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Watch this postHi, I have just joined and really don’t know what I am doing.
I really just want some one to talk to, I lost my husband 8 months ago and grief is taking over my life.
I can't focus on anything - he was my life now he’s gone.
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This virus problem arrived in March and I was isolated just when I needed everyone more than ever so I understand just how you feel.
It is hard passing the 1st milestones such as our anniversary and his birthday and him not being here for our childrens special days but we got through them (just)
I have learnt to put special memories in a compartment in my brain to go to when I am feeling low and have a good old cry, then try and give myself something to look forward to however small,at the moment with lockdown on us again it is difficult as you well know.
We where married 45yrs and both very young at heart in our outlook to life,enjoying holidays and socialising so he is greatly missed we where due to go back to Spain for 3mths when he died to where we had lived for nearly 10yrs and ran a business so loosing him was a big shock not only to us his family but to many many friends here and abroad and keeping in touch with them has made the days pass.I do hope you receive some comfort from replys you receive and can slowly move forward as I know it is so hard for you.
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Welcome to the site, it is a good step to make.
I am sorry to hear of your loss. I understand it is a really difficult time and at such an early stage. It cannot be underestimated at all.
I would say you do get stronger as time passes and you think of your loved one and all the good times. You build your life little by little and feel them with you in your heart as you find your way into a new chapter of life.
It is harder to focus in the early stages. You could try writing a little list of things that make you feel a little better for a while. It could be anything: such as: a walk in the park, a relaxing bubble bath, watching a comedy, reading a few chapters of a book (any subject you could take), a heartwarming film or maybe a chat to a friend or family member.
Look at the list when feeling down. Maybe journalling might help let your feelings out a bit.
I like to write down everyday a few thoughts and about what has happened.
If you are in the UK you could ask for bereavement support from charities such as Cruse, if it helps to talk.
Take care
Dina
Thank you for your kind words and I am sorry you are also suffering a loss. I like listening to music of all genres I’m not into sport either so we have that in common. I am quite a private person and it takes a long time for people to really know me, the real me. I enjoy eating out and a glass of wine now and again. I like visiting different places Ive not seen a lot of the world but I do love the Far East my husband and I have been there a few times.
Elaine