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Is there life after caring for an elderly relative?

Hi, I Have been on my own for many years but had many friends and an active life style until I had to leave work to care for a parent and little by little friends slipped away, which I understand when you cannot go out any longer and you have nothing to contribute to the conversation except bed baths and bed pans lol which is not really topic to highlight but when that is your day what can you contribute? the friends started to move away and start forging new lives for themselves and you are left behind then as suddenly as it begins it ends have had no one to care for now for 11 months spend most of the day in the house and I am extremely bored but have nothing


The friends started to move away and start forging new lives for themselves and you are left behind then as suddenly as it begins it ends have had no one to care for now for 11 months, spend most of the day in the house and I am extremely bored but have nothing to do or nowhere to go, so looking forward to making new friends on here. I like lots of things just started swimming again and I love family history reading all sorts really.


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jeanmark
3rd Aug 2017 14:25:04
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Thanks for voting!
Hi Annette, have you considered your local WI? You may well meet other women in similar situations to yourself, either way you will be able to make new friends.
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CaroleAH
3rd Aug 2017 10:57:30
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Thanks for voting!
Hi Annette, have you thought about joining your local U3A? If you Google U3A plus the area where you live you should find your nearest one. There are usually loads of interest groups ranging from antiques, book groups, language groups, gardening and line-dancing etc. The members are usually retired or semi-retired and you can dip in and out of the groups as the fancy takes you although it's better to attend all the language classes so that you don't miss out on vocabulary. Our garden group organises trips to gardens all over Yorkshire and we go on holiday as well to visit well-known gardens such as Great Dixter which is too far for a day trip. My local U3A also has two Family History groups which help when you are stuck with your research. Good luck and do join in with topics on SS which you find interesting. Another way of meeting people is to act as a volunteer in a charity shop. It can be daunting when you have been at home and isolated for a long time but once you have made the first step, as you already have done if you have started to go swimming again, then things will gradually fall into place.
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