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I am considering moving my 85yr old father into my home to be able to look after him in the future. I hope to be able to give him his own living room n bedroom so he can retain his independence. Has anyone done something similar?
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He says he doesn’t want to come because he doesn’t want to sell his house or leave it empty. But he comes round every evening till bedtime. I walk him home but hate leaving him.
But then he expects me to go round to his in the day time which is not always possible as I work from home. The trouble is I feel so guilty when I am not able to be with him.
Is this because it’s still early days or what?
I can’t see me having my own life (my fault not his) as I don’t want him to be alone and unhappy.
How have people coped in similar situations?
Sad ending but just how she would have wanted it...I found her dead in her chair one morning she was 82 . I couldn't get a response when I kept ringing her, so had to let myself in...couldn't find her at first and then spotted her slumped sideways in her armchair. She must have been there a while and was turning blue.
I sat next to her while they sent a doctor to confirm her death, and also the police had to come as she had not seen a doctor for years. My sister arrived within about 45 minutes, and we both gave mum a kiss then went into the bedroom while they lifted her body and took it to the mortuary.
We can both say we did our best for them though.
It must have been a shock for you and something you won't ever forget to find her turning blue ..
I comfort myself that in her last years mum was really happy , she was cremated here in Scotland but then we took her ashes back to Lancashire and had a Memorial in the Church where she was married and a party afterward .she still had 2 sister's left who both reached their 90's the last one going 2 years ago at 96 ..both had heart failure ..my hubby reckons I will go to be that age too , I am fitter than him and he is 10 yrs younger .. ha ha .
ps you don't look bad yourself considering you will soon be a pensioner .. lol xx