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Lonely and vulnerable and looking to chat

I’m alone, I have no family support or friends.


I’m sad to think that I have two neighbours both know that I’m alone and disabled yet not one of them has even put a note through my door to ask if I’m ok , what happened to community support!!


Has Scotland just decided to look after number one??


I would appreciate it if I just had someone to talk to 😢


Created By on 26/03/2020

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ecarg
4 days ago
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THERE IS NOW A HOTLINE IN PLACE FOR THE VUNERABLE
I CAN'T FIND OUT WHAT IT IS.
IF YOU HAVE IT PLEASE POST IT FOR PEOPLE LIKE KIARA THANKYOU
MollyUK
4 days ago (Last activity: 29th Mar 2020 15:45:07)
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Hi KiaraR. I think there must be hundreds of people out here who feel the same way, including me! Luckily I have my husband to talk to but a spouse just isn't the right person to offload onto sometimes. I'm sure you'll find people on here who will lift your spirits (try one of Lionel's corny jokes - they always give me a smile, anyway).
Keep your pecker up if you can - this surreal period in our history will be over (one day!) and then life can start up again - a different life, I imagine, but at least we won't be stuck indoors alone any more. Chin up, ducks.
Response from Wilf made 4 days ago
My daughter said the same thing Molly tat this is an incredible moment in time. She is going to frame Boris letter to look at in 30 years!
ecarg
4 days ago
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Kiiara
Thanks for letting me know you are from Falkirk
I have left you a post in private chat please keep in touch.
Mabel06
6 days ago (Last activity: 28th Mar 2020 10:53:48)
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Hello KiaraR, we're a friendly bunch here and as Sally says you can get involved by commenting on anything that takes your fancy.

Take care
Response from KiaraR Original Poster made 5 days ago
Thanks Mabel msg me any time you want to have a chat x
Polly60
6 days ago (Last activity: 28th Mar 2020 10:51:48)
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I have just joined and trying to work out how it works
Response from Wilf made 6 days ago
Good morning Polly and welcome to Silversurfers. I have been on here quite a few years and there are lots of very friendly folk on here who are always good for a chat and its pretty easy to use. All the best Wilf
Response from Melina - Assistant Editor made 6 days ago
Hello Polly60 and welcome to Silversurfers. A good way to get involved on our site is to take a look at Current Topics in our Forum and feel free to engage in anything that takes your interest. We also have a very active Speakers Corner section where you may find something that interests you. https://www.silversurfers.com/speakers-corner/ and if you would like to join the discussion on the challenges of self-isolation then here's where to go: https://www.silversurfers.com/silversurfers-forum/topic/daily-diaries-of-those-who-are-self-isolating-due-to-coronavirus/

I hope you enjoy being part of our community.

Melina
Response from KiaraR Original Poster made 5 days ago
I’m just trying to figure this out too, it’s a bit complicated at first but I think I’m getting the hang of it now. Msg me any time you want to chat x
shrew1742
6 days ago (Last activity: 28th Mar 2020 10:48:32)
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Hi KiaraR,
Why don't you try Age UK !! They do a befriending service whereby they introduce you to someone who will call and see you ( although whilst the virus problem is about they are not doing that ) or they will organize with you to have a telephone befriender, who will call you at times suitable to you.
Response from KiaraR Original Poster made 5 days ago
Sounds like a plan, thanks for the information
Johnsom7
6 days ago (Last activity: 28th Mar 2020 10:46:55)
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Hi I am a befriender for the Silverline charity . I chat to some people or are lonely/housebound once a week and sometimes send letters and photos of my family. The letter goes to the Silverline office who forward on to my lady or ladies I talk to. The phone calls are randomly listened into and we are CRB checked so your safety is paramount. It’s lovely when I am told they look forward to my call. I have made deep friendships with the Silverline users and I found I quite rewarding. The telephone no 0800 4 70 80 90. Please ring, they will take your details and arrange to match you up with a befriender who has similar interests. Go for it, good luck
Response from Wilf made 6 days ago
Hello Johnsom7 welcome to Silversurfers. I have been on here quite a few years and there are lots of very friendly folk on here who are always good for a chat. Silverline is a wonderful outfit and I saw Dame Esther on TV tonight talking about it and Childline in these difficult times. Wilf
Response from KiaraR Original Poster made 5 days ago
She does an amazing job!!
ecarg
6 days ago (Last activity: 28th Mar 2020 10:45:07)
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HI kIARA
I live in Dumfries where abouts in Scotland are you.
If you are disabled and living alone why don't you ask the local social services or charaties for help?
Neighbours need to keep their distance and may feel unable to help you.
By posting on silver surfers you get emotional support but you must be more proactive to get practical help.
This may seem harsh but it is up to ourselves to sort out things that we require for ourselves if people don't know you need help it won't be forthcoming
Scotland is looking out for a lot more than number one the NHS Social Care Staff Delivery drivers and countless others are all working hard on behalf of us all at the horrendous time.
Please reach out and see what is available to you.
Response from KiaraR Original Poster made 5 days ago
I’m from Falkirk
Sally - Silversurfer's Editor
26th Mar 2020 19:46:40 (Last activity: 28th Mar 2020 10:38:24)
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Hello KiraraR and welcome to Silversurfers.

Sorry to hear you are feeling lonely 🙁

A good tip on how to get involved on our site is to take a look at Current Topics in our Forum and feel free to engage in anything that takes your interest.

We also have a very active Speakers Corner section where you may find something that interests you. https://www.silversurfers.com/speakers-corner/ and if you would like to join the discussion on the challenges of self-isolation then here's where to go: https://www.silversurfers.com/silversurfers-forum/topic/daily-diaries-of-those-who-are-self-isolating-due-to-coronavirus/

I hope you enjoy being part of our community and find some like minded members to chat with

Best wishes and stay safe

Sally 🙂
Response from KiaraR Original Poster made 5 days ago
Thanks for your support and advice x
cathy321
6 days ago
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Hi Kiara,

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Maybe your neighbours don't realise that you don't have anyone who can help you. I'm guessing that they are just very scared about this situation and trying to figure out the many problems this will have thrown up for them. There are many volunteers who are offering to help people in your situation. Perhaps you would be able to get in touch with a local group who would be able to assist you and make sure that you are getting regular supplies of food and medicines. Also, could you check to see if anyone has set up a WhatsApp group in your area to help people get what they need. I too live alone and nobody has put a not through my door asking if I need help. I'm assuming that they either just haven't thought that I might need help or they know that I have family and, so far, am in reasonable health.

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