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Just joined so I'm introducing myself.

I will be 67 next month and retired from the many different jobs in my working life. I guess that I didn’t ever find my calling. I went to university at age 59 but when it was over it was too late to launch a new career. I wanted to lecture but students don’t want to listen to old fogies, so sadly I put aside that idea and settled into life as an eccentric dog owner.

I live in a beautiful Lancashire valley surrounded by hills that demand they be walked/climbed, how could I refuse?

I would like to do a bit of cycle touring but a recent diagnosis of spondylosis and some hip pain means that I may not be doing a world tour anytime soon!

I’m keen to make some friends as I have been on my own for a very long time now, my daughters don’t bother much with me and I don’t have a partner.I didn’t expect to be so isolated at this time in my life, isn’t it strange the way family and friends seem to forget us when we get past 60?

I will pop in regularly and hope to strike up some friendships.


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Carobyloch
28th May 2020 13:41:50
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Hello Celtwitch,
I'm new on here and just finding time to have a look around...
Read your post and can truly sympathise. I have a somewhat different viewpoint
of being 'old' ....you become invisible ! ...and yes, family certainly do seem to forget
us as we age |(or certainly seem to want to).
I would love to chat if you'd care to ...
p.s....Celtwitch ? ...tell me more.
Response from CaroleAH made on 28th May 2020 14:40:48
Hello, Carobyloch,
Celtwitch disappeared from the site quite a while ago but there are plenty more people to chat to. I notice that you are from Scotland - whereabouts? I love coming up to Scotland and have always felt a particular affinity with the Dumfries & Galloway area so it was no surprise, when researching my family tree, to find that many of my ancestors lived there (Kirkinner, Newton Stewart).
Carole 🙂
Response from Carobyloch made on 29th May 2020 15:09:57 > @CaroleAH
Hello again....don't know quite what happened there, was happily typing away and then all disappeared ! Aah well, hopefully you received first part of my post so I'll
sign off now.
Carobyloch
Response from CaroleAH made on 29th May 2020 19:13:35
Hi Carobyloch - I've replied in private chat to your post.
Response from CaroleAH made on 9th Jun 2020 00:09:42 > @Carobyloch
Hi Carobyloch! I had a notification from Silversurfers to say that there was a message from you in Chat - when I checked there was nothing there and all your previous chat messages have disappeared as well. I'm wondering if you pressed Leave Chat intentionally of by mistake! Please can you contact me again if you would like to. Thanks, Carole 🙂
Response from Bobhonda made on 19th Jun 2020 11:13:28 > @CaroleAH
Fancy a chat with someone outside of my country. I am from Taiwan and have been studying MBA in Sheffield University in year 2000, I miss my time in the UK.

I currently work for a European company that design and manufacture Medical Device.

Everything seems OK so far, but have a bit of mid-age thinking and try to figure out what life can be better in near future.
Response from Buffs67 made on 1st Jul 2020 08:00:12 > @Carobyloch
Dear Carobyloch,
If you're still looking for new pen pals, I would be very interested in exchanging emails with you. I'm a man in his mid-seventies living alone here in Colorado, US, and I would enjoy chatting with you about anything that interests you. Having worked very briefly in Surrey several years ago, I became an incurable anglophile in search of anything English or Scottish or Welsh or Irish. (My ancestors on my father's side came here from Scotland a long time ago.) Your thoughts on current situations, travel, politics, history, religion, personal lifestyle, animals, and the like would certainly be enjoyable.
Joe
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 1st Jul 2020 08:01:55 > @Buffs67
Hi Buffs67,

Welcome and many thanks for your first comment in our Forum.

If you already know your way around, then we will leave you to it.

If you are looking for some lively discussions, head on over to the Forum homepage to see what's trending right now and feel free to join in the discussions, with all our friendly members, perhaps ask a question or even start your own post.

Response from Carobyloch made on 3rd Jul 2020 14:26:11 > @Buffs67
Well, hello Joe ...... so nice of you to mail me, and yes, I would love to
exchange views with you on various subjects. Probably best if we don't
comment on current respective leaders though !!
Yes, I do live next to the sea on West Coast of Scotland - both my parents were Scottish, but I was born and brought up in Yorkshire..... (o.k.a. Gods own country). Don't suppose you've heard of that though, being from the states.
So......Colorado ? You'll have to tell me more, never been, although have been to few states over there. Been several times to Chicago to stay with friend I met in Turkey (we were both friends with same Turkish friend). Been to Florida, very briefly, also New York, New Jersey, Iowa, Los Angeles, Michigan, oh, musn't forget Hawaii of course.
Will try to be brief now, as who knows, you may be getting lots of new mails!
Can assure you where I live is NOTHING like Surrey, although suppose they
both bring a lot their individual beauty to the U.K.
Tell me, whereabouts did your ancestors come from in Scotland....what was their name? There are old clan maps available that show which area of
Scotland certain names come from, but suppose you know that anyhow.

Well, would certainly love to exchange views, as you say, but you might have received lots of mail, so won't keep you any longer reading mine.
Would love to hear more from you.......bye for now.....
Carol.
Response from Buffs67 made on 4th Jul 2020 07:49:33 > @Carobyloch
Carol,
Thank you for replying! It was a long shot that you might be interested, but learning all about you and your background and travels sounds really exciting. I hope I can offer enough in return to keep you interested because I have thousands of questions about what you think on so many things.

But first, something you said spurred an old memory and I burst out laughing: you mentioned meeting a friend in Turkey, with a Turkish friend in common, and then visiting your friend in Chicago. Do you remember the old James Bond 007 movie, From Russia with Love? In it, Bond's sidekick captures one of the Russian bad guys, ties him up, and then questions him: " So your mother wasn't Turkish. What a coincidence! My mother wasn't Turkish either!" That was funny! Just wanted to share it. : )
So, I worked briefly in Guildford and Redhill, BUT also in Izmir (Smyrna), and my mother isn't Turkish either. : ) Sorry, I'll quit being dumb. My job also took me to Egypt and Norway and Argentina and Dublin and Montreal and lots of US cities. Eritrea was also in the plans, but Ethiopia was bombing the airport at the time, so that got scrubbed. But I was never involved in any projects in Asia.

My gosh, you have traveled a lot in the US! You probably know more about this country than I do. I would really love to know what you think about those places. Most of them are among the 'good' places here, I feel.

Perhaps we could send emails from our own accounts to each other to keep our discussion less public, if that works well for you too. I guess the private chat allows messages so we can send email addresses? Do you know how that works?

I really look forward to talking more about your travels and Scotland and other questions you asked that I didn't answer in this message. This is a lot of fun!
Joe
PS. Since you lived in Yorkshire, are you considered a 'Geordie'?
Response from Buffs67 made on 7th Jul 2020 04:23:05 > @Carobyloch
Carol, was my chat message reply sent to you? All have disappeared on my log. Must be doing something wrong. Joe
Response from Lizann made on 7th Jul 2020 19:16:11 > @Buffs67
Hi buffs 67 would you like a pen pal . I also hsve scotish ancestors on my farthers side from Edinburgh . A few years ago i visited the scotish highlands for the first time and fell in love with the vast area am hoping to return when a bit of normality returns . Regards ann
Scotsfemale 54
3 days ago (Last activity: 27th Mar 2024 20:51:26)
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Hiya, Im female 62 and live in Scotland, I know exactly how you feel. I live on my own dont have any friends and kids do their own thing.
Response from PatriciaB96 made 18 hours ago
Good evening, welcome to the site , there are lots of people here and from..all walks of life , many topics you can chat about
Response from Scotsfemale 54 made 17 hours ago
Thank you Patricia : -)
loulou66666
1 days ago (Last activity: 27th Mar 2024 19:58:04)
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Hi would love to chat Louise
Response from PatriciaB96 made 18 hours ago
Good evening, I hope you will make lots of new friends here , it's a nice site,
PatriciaB96
18 hours ago
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Good evening and welcome to the site, I hope you will make lots of new friends here
Milt1952
9th Mar 2024 20:13:34 (Last activity: 13th Mar 2024 09:15:58)
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I’m a 71 year old African American male and I live in Naperville, a western suburb of Chicago. I retired a few years ago and I’ve been an empty nester for over 5 years. I miss regular online interaction. I’m looking for online penpals to share email a few times a week. Making new friends is a way to ward off loneliness, and it brings a sense of joy and curiosity. Having new friends makes for a feeling of belonging which gives people satisfaction. I like living life vicariously through the daily life and experiences of others.
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 13th Mar 2024 09:15:58
Good morning and welcome to the site , I hope you will make lots of new friends here , there are many nice people here , lots to.chat about , good luck .
BBB1
22nd Feb 2024 03:20:00
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So sorry. Hope you feel better soon!
BBB1
22nd Feb 2024 03:19:05
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wonderful! best to you.
happydays75
14th Feb 2024 15:58:28 (Last activity: 19th Feb 2024 16:04:50)
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recently widowed age 75
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 16:04:50
Sorry for your loss. It takes time to get through it…not over it, just through it. It is said that it takes about 1/3 the number of years together for the healing process to start. So don't think that there's something wrong with you if the process takes a while it's not moribund mourning.... it's actually quite normal.
Bless you
Andree Rachele
17th Feb 2024 21:44:57 (Last activity: 19th Feb 2024 16:00:48)
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We'll hello ..same as me xx
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 16:00:48
I see from your posting - and so many other posts - that many people come from the UK. I, on the other hand, come from one of the colonies… America. I welcome and appreciate the opportunity to communicate with you and exchange ideas about what's going on in your world and mine. Thank you.
Chris375
17th Feb 2024 23:51:14 (Last activity: 19th Feb 2024 15:59:54)
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Hi, Christine from Bristol here for the first time.
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 15:59:54
I see from your posting - and so many other posts - that many people come from the UK. I, on the other hand, come from one of the colonies… America. I welcome and appreciate the opportunity to communicate with you and exchange ideas about what's going on in your world and mine. Thank you.
2LateSmart
19th Feb 2024 15:56:01
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I think it's been said that the Jews have a way of describing what you mentioned...a parent can raise five children but five children can not take care of one parent. Must be frustrating for you especially since it seems that you strive to do more things and better yourself. Don't waste anymore time dwelling on the past and how children have let you down when you needed them. That happens. It says more about them than it says about you. If they can turn their back on you after all the years that you've given them what will it take for them to turn their backs on their partners.
Don't give up.
StuartEngland
17th Feb 2024 09:20:17
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Hi, I'm Stuart, from Cheshire. I know exactly what you mean. I went back to college in my late 40s so I take my hat off to you. I'd be happy to chat and see if we could spark off a friendship? Not quite sure how it all works though. Would we just message here?
Fugazi64
29th Jan 2024 09:53:13 (Last activity: 16th Feb 2024 14:06:59)
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Hello,

I have been a member here now for the best part of three minutes so thought it was about time I left a message. Pity that I can't think of anything interesting to say, but i guess that good manners dictate that I should introduce myself. I am not sure how we deal with real names here so will leave that for now, but I am a single man living in Gateshead who will turn 60 in two days time. I am happy with my lot, but also maybe considering a little bit of a reboot.

Looking forward to meeting you all.
Response from Iss made on 2nd Feb 2024 15:21:51
Hello Fugazi64 Just to say I hope you have a lovely 60th birthday. I come from Scotland and thought I would come on and see who I could chat too as the weather here is horrible . Iss
Response from Fugazi64 made on 3rd Feb 2024 11:02:50 > @Iss
Hello Iss,

Lovely to hear from you. I had a good day on my birthday (just quiet drinks with my brother and sister) and a few days off work either side, which was nice.

In Gateshead the weather is drizzly.....always!!!.....I quite like it really.

Take care and keep in touch. it would be nice to know more about you.

Bob
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 16th Feb 2024 14:06:59
Good afternoon and welcome to the site , I hope you make lots of new friends here , many nice people and lots to chat about , enjoy your day
LissaJ
18th Jan 2024 21:13:06 (Last activity: 2nd Feb 2024 15:33:14)
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I just joined yesterday, I can understand how you are feeling, I'm a young 71, just lost my husband 2 months ago, I don't have any family close to me, so it is very lonely, and i have learned over the years that its not strange, that's just what they have turned out to be, but yes I agree, they do seem to forget us
Response from Iss made on 2nd Feb 2024 15:33:14
Hi LissaJ Just to say so very sorry to hear about you losing your husband 2 months ago so sad . I hope you find some friends on here to chat too soon if you like you can chat with me anytime so don’t hesitate to do that please . I am a retired lady from Scotland. Hope to hear from you soon. Iss
PatriciaB96
2nd Feb 2024 13:58:15
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Good afternoon, and welcome to the site , there are plenty of people here who are friendly, lots of different topics to chat about , I hope you will enjoy your time here , enjoy your day
Dukey
17th Jan 2024 02:05:22 (Last activity: 25th Jan 2024 12:36:22)
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Hello…I am new so bear with me.
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 25th Jan 2024 12:36:22
Good afternoon, it's a nice site , many nice people are here , I hope you will enjoy your time here
sandgrounderinretirement
19th Jan 2024 12:06:39 (Last activity: 21st Jan 2024 15:31:02)
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Just joined today, and I'm in my early 70's, having been retired for a long while. Currently living in Northamptonshire, wher I have been now for two decades. I'm a member of the National Trust and English Heritage, as I enjoy visiting their properties every chance I get Lookng to find like minded people.
Response from Beauty made on 21st Jan 2024 15:31:02
Hi SG etc Hope you make friends on here....friendly site. All the best
PatriciaB96
21st Jan 2024 13:13:04
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Hi , try your local citizen advice bureau, or your local council
redrover3
20th Jan 2024 13:10:00
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Hi I’m Alan I’ve just joined SS as I retired in January just what can I claim now I’ve go my bus pass
Can you claim on council tax ?
LissaJ
17th Jan 2024 19:45:44 (Last activity: 19th Jan 2024 20:46:46)
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Hello, I'm new too nice to meet you
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 18th Jan 2024 09:21:04
Good morning, nice to you a new member too
Response from LissaJ made on 18th Jan 2024 21:18:54 > @PatriciaB96
Thank you, its a little mid boggling to maneuver this site, any tips?
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 19th Jan 2024 20:46:46 > @LissaJ
Hi , no tips , sorry , just a little patience, your get used to it
Dukey
17th Jan 2024 02:06:00 (Last activity: 18th Jan 2024 21:17:22)
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Hello…I am new so bear with me.

Dukey
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 18th Jan 2024 09:22:10
Good morning a nice to meet a new member on here
Response from LissaJ made on 18th Jan 2024 21:17:22
Hi Dukey, I am also new here, joined yesterday (Wednesday)
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