me good and made me realise that there is still a world out there, as long as we are sensible and take precautions when we venture out there.
Alain
Kilmanorth
3rd Aug 2020 14:16:09
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My name's Sandra by the way.
Kilmanorth
3rd Aug 2020 14:08:47
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Hello everyone out there. I live alone and my only daughter lives abroad. I was going to see her in May but Corona 19 scuppered that, so it's now over 2 years since I've seen her. I live in Cornwall in a fishing village that has hundreds & hundreds of tourists at the moment. Unfortunately a lot of them have not heard of social distancing, so going into town is a no go. I've painted everything in my home within an inch of it's life, things I've been meaning to do for ages have now been done. Even cleaning the oven!! So now what? I've meet friends for coffee, but everything else I'm involved with is off. The annual pantomime is cancelled although we have managed to do some plays on zoom, (once I managed to download it!) I overlook the sea and there are some nice walks but on your own It's not much fun. It's odd isn't it that when you're on your own everyone else seems to be in couples or with family. It would be nice to have children who live near, but life has a habit of not working out the way you think. If someone else is in a similar situation I'd love to hear from you, even if you're not it would still be good to chat. Cheerio!
Philbaby61
2nd Aug 2020 02:40:52 (Last activity: 2nd Aug 2020 08:11:08)
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Hi Ellie
My name is Phil and your right about this moment in time being strange and how do we best cope just to get through each day, there's only so much TV you want to watch, i have found that i am using my phone a lot more than i used to talking to not only my closest friends and family but also ex work colleagues, I've just completed over the past few months over 50 computer jigsaws which are installed in windows 10, i hope for you Ellie and the thousands out there in the same boat that its not to long before a vaccine is found and we can get back to some kind of normality.
Take care Ellie and stay safe
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 2nd Aug 2020 08:11:08
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eileen54
10th May 2020 22:49:26
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its so good you joined Ellie as the lovely comments from folk will help keep you going and you know you are not alone
just joined today and am hoping to use this site to reach out to people too
you take care and keep smiling
Marl
2nd May 2020 23:40:28
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Hi Ellie...know what you mean it is scary when you are on your own but I am getting used to it.I am lucky that my daughter lives local but she is still working full time so only see her once week.

I have taken to baking easy cakes to pass the time and it's nice to share them with the neighbours ....still keeping the social distance though.

My dog Holly is a great comfort to me since I lost my husband. .have you thought about getting another dog?

I find when I go for my walk most people are quite friendly if you smile at them.
MollyUK
4th Apr 2020 19:38:16 (Last activity: 2nd May 2020 15:11:57)
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I'm alone too except for my husband who is a stroke survivor and therefore limited in what he can do. I imagine it's very difficult for people with family they can't see right now, because they're used to having people around them. We have no family and when we retired we moved from one end of the country to the other. He had his strokes within a few months of moving here, so we've made no strong friendships. For us, the lockdown is pretty much business as usual, except of course we can't go out as we used to. I'm very sympathetic to people who miss their families but, believe me, if we can manage alone, anyone can. And it's only temporary for you - for us, it's permanent until we pop our clogs. Don't despair, there's a lot in the world to be thankful for and masses to do at home, especially if you have a computer. Chin up, people.
Response from Geordiebaker31 made on 12th Apr 2020 01:18:06
Hi molly , liked your positive message ! I’m trying to make the best of this situation and agree that keeping busy is the key to managing your day . I’m a keen crafter and I sew every afternoon I’ve caught up on half finished projects that are in my “I’ll finish it later “ trunk , I cross stitch and bake .
If you want to chat that would be nice
Stay safe
Kate
Response from Brightandbreezy made on 2nd May 2020 15:11:57
Lovely upbeat comments Molly. I'm sure there must be people feeling bored. I watched a news report on India and Africa, my goodness they are so, so much less fortunate than ourselves. Keep well and keep safe both.
jeanmanwaring13hotmailcouk
12th Apr 2020 11:20:55 (Last activity: 2nd May 2020 15:09:03)
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Hello, I am also alone in lockdown, unable to see my family and friends. There is only so much to do in my flat and after four weeks of this isolation I am becoming increasingly upset, bored and angry to think how the sheer ignorance of the Chinese and their filthy habits have caused this world wide destruction. I can't even go for a walk because I am in so much pain awaiting a new hip after a really bad fall. My operation [like many others] was cancelled.
Unless they live alone, people have no idea how lonely it can be. My flat is thankfully on the ground floor, at least I can lean out of my window and people watch. Some say hello to me, some ask if I am ok, some even ask if I need any shopping but most just glare at me and walk on - this I do not understand.
Looking at the positive side, we will get through this and hopefully our lives will get back to normal. Good luck to you all !
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Response from Brightandbreezy made on 2nd May 2020 15:08:07
Hello Jean. Your unusual surname caught my eye. It was the surname of my Great, Great Grandfather late 1800C. He was as I understand from Bury originally. Do you have connections that way??
Response from Brightandbreezy made on 2nd May 2020 15:09:03 > @Sally - Silversurfer's Editor
Thank you Sally, let's see how this goes. I am looking forward to making lot's of new friends
Brightandbreezy
2nd May 2020 15:04:54
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Hi Colin. Hope you are feeling much stronger. Keeping busy is hard.. At first it's like being on holiday and you do bits and bobs around the house and then you film binge... If I see a Netflix logo again it will be too soon!
Brightandbreezy
2nd May 2020 15:02:15 (Last activity: 2nd May 2020 15:03:17)
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Hello Ellie, ditto. I have a beautiful family who all live nearby but we are doing as we are told and keeping our distance. I am looking at a thousand things to do in the house but can't get motivated!..... I am here to make new friends ready for the ' New Normal'
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ColinB843
24th Apr 2020 11:44:27
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I've been placed under a 12 week furlough as I've been classed as highly vulnerable due to heart problems, skiin cancer and DVT. The NHS, Acts Of Kindness charity and the Citizens Advice have all been very helpful regarding getting my needs and kindly bringing me groceries and helping with any other problems. My daughter is living elsewhere due to my lockdown which has also helped. I enjoy keeping in touch with other people in the same boat, or worse, as me
CarolB52
8th Apr 2020 09:10:12 (Last activity: 9th Apr 2020 13:41:50)
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I sympathize with you. Montreal, Canada is also in lockdown. Only grocery stores and pharmacists open. I haven't seen my son in over a month. I try to keep busy but run out of things to do.
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Response from welshlady47 made on 9th Apr 2020 13:41:50
Hi. I was s looking forward to seeing Montrealetc but my holiday has been cancelledStay safe !
Michele uk
Carnflower
8th Apr 2020 03:32:16
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Hi Ellie please provide chat again Escarg nor Carmflower Thanks
50strong
7th Apr 2020 18:30:36 (Last activity: 7th Apr 2020 18:59:39)
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Hi I'm new too and I walk outside by myself a couple times a week as well. Sorry to hear about your dogs. I have been trying to keep myself busy so I have been cooking a lot, walking in my neighbourhood a few times a week and finding free online zoom classes on eventbrite to try and be social. Did this one last week and was the best I've found so far.

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/free-online-complete-health-no-equipment-workout-50-session-2-tickets-102040552038?utm_source=eventbrite&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=post_publish&utm_content=EBLinkEvent&utm_term=fullLink

Thanks for starting this forum.
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MikeP22
7th Apr 2020 10:55:01 (Last activity: 7th Apr 2020 11:54:54)
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We're in lock down in New Zealand too (9th day). We live out of town on a couple of acres, no pets just 6 sheep (not pets) and four chooks, and two bee hives. Our walks are up or down the road no socializing - weird.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 7th Apr 2020 11:54:54
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6th Apr 2020 08:31:31 (Last activity: 6th Apr 2020 23:00:18)
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Response from PansyPuss made on 6th Apr 2020 21:02:42
Focussing on positive things can be a real help in fighting negativity so thats a good way to use your motto....I want positive feelings so thats what I am going to focus on no matter how hard. It can be awfully difficult but worth the effort.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 6th Apr 2020 23:00:18 > @PansyPuss
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PansyPuss
6th Apr 2020 21:12:41
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So sorry about your doggies......I’m a mad cat lady but whether dogs or cats, the mental balm that they bring is unparalleled and can be a great help in the current madness. I don’t know what I would do without my beloved puss.
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