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Just joined so I'm introducing myself.

I will be 67 next month and retired from the many different jobs in my working life. I guess that I didn’t ever find my calling. I went to university at age 59 but when it was over it was too late to launch a new career. I wanted to lecture but students don’t want to listen to old fogies, so sadly I put aside that idea and settled into life as an eccentric dog owner.

I live in a beautiful Lancashire valley surrounded by hills that demand they be walked/climbed, how could I refuse?

I would like to do a bit of cycle touring but a recent diagnosis of spondylosis and some hip pain means that I may not be doing a world tour anytime soon!

I’m keen to make some friends as I have been on my own for a very long time now, my daughters don’t bother much with me and I don’t have a partner.I didn’t expect to be so isolated at this time in my life, isn’t it strange the way family and friends seem to forget us when we get past 60?

I will pop in regularly and hope to strike up some friendships.


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Sunseeker1
25th Jul 2016 21:18:21
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Hi All,
Recently joined thought its about time introduced myself. I,m still struggling after the sudden death of my wife in December 2015, married for 42 years without even the chance to say goodbye, it hit me hard but I,m starting to learn to live with it. I live in an isolated spot on Dartmoor just myself a dog and 15 chickens. I work at an Activity Centre which is full of young staff which is great, but I have absolutely no social life. I do charity work which keeps me busy 7 days a week as I still find it difficult being on my own. My children are all grown up and live a minimum of 200 miles away.This is entirely my own fault as I choose to live on Dartmoor in the house I built myself. I've had a great and interesting life and somehow want to get back to having something to look forward to, obviously I love my daughters and grandchildren but my late wife and I had some wonderful holidays, but I fear I will have to find another interest, as any holiday would be hard on me emotionally. Sorry my introduction is not very happy and cheerful but it helps to share.
Response from georgesmum made on 26th Jul 2016 13:03:11
Hi Sunseeker.......welcome to the site!
So sorry to hear of the untimely death of your dear wife, it must have been a dreadful shock to you and your family. You sound a very positive person so I'm sure you will embark on a new social life when you least expect it, maybe through your charity work.
Good luck for the future and I hope you soon find lots of people to chat to on here!
Response from Sueblue made on 6th Aug 2016 12:17:58
Hi, Sounds lovely, living on Dartmoor. When I was a child we lived in Plymouth and my brothers used to take me to Dartmoor on their scooters. My social life is like yours - non existent. I have a 95 year old friend and she goes out more than I do !! I have been on my own for 5 years , no family and no siblings in the town. I too, couldnt go on holiday on my own though my friend does. I volunteer with a group which deals with clients who have had brain injuries. I did a few more things but had a spell of bad health last December and I am just coming out the other side of it. I joined this site as I struggle some days, especially weekends.
Response from Alan247 made on 6th Aug 2016 19:48:13
We now live on the edge of Dartmoor, love every minute of it, as keen photographers its the place to be. I think I have bored everybody by posting a shed load of pictures taken around the area
Response from major red made on 22nd Aug 2016 18:07:58
no at all alan247 love you photos i look at all photo as i love photography i used to work in the pro photo industry as a delivery drive for more than 10 years miss it as now to slow walking and unable to work keep up the great shots
Scotsfemale 54
4 days ago (Last activity: 27th Mar 2024 20:51:26)
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Hiya, Im female 62 and live in Scotland, I know exactly how you feel. I live on my own dont have any friends and kids do their own thing.
Response from PatriciaB96 made 1 days ago
Good evening, welcome to the site , there are lots of people here and from..all walks of life , many topics you can chat about
Response from Scotsfemale 54 made 1 days ago
Thank you Patricia : -)
loulou66666
2 days ago (Last activity: 27th Mar 2024 19:58:04)
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Hi would love to chat Louise
Response from PatriciaB96 made 1 days ago
Good evening, I hope you will make lots of new friends here , it's a nice site,
PatriciaB96
1 days ago
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Good evening and welcome to the site, I hope you will make lots of new friends here
Milt1952
9th Mar 2024 20:13:34 (Last activity: 13th Mar 2024 09:15:58)
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I’m a 71 year old African American male and I live in Naperville, a western suburb of Chicago. I retired a few years ago and I’ve been an empty nester for over 5 years. I miss regular online interaction. I’m looking for online penpals to share email a few times a week. Making new friends is a way to ward off loneliness, and it brings a sense of joy and curiosity. Having new friends makes for a feeling of belonging which gives people satisfaction. I like living life vicariously through the daily life and experiences of others.
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 13th Mar 2024 09:15:58
Good morning and welcome to the site , I hope you will make lots of new friends here , there are many nice people here , lots to.chat about , good luck .
BBB1
22nd Feb 2024 03:20:00
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So sorry. Hope you feel better soon!
BBB1
22nd Feb 2024 03:19:05
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wonderful! best to you.
happydays75
14th Feb 2024 15:58:28 (Last activity: 19th Feb 2024 16:04:50)
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recently widowed age 75
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 16:04:50
Sorry for your loss. It takes time to get through it…not over it, just through it. It is said that it takes about 1/3 the number of years together for the healing process to start. So don't think that there's something wrong with you if the process takes a while it's not moribund mourning.... it's actually quite normal.
Bless you
Andree Rachele
17th Feb 2024 21:44:57 (Last activity: 19th Feb 2024 16:00:48)
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We'll hello ..same as me xx
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 16:00:48
I see from your posting - and so many other posts - that many people come from the UK. I, on the other hand, come from one of the colonies… America. I welcome and appreciate the opportunity to communicate with you and exchange ideas about what's going on in your world and mine. Thank you.
Chris375
17th Feb 2024 23:51:14 (Last activity: 19th Feb 2024 15:59:54)
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Hi, Christine from Bristol here for the first time.
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 15:59:54
I see from your posting - and so many other posts - that many people come from the UK. I, on the other hand, come from one of the colonies… America. I welcome and appreciate the opportunity to communicate with you and exchange ideas about what's going on in your world and mine. Thank you.
2LateSmart
19th Feb 2024 15:56:01
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I think it's been said that the Jews have a way of describing what you mentioned...a parent can raise five children but five children can not take care of one parent. Must be frustrating for you especially since it seems that you strive to do more things and better yourself. Don't waste anymore time dwelling on the past and how children have let you down when you needed them. That happens. It says more about them than it says about you. If they can turn their back on you after all the years that you've given them what will it take for them to turn their backs on their partners.
Don't give up.
StuartEngland
17th Feb 2024 09:20:17
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Hi, I'm Stuart, from Cheshire. I know exactly what you mean. I went back to college in my late 40s so I take my hat off to you. I'd be happy to chat and see if we could spark off a friendship? Not quite sure how it all works though. Would we just message here?
Fugazi64
29th Jan 2024 09:53:13 (Last activity: 16th Feb 2024 14:06:59)
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Hello,

I have been a member here now for the best part of three minutes so thought it was about time I left a message. Pity that I can't think of anything interesting to say, but i guess that good manners dictate that I should introduce myself. I am not sure how we deal with real names here so will leave that for now, but I am a single man living in Gateshead who will turn 60 in two days time. I am happy with my lot, but also maybe considering a little bit of a reboot.

Looking forward to meeting you all.
Response from Iss made on 2nd Feb 2024 15:21:51
Hello Fugazi64 Just to say I hope you have a lovely 60th birthday. I come from Scotland and thought I would come on and see who I could chat too as the weather here is horrible . Iss
Response from Fugazi64 made on 3rd Feb 2024 11:02:50 > @Iss
Hello Iss,

Lovely to hear from you. I had a good day on my birthday (just quiet drinks with my brother and sister) and a few days off work either side, which was nice.

In Gateshead the weather is drizzly.....always!!!.....I quite like it really.

Take care and keep in touch. it would be nice to know more about you.

Bob
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 16th Feb 2024 14:06:59
Good afternoon and welcome to the site , I hope you make lots of new friends here , many nice people and lots to chat about , enjoy your day
LissaJ
18th Jan 2024 21:13:06 (Last activity: 2nd Feb 2024 15:33:14)
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I just joined yesterday, I can understand how you are feeling, I'm a young 71, just lost my husband 2 months ago, I don't have any family close to me, so it is very lonely, and i have learned over the years that its not strange, that's just what they have turned out to be, but yes I agree, they do seem to forget us
Response from Iss made on 2nd Feb 2024 15:33:14
Hi LissaJ Just to say so very sorry to hear about you losing your husband 2 months ago so sad . I hope you find some friends on here to chat too soon if you like you can chat with me anytime so don’t hesitate to do that please . I am a retired lady from Scotland. Hope to hear from you soon. Iss
PatriciaB96
2nd Feb 2024 13:58:15
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Good afternoon, and welcome to the site , there are plenty of people here who are friendly, lots of different topics to chat about , I hope you will enjoy your time here , enjoy your day
Dukey
17th Jan 2024 02:05:22 (Last activity: 25th Jan 2024 12:36:22)
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Hello…I am new so bear with me.
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 25th Jan 2024 12:36:22
Good afternoon, it's a nice site , many nice people are here , I hope you will enjoy your time here
sandgrounderinretirement
19th Jan 2024 12:06:39 (Last activity: 21st Jan 2024 15:31:02)
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Just joined today, and I'm in my early 70's, having been retired for a long while. Currently living in Northamptonshire, wher I have been now for two decades. I'm a member of the National Trust and English Heritage, as I enjoy visiting their properties every chance I get Lookng to find like minded people.
Response from Beauty made on 21st Jan 2024 15:31:02
Hi SG etc Hope you make friends on here....friendly site. All the best
PatriciaB96
21st Jan 2024 13:13:04
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Hi , try your local citizen advice bureau, or your local council
redrover3
20th Jan 2024 13:10:00
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Hi I’m Alan I’ve just joined SS as I retired in January just what can I claim now I’ve go my bus pass
Can you claim on council tax ?
LissaJ
17th Jan 2024 19:45:44 (Last activity: 19th Jan 2024 20:46:46)
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Hello, I'm new too nice to meet you
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 18th Jan 2024 09:21:04
Good morning, nice to you a new member too
Response from LissaJ made on 18th Jan 2024 21:18:54 > @PatriciaB96
Thank you, its a little mid boggling to maneuver this site, any tips?
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 19th Jan 2024 20:46:46 > @LissaJ
Hi , no tips , sorry , just a little patience, your get used to it
Dukey
17th Jan 2024 02:06:00 (Last activity: 18th Jan 2024 21:17:22)
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Hello…I am new so bear with me.

Dukey
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 18th Jan 2024 09:22:10
Good morning a nice to meet a new member on here
Response from LissaJ made on 18th Jan 2024 21:17:22
Hi Dukey, I am also new here, joined yesterday (Wednesday)
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