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Just joined so I'm introducing myself.

I will be 67 next month and retired from the many different jobs in my working life. I guess that I didn’t ever find my calling. I went to university at age 59 but when it was over it was too late to launch a new career. I wanted to lecture but students don’t want to listen to old fogies, so sadly I put aside that idea and settled into life as an eccentric dog owner.

I live in a beautiful Lancashire valley surrounded by hills that demand they be walked/climbed, how could I refuse?

I would like to do a bit of cycle touring but a recent diagnosis of spondylosis and some hip pain means that I may not be doing a world tour anytime soon!

I’m keen to make some friends as I have been on my own for a very long time now, my daughters don’t bother much with me and I don’t have a partner.I didn’t expect to be so isolated at this time in my life, isn’t it strange the way family and friends seem to forget us when we get past 60?

I will pop in regularly and hope to strike up some friendships.


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sandra485
7th May 2021 18:13:07
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Hi I noticed that your post dated 2015 so not sure is you are still interested in chatting with anybody
My name is Sandra and I’m 71 and I live up in the Pennines in Lancashire and one of my biggest joy is walking my dog Ellie
I’m a carer for my husband who is had several strokes
Sandra
Response from Trillium made on 7th May 2021 20:43:23
Sandra
People get lost on this site and so there are many old messages that go unanswered. There should be less categories and a better way to get around the site and find your way back to the messages you responded to.
Response from Alfred6 made on 8th May 2021 10:30:54
Would like to start correspondence with you.....if agreeable..

regards,

Al
Response from sandra485 made on 8th May 2021 11:54:36 > @Trillium
I am glad I am not the only one
It is a interesting site but
Response from sandra485 made on 8th May 2021 12:01:57 > @Alfred6
Not sure if this is a forum site or one to one chat
I haven’t really got to grips with it yet
A general pen friend...as longs as there are no debates etc
I am easygoing...I think
I have just updated my profile
Response from sandra485 made on 14th May 2021 17:32:08 > @Trillium
Trillium
It confused me with the dates
Hope you have a good day
Sandra
Response from Trillium made on 15th May 2021 04:54:46 > @Alfred6
Hi There Alfred6
Not sure if you were referring to Sandra 485 or Trillium to correspond with so I thought I would just write ....
I live in the heart of downtown Toronto on the shores of Lake Ontario. I am retired and enjoy the free time that it affords me to travel, except of course during the Pandemic. We have been in lockdown as long as I can remember, but thankfully we can travel within Canada and it’s a big country. Love both the west and east coast ... each very different and each absolutely breathtaking.
Cheers,
Anna
Response from sandra485 made on 15th May 2021 21:58:47 > @Alfred6
Hi have you found somebody to chat to
I do find this site a bit confusing
Sandra
Response from Novram made on 21st May 2021 17:00:06 > @Trillium
I agree with you Trillium. The site is confusing. I'm a retired PC tech in Maryland, U.S. I use to work on computers for a living and I get lost on some of these web pages too.
Response from Codymitz made on 21st May 2021 20:49:05 > @Trillium
I totally agree. There are far too many options and so many old messages. I’ve just started here but once I write something I can’t get back to the same but the next day. Just full of folk introducing themselves
Response from Ariadne made on 22nd May 2021 10:02:06 > @Trillium
Hello fellow lost souls !!!! I have been wandering this maze for years .I find someone I could enjoy getting to know ,and they disappear, probably in the same maze .Very frustrating, and so I don't bother,for while ,Maybe if SALLY. the owner read all the posts on this subject .from LOTS of us she,might do some directions.for us ,
Or, she might enjoy seeing us all flounder .if on the off chance anyone would like to chat , I'm here !!!!!! Waiting !!!!!
Response from Ariadne made on 22nd May 2021 10:24:30 > @sandra485
Hi Sandra ,from over the border . this just might be our lucky day to start ,and keep in touch, fingers crossed
Response from sandra485 made on 22nd May 2021 17:38:10 > @Ariadne
Hi sandra here...
This is a really difficult sight to navigate
But hopefully I am responding to you.. over the border in Scotland
I am In Lancashire
I did think of contacting Sally but let’s see how this goes
It will be great chatting I could bit irregular with replies but I will reply
Sandra
Response from Codymitz made on 23rd May 2021 13:25:30 > @Ariadne
I could not agree more. It’s really disappointing because it seems so many people really do just want to chat and state they are having similar issues. Sometimes a chat is all they want. Once you say hello you can’t find the same spot again. Frustrating It’s full of folk saying exactly the same thing so you have to ask why it’s not being addressed
Scotsfemale 54
4 days ago (Last activity: 27th Mar 2024 20:51:26)
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Hiya, Im female 62 and live in Scotland, I know exactly how you feel. I live on my own dont have any friends and kids do their own thing.
Response from PatriciaB96 made 1 days ago
Good evening, welcome to the site , there are lots of people here and from..all walks of life , many topics you can chat about
Response from Scotsfemale 54 made 1 days ago
Thank you Patricia : -)
loulou66666
2 days ago (Last activity: 27th Mar 2024 19:58:04)
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Hi would love to chat Louise
Response from PatriciaB96 made 1 days ago
Good evening, I hope you will make lots of new friends here , it's a nice site,
PatriciaB96
1 days ago
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Good evening and welcome to the site, I hope you will make lots of new friends here
Milt1952
9th Mar 2024 20:13:34 (Last activity: 13th Mar 2024 09:15:58)
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I’m a 71 year old African American male and I live in Naperville, a western suburb of Chicago. I retired a few years ago and I’ve been an empty nester for over 5 years. I miss regular online interaction. I’m looking for online penpals to share email a few times a week. Making new friends is a way to ward off loneliness, and it brings a sense of joy and curiosity. Having new friends makes for a feeling of belonging which gives people satisfaction. I like living life vicariously through the daily life and experiences of others.
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 13th Mar 2024 09:15:58
Good morning and welcome to the site , I hope you will make lots of new friends here , there are many nice people here , lots to.chat about , good luck .
BBB1
22nd Feb 2024 03:20:00
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So sorry. Hope you feel better soon!
BBB1
22nd Feb 2024 03:19:05
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wonderful! best to you.
happydays75
14th Feb 2024 15:58:28 (Last activity: 19th Feb 2024 16:04:50)
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recently widowed age 75
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 16:04:50
Sorry for your loss. It takes time to get through it…not over it, just through it. It is said that it takes about 1/3 the number of years together for the healing process to start. So don't think that there's something wrong with you if the process takes a while it's not moribund mourning.... it's actually quite normal.
Bless you
Andree Rachele
17th Feb 2024 21:44:57 (Last activity: 19th Feb 2024 16:00:48)
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We'll hello ..same as me xx
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 16:00:48
I see from your posting - and so many other posts - that many people come from the UK. I, on the other hand, come from one of the colonies… America. I welcome and appreciate the opportunity to communicate with you and exchange ideas about what's going on in your world and mine. Thank you.
Chris375
17th Feb 2024 23:51:14 (Last activity: 19th Feb 2024 15:59:54)
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Hi, Christine from Bristol here for the first time.
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 15:59:54
I see from your posting - and so many other posts - that many people come from the UK. I, on the other hand, come from one of the colonies… America. I welcome and appreciate the opportunity to communicate with you and exchange ideas about what's going on in your world and mine. Thank you.
2LateSmart
19th Feb 2024 15:56:01
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I think it's been said that the Jews have a way of describing what you mentioned...a parent can raise five children but five children can not take care of one parent. Must be frustrating for you especially since it seems that you strive to do more things and better yourself. Don't waste anymore time dwelling on the past and how children have let you down when you needed them. That happens. It says more about them than it says about you. If they can turn their back on you after all the years that you've given them what will it take for them to turn their backs on their partners.
Don't give up.
StuartEngland
17th Feb 2024 09:20:17
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Hi, I'm Stuart, from Cheshire. I know exactly what you mean. I went back to college in my late 40s so I take my hat off to you. I'd be happy to chat and see if we could spark off a friendship? Not quite sure how it all works though. Would we just message here?
Fugazi64
29th Jan 2024 09:53:13 (Last activity: 16th Feb 2024 14:06:59)
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Hello,

I have been a member here now for the best part of three minutes so thought it was about time I left a message. Pity that I can't think of anything interesting to say, but i guess that good manners dictate that I should introduce myself. I am not sure how we deal with real names here so will leave that for now, but I am a single man living in Gateshead who will turn 60 in two days time. I am happy with my lot, but also maybe considering a little bit of a reboot.

Looking forward to meeting you all.
Response from Iss made on 2nd Feb 2024 15:21:51
Hello Fugazi64 Just to say I hope you have a lovely 60th birthday. I come from Scotland and thought I would come on and see who I could chat too as the weather here is horrible . Iss
Response from Fugazi64 made on 3rd Feb 2024 11:02:50 > @Iss
Hello Iss,

Lovely to hear from you. I had a good day on my birthday (just quiet drinks with my brother and sister) and a few days off work either side, which was nice.

In Gateshead the weather is drizzly.....always!!!.....I quite like it really.

Take care and keep in touch. it would be nice to know more about you.

Bob
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 16th Feb 2024 14:06:59
Good afternoon and welcome to the site , I hope you make lots of new friends here , many nice people and lots to chat about , enjoy your day
LissaJ
18th Jan 2024 21:13:06 (Last activity: 2nd Feb 2024 15:33:14)
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I just joined yesterday, I can understand how you are feeling, I'm a young 71, just lost my husband 2 months ago, I don't have any family close to me, so it is very lonely, and i have learned over the years that its not strange, that's just what they have turned out to be, but yes I agree, they do seem to forget us
Response from Iss made on 2nd Feb 2024 15:33:14
Hi LissaJ Just to say so very sorry to hear about you losing your husband 2 months ago so sad . I hope you find some friends on here to chat too soon if you like you can chat with me anytime so don’t hesitate to do that please . I am a retired lady from Scotland. Hope to hear from you soon. Iss
PatriciaB96
2nd Feb 2024 13:58:15
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Good afternoon, and welcome to the site , there are plenty of people here who are friendly, lots of different topics to chat about , I hope you will enjoy your time here , enjoy your day
Dukey
17th Jan 2024 02:05:22 (Last activity: 25th Jan 2024 12:36:22)
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Hello…I am new so bear with me.
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 25th Jan 2024 12:36:22
Good afternoon, it's a nice site , many nice people are here , I hope you will enjoy your time here
sandgrounderinretirement
19th Jan 2024 12:06:39 (Last activity: 21st Jan 2024 15:31:02)
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Just joined today, and I'm in my early 70's, having been retired for a long while. Currently living in Northamptonshire, wher I have been now for two decades. I'm a member of the National Trust and English Heritage, as I enjoy visiting their properties every chance I get Lookng to find like minded people.
Response from Beauty made on 21st Jan 2024 15:31:02
Hi SG etc Hope you make friends on here....friendly site. All the best
PatriciaB96
21st Jan 2024 13:13:04
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Hi , try your local citizen advice bureau, or your local council
redrover3
20th Jan 2024 13:10:00
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Hi I’m Alan I’ve just joined SS as I retired in January just what can I claim now I’ve go my bus pass
Can you claim on council tax ?
LissaJ
17th Jan 2024 19:45:44 (Last activity: 19th Jan 2024 20:46:46)
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Hello, I'm new too nice to meet you
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 18th Jan 2024 09:21:04
Good morning, nice to you a new member too
Response from LissaJ made on 18th Jan 2024 21:18:54 > @PatriciaB96
Thank you, its a little mid boggling to maneuver this site, any tips?
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 19th Jan 2024 20:46:46 > @LissaJ
Hi , no tips , sorry , just a little patience, your get used to it
Dukey
17th Jan 2024 02:06:00 (Last activity: 18th Jan 2024 21:17:22)
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Hello…I am new so bear with me.

Dukey
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 18th Jan 2024 09:22:10
Good morning a nice to meet a new member on here
Response from LissaJ made on 18th Jan 2024 21:17:22
Hi Dukey, I am also new here, joined yesterday (Wednesday)
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