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Invisible at 70

Why do younger people think that we are no longer able to do things? I am fit, able , happy and good with technology. My husband and myself play table tennis , and I go to art class. Also I work in a charity book shop. We live in the same world as everyone else and the new technology is open to all. Why are we meant to be distant from everything going on in the world?


Created By on 24/11/2016

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Lloyd112444
4th Jan 2019 14:30:54 (Last activity: 4th Jan 2019 23:43:43)
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HI, New to Silversurfers. This is an interesting forum
Response from CaroleAH made on 4th Jan 2019 23:43:43
Hi Lloyd,
Welcome to Silversurfers - hope you find lots of topics which interest you. It would be good to see some photos on the Showcase of your part of the world. How long have you worked in Vietnam? It's a place I have never visited but my sister has been and says that it's wonderful.
freespace
16th Jan 2018 10:49:57
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My body is 70 , my mind and brain decades younger. I love rock music , art , animals and black coffee. I like eccentrics and people who are individuals who do not lead or follow.

Just joined this site , this is my first post , it will take a while to find my way around the various forums.

Happy to chat with anyone on all subjects.
TerryO
3rd Jan 2017 09:53:46 (Last activity: 1st Feb 2017 07:58:51)
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Being in my 70th year now I see this all of the time, I still work, really don't feel any different in my mind and try and ignore the odd aches and pains. I agree that age is just a number. Sometimes I go to a meeting and think to myself I met up with that old guy today and then give my head a shake because that old guy was probably 10 years younger than me
Response from Tyjen made on 3rd Jan 2017 18:45:44
you reminded me Im in my 70th year! omg! yup age is just a number until you look in the mirror! lol
Response from twobikemike made on 31st Jan 2017 12:30:14
Based on that LM I'll be 50 in Dec.. That's a shame because I felt I was only 45!!
Response from TerryO made on 31st Jan 2017 23:19:07
On a good day its the new 18! Then I look in the mirror
Response from TerryO made on 1st Feb 2017 07:58:51
definitely sounds like a plan!!!!
Wilf
3rd Jan 2017 10:21:31 (Last activity: 3rd Jan 2017 14:25:04)
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Doesnt worry me at all. Who are we invisible from ? Each age has its own issues...in my teens I was awkward and shy like most teenagers and trying to find my way in the world...in my twenties I was busy dating and then getting married and working...30s...40s...50s...working like a dog and looking after the growing family and now well...taking it a bit more easy and enjoying the most valuable thing in the world...TIME...
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Response from jeanmark made on 3rd Jan 2017 14:25:04
I agree with that sentiment LittleMinx. I have met younger people who complain about not being taken seriously because they are young. I've told them not to worry, there will come time when people don't take the seriously because they are old!
daisy duke
24th Nov 2016 20:44:43 (Last activity: 29th Nov 2016 10:51:30)
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what really annoys me is when the press have a story about a frail elderly pensioner ... it really makes me angry when the age is somewhere in the late 60's i mean that's quite young in my book ..i know i am lucky i dont look or feel my age but still, even 70 plus is not old is it ..?
Response from daisy duke made on 24th Nov 2016 21:43:20
yes you are right Minxy,the amount of young drivers killed on the roads here in Scotland is high they seem to start at 17 here as it can be a bit rural between villages ..i didnt start myself till middle age .. mainly because i lived in London and buses or tubes ran every minute .ps careful you dont swallow one of those bullets .. lol
Response from jeanmark made on 25th Nov 2016 12:53:11
I think the problem here is that stating 'frail elderly' has a more emotive response because of the stereotypical picture around when our grandparents were old. It's the same when they talk about 'a child' who happens to be 17!

I'm sure we have all known 50 years old that look 80 and 80 year old who look 50. I agree Daisy Duke that 70 isn't old in todays terms but there are still people who are frail at that age and they tend to be the ones highlighted. Who wants to hear about a sprightly 90 year old with no problems, that doesn't make headlines unless they make 100 and receive a greeting from the Queen!
Response from beneDictus made on 29th Nov 2016 10:51:30
Not these days...no.
beneDictus
29th Nov 2016 10:49:40
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It`s probably because the general consensus is...when people get to the 70...(plus) mark...they are deemed to have been officially ''decommissioned''. Or, if they haven`t actually been, then they SHOULD have been....It`s one of the many complicated social conventions which go way back....
jeanmark
24th Nov 2016 15:23:10 (Last activity: 27th Nov 2016 16:17:03)
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I'm not sure we are margt. Thinking back didn't we all think people a few years older were 'to old' to do the same as us younger ones? Many years ago as a young ward sister and before I was married, I was asked by a student nurse what it felt like to be left on the shelf (I was 26). My response "Better than you think, at least I'm taken off the shelf and dusted regularly", she had no answer to that.
Response from jeanmark made on 24th Nov 2016 18:50:43
Not sure what her mental image was though, bet she never made that mistake again.
Response from jeanmark made on 25th Nov 2016 12:58:02
Little Minx I also get very angry at the notion of 'bed blockers' because the government and the media focus on the front door rather than the back. Nobody appears to admit that if they don't allow us to die when young then we will grow old, common sense to me.

I was recently told by a young woman that I wasn't entitled to my state pension as we hadn't paid enough money in. I asked why she was drawing state benefits as she had never worked, cruel maybe and lost on her as she told me she was entitled!!
Response from margt Original Poster made on 27th Nov 2016 16:17:03
You may well be right. I have a mother who is 97 and can still beat me at scrabble. I have probably without thinking been rather patronising to her at times. After all at 69 I was fine so it probably is me facing up to being old. I shudder at the thought.But hey ho life is still fun.
Jenninora
25th Nov 2016 13:14:40 (Last activity: 25th Nov 2016 13:54:36)
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Jean. It is a total waste of your time remarking on (said ) woman regarding her entitlement to state benefits. Sadly, this is the trend now and attitude like that has been formulated the last 30 years by successive reasons which you and everyone knows about. No wonder we as the invisible 70's feel like we do. I say, ignore and do what is right for oneself. You are correct when it comes to aged people not showing their age or aged people showing their age. Too many media band wagons, and commercial reasons.
Response from jeanmark made on 25th Nov 2016 13:54:36
Totally agree Jenninora.
Jay_C
25th Nov 2016 10:28:28
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What really gets me is when I say I go tap dancing or I go and watch Ice Hockey or I walked 10 miles today the response is 'oh bless'. My answer to that is ' I'm sure you don't mean it but that sounds really patronising'. I don't think people really think about their attitude to age but we need to politely challenge any negative comments. After all, when all the youngsters are flagging I am still on the dance floor giving it large!

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