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Lonely and vulnerable and looking to chat

I’m alone, I have no family support or friends.


I’m sad to think that I have two neighbours both know that I’m alone and disabled yet not one of them has even put a note through my door to ask if I’m ok , what happened to community support!!


Has Scotland just decided to look after number one??


I would appreciate it if I just had someone to talk to 😢


Created By on 26/03/2020

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country lady
4 days ago (Last activity: 4th Jul 2020 07:11:18)
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what would u like to talk about. do u have a hibby?
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lunastar
30th Jun 2020 06:18:00 (Last activity: 30th Jun 2020 07:56:35)
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I think that a lot of people just look after themselves now, perhaps your neighbours do not realise how low you are feeling. Please ring them up and say it's just for a chat as you have been feeling lonely on your own, ask them how they are, how they are coping. Also even if you don't go to church, why not contact them as well as most if them are only to willing to get you some shopping if you are stuck in or provide support, also Age Concern might be worth calling. Thank goodness for the Internet, the revision and radio.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 30th Jun 2020 07:56:35
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Alain
21st May 2020 16:49:44 (Last activity: 23rd May 2020 11:18:43)
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Hi KiaraR.
I hope you get this message as I have only just joined silversurfers and not sure if it works.
It maybe that your neighbours are not ignoring you but are frightend of spreading the damn virus. It worries me a lot.

I think a lot of people are feeling lonely and vulnerable now. I know I am.
I too live alone and have been a prisoner in my tiny bungalow since 9th March. I miss having someone to talk to but I have lived alone for the last 9 years.so I am used to it mostly

First things first, are you getting food delivered and any medication you need.
Do you have a garden you can get out to.
Today for the first time I went out and sat in the sun in my tiny little garden which is so overgrown. Its nice to see the weeds growing and the birds chirping.

Wish I could help more

Ive just come in as my hair is so long now Im going to use one of those electric hair shavers. Trouble is its a dog one with individual combs for dfferent hair lengths, Do you think I should go for a Spaniel look or Jack Russel.

Do you read or like music. Ive just started reading again after a break of a couple of years or so. As for music I listen to my YouTube playlist and in my mind travel off to different places and times.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 21st May 2020 16:54:50
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Response from The_bees_knees made on 22nd May 2020 09:29:48
Hello Alain,

I have just read your message and you seem such a caring and compassionate person as I was reading your post...but I had to tell you what a good laugh I have had this morning as I wasn't expecting the humour!

Firstly, it would appear your hair had grown in the time it had taken to enjoy the growth & birdsong in the garden.....then come the cutters & then I was 'howling' by the time you mention dog cutters ( I hope you have a gig....or perhaps a dog-grooming business at least....to own such a contraption!)
Now if you have curly hair...you could sport the latest architectural poodle-cut!

Thank you Alain for my morning quota of fun. It is important to have some sense of humour...times are dire and testing right now!

Enjoy you day..and your new 'do'
Response from Alain made on 23rd May 2020 11:18:43 > @The_bees_knees
Hello the bees knees,
I did cut my hair. I had to as it was so long I could have put it in a short pony tail or even more disturbingly bunches either side of my head.
I feel a lot better with it shorter despite feeling colder in the neck region.

I decided that I would poke my nose out of the front door yesterday. I’m lucky as my tiny bungalow is 1 of 9 in a little group.
There is a large communal garden so at 6.30 am I slipped on a pair of shorts and Tee shirt and went for a few laps walking round the garden. There was no one about and it was sunny and warm. It did feel good to be in "Outside World" again. and because its a private garden I wasn’t breaking curfew

I did meet one neighbour, and keeping a good distance apart, we discussed his plants in the garden as he said that "something" had been eating them.
Note to self. Make set of very large wooden Bear feet to make footprints into soil around his plants..

I’ve spent far too much time curled up on the sofa, eating things not good for me and watching Netflix,. so I need to get back in shape or at least some sort of shape.
Carobyloch
20th May 2020 15:11:17 (Last activity: 22nd May 2020 05:43:48)
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Hello, not sure I'm doing this right as very new to this but Hi to bigsammy, I'm from your neck o'the woods as well....v.happy to chat.
Big Hi to Kiara as well.....sure I'm not doing this right....how do I make sure my messages are getting through .....?
Response from bigsammy made on 20th May 2020 15:50:52
hi carobyloch..yes your doing right..im near stranraer if your near there.
Response from Carobyloch made on 21st May 2020 14:02:36 > @bigsammy
Hi bigsammy, thks. for response.....sorry abt yesterday ...no, I'm not usually so dizzy, just having fraught day and trying to deal with too many things at same time - usually I'm quite sane !
I know Stranraer, don't live million miles away. Unfortunately still busy at present, should have
much more time to explore and chat on this site next week when things have quietened down.
Nice to know there's someone more or less local to chat with - tell me more...
bye for now....
Response from bigsammy made on 22nd May 2020 05:43:48 > @Carobyloch
hi carobyloch..ty for replying.once you have settled down at home,and things quiet down for you and you have more time,we will chat and catch up.thank you..p.s. dont over do it..lol
Flower41
20th May 2020 17:17:31
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Hi KiaraR. I'm so saddened to learn you are so alone. If lived closer I would certainly pop over and say hello and make sure you have a friendly face and someone to share a few words with. Do you not have anyone in the care sector or services that checks up on you? Maybe if you are able you could say hello to your neighbours and let them see you are up for a chat. Best wishes KiaraR from Flower 41
bigsammy
19th May 2020 13:31:38 (Last activity: 20th May 2020 09:31:13)
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hi kiara..dont feel lonely..im in scotland also..alway here for chat.x
Response from MayaMac made on 20th May 2020 07:34:29
I left a message some time back but no reply. On scrolling I see others have too. Hope she is ok. Pl let us know if you hear. Thks
Response from bigsammy made on 20th May 2020 09:31:13 > @MayaMac
i will mayamac..hope your well.x
Carobyloch
18th May 2020 15:41:36 (Last activity: 18th May 2020 16:18:07)
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Hello Kiara,
Just joined this afternoon, and like you, live in Scotland.
So sorry to hear your comments...its a pity but unfortunately some
people simply do not care as I know from personal experience within
my own family. I would love to chat with you....and anyone else feeling
lonely in these troubled times.
Will look forward to hearing from you.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 18th May 2020 16:18:07
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MayaMac
6th May 2020 16:01:37 (Last activity: 11th May 2020 07:55:06)
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I am so sorry to see this post. I see you have written it a we while ago Kiara and I have recently joined Silversurfers so I hope you have had some good replies by now. Where in Scotland are you. I'm in Ayrshire and this lockdown is getting us down but we have to keep cheerful and look out for one another - please reply.
Response from fernwalker12 made on 11th May 2020 00:26:13
Hello MayaMac,

Are you still in lockdown? I haven’t checked the news today. They set us “free” last week here in South Carolina. Since then I have done some exploring. I lived in Maine along the coast before coming here to be with my daughter and grandchildren, so the ocean was always near. Here in SC, I’m about an hour away. Last Sunday I was aching to see the ocean, so I drove to Sullivan’s Island where I discovered only residents were allowed on the island. Fortunately, the officer let me drive onto the island to have a brief look at the ocean because I had come so far. Bless his heart he made my day!
Response from MayaMac made on 11th May 2020 07:55:06 > @fernwalker12
Hi yes we have been informed 3 more weeks for us although England is moving forward at a different pace. Personally I would like the whole of Britain to advance together but sadly that us not going to be. Your outing sounds fabby and well done on your ‘release’ . Have a great day x
fernwalker12
11th May 2020 00:17:08
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Hello KiaraR,

If they haven’t contacted you to see how you’re doing, then you should contact them to see how they are doing so you can then tell them how you’re doing. Sometimes you have to do things backwards to get the results you want and have a sense of humor in the process.

There are so many wonderful things to do indoors! Make new friends on Silversurfers, surf the Internet on any topic that comes to mind because as you know - the Internet is the largest library in the world! You can teach yourself any number of things using the Internet, like knitting, drawing, painting, writing, guitar playing, and the list goes on and on!

I hope you will reach out to people. I’m sure you’ll find new friends if you do.
Smiley1234
9th May 2020 16:42:19 (Last activity: 9th May 2020 16:57:02)
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Hi. I am sorry for you. I wish that people can see that you are in need of a friend. I hope you can feel better.
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Brightandbreezy
2nd May 2020 15:22:39
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Hello KiaraR. It's good that you have stretched out to talk to us on Silversurfers. I'm new on here too. It's sad that your neighbours haven't just tapped the window to check you don't need anything I have the same here on Thurs Eve's as I am the only one in my row who comes out to clap for the Key Workers. I just make more noise... Who knows what's going to happen. Hope you have some sort of a lifeline?.
NinKi
25th Apr 2020 10:14:19 (Last activity: 25th Apr 2020 10:24:44)
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Are you able to put a note through their door to ask if they are OK? Especially at this terrible time.
A lot of the time people get so wrapped up in their own lives they need a jolt of somebody else showing some humanity to get them moving in the right direction.
I understand being isolated. Virus took my job, have to stay home except for necessary shopping and dog and cat just don't talk that much.
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Kate53
23rd Apr 2020 09:14:29 (Last activity: 24th Apr 2020 16:49:53)
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Hi KiaraR... Like yours , my neighbours aren't community minded, and don't bother to ask if they can help... I'm disabled and my husband has renal failure, so though I have him to chat to, I'd love to chat to others... I'm finding being stuck in all the time getting me down... Our son lives in Northamptonshire and he can't visit...
So if you still want someone to chat to, I'd love to hear from you

Take care
Response from Raymon made on 24th Apr 2020 16:27:27
Hi at home enjoying the sun if you fancy a chat
Response from Kate53 made on 24th Apr 2020 16:49:53 > @Raymon
Hi Raymon, I'm always up for a chat ... The weather is glorious, just what we need in these uncertain times... Hope you are well
Raymon
24th Apr 2020 16:26:01
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brunohector
24th Apr 2020 13:34:26 (Last activity: 24th Apr 2020 13:56:12)
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Suggest you make the first move by explaining who you are and asking if they are keeping well and how coping with the social distancing. Scots are famed for their hospitality and by reaching out in this positive way you may find they appreciate hearing from you.
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pnoot
22nd Apr 2020 05:01:48 (Last activity: 22nd Apr 2020 08:41:32)
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I hope so as well
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Dennis the menace
21st Apr 2020 09:40:49
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Hope since you posted this message things have changed for you.
Mo2311
18th Apr 2020 16:14:18
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Hya
Do you speak when you see theses neighbours ?
I also live alone and disabled
I have a dog called prince
Who is my saviour.
My family FaceTime me
2/3 times a day.
To make sure I’m ok
Things are not the same
As it was years ago
You knew everyone
But hopefully with this virus
It will bring people together
Hope you are ok
And would like a chat
Mari50
10th Apr 2020 19:33:44 (Last activity: 14th Apr 2020 21:08:18)
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Hiya Kiara R
I know the feeling. It is the same in Cornwall. I am also disabled and used to go out for a walk, just for a few minutes just by my flat. Up to a week ago I could go to the nearest carpark and walk around there for five minutes and see no one.

Last Sunday 6/4 I saw three youths and a girl together walking along the road and several people have notice more people out and about and a lot more cars. No more walking for me for a while. People do not observe the 2metres either.

I do some crafts when I am able and I read.
Response from Wilf made on 14th Apr 2020 21:08:18
Hello Mari50-I hope you are well. I spent 6 months in lovely Cornwall back in 1979 working in hotels there as a waiter. I had a mini with a friend which we bought for only £25 and explored the lovely county. Where could you buy a car now for £25!
Christineloy101
14th Apr 2020 20:07:37 (Last activity: 14th Apr 2020 21:06:34)
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Thanks its very hard to be alone, I lost ,my husdand just over a year ago, I have no kids, my sisters keep in touch, i tend to use facebook meesanger to keep in touch , bit essentially on my own. I am a nurse, could have retired last year, kept it up due to lonliness , so I understand, also line in Scotland, luckily have a garden. look after yourself.
Response from Wilf made on 14th Apr 2020 21:06:34
Hello Christineloy101 and welcome to Silversurfers.There are lots of very friendly folk on here to chat with so no need to be alone! So are you working now as a nurse? The whole country is in debt to you all you are doing an amazing job-thank you!
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