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Lonely and vulnerable and looking to chat

I’m alone, I have no family support or friends.


I’m sad to think that I have two neighbours both know that I’m alone and disabled yet not one of them has even put a note through my door to ask if I’m ok , what happened to community support!!


Has Scotland just decided to look after number one??


I would appreciate it if I just had someone to talk to 😢


Created By on 26/03/2020

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CaroB4
17th Jul 2020 17:33:20
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It's not just in Scotland Kiara! Same where I am too! How are things going for you now?
I have dogs to talk to...and it does help! Take care!
Deepeg
17th Aug 2023 01:02:07 (Last activity: 13th Feb 2024 10:47:33)
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Hi folks, I've just joined....and very hapoy to be here..

I'm on my own now in my 60's since my husband has been gone ... looking forward to chatting to everyone, but a little confused about the format not being in date order. It makes it very difficult to read and reply to post in chat

Anyone else finding difficulties
Response from Chermeup made on 28th Nov 2023 21:22:01
Just joined not sure how to go on yet
Response from Chermeup made on 28th Nov 2023 21:23:25
You don’t have to be alone to be lonely
Response from Chermeup made on 28th Nov 2023 21:24:37
Are you still online
Response from ahoffice01 made on 16th Dec 2023 21:50:37 > @Chermeup
That is so very very true
Response from Mandy18h made on 22nd Dec 2023 11:31:34 > @Chermeup
Hello I am Mandy18h. Happy christmas to you. I am from Surrey, & hoping to meet chat with new Lady Friends 50 to 68 . Any ladys from Surrey, Hampshire or sussex . Stay safe everyone regards Mandy18h
Response from Leslie2 made on 28th Dec 2023 19:56:49 > @Chermeup
You are so right Chermeup.
I was even more lonely when I was married than I am now on my own.
I would love to chat with anyone,
I am just here to make friends.
Response from Mandy18h made on 10th Jan 2024 15:44:10 > @Chermeup
Hi there , its a sad world that so many people are lonely . I am trying to keep positive as much as possible. Roll on warmer weather
Response from rickie2 made on 13th Feb 2024 10:47:33 > @Chermeup
so true
rickie2
13th Feb 2024 10:46:58
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i am always willing to chat
Mandy18h
10th Jan 2024 15:39:42
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well said Ian, I am a widow for just over two years. I am alone, although there are neighbours down my private drive way. but no one bothers at all. Such a sad world.
IanHaines
7th Jan 2024 20:00:55
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Friends, family and neighbours no longer know how to be friends, family or neighbours...it's just another tragedy of life in a modern world. The lonely ones are those who are the only ones who ever make phones ring. Loneliness is a ghost town, within us, full of staleness, due to the negligence and disregard of those we though better of, once, a long time ago.
Leslie2
28th Dec 2023 19:52:47
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Hi KiaraR

I certainly hear you when you say neighbors don't care. I am in the same boat as you.
I just recently rejoined this community hoping to have someone to chat with.
There seem to be so many that are terribly lonely with a lot of time on their hands.
including me.
I would be happy to chat with anyone. I love to type and miss not working but no one will hire an old lady even though my fingers still work fine, lol
I hope someone will reply
Mandy18h
22nd Dec 2023 11:27:48
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Hello Its a very sad world out there. I am a widow & feeling vulnerable to say the least . I live in surrey & would welcome Ladies from Surrey , Hampshire or sussex to chat. Till then Happy Christmas ^ a wonderful new year Mandy18h
SillyOldMan
12th Dec 2022 07:22:08 (Last activity: 17th Dec 2023 08:40:03)
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I turn to my laptop with great regularity in the hope of finding someone to chat with.
I'm a retired businessman who turned to Art as a Hobby, the cost of which I used to partially offset with a few sales, but nobody buys pictures anymore so chat is must now be my new hobby,
I must now learn how to navigate the forum, and where to post what,
Response from Flower41 made on 3rd Mar 2023 17:31:34
Hi, There, I wil be happy to chat with you... I hope you are still doing your art work despite folk not wanting to buy. I guess a lot of people are looking to make their money stretch to meet everyday utilities and food prices, which as I'm sure you will agree are horrendously overpriced at the moment. Take care and keep painting. Flower 41
Response from SillyOldMan made on 18th Jul 2023 00:03:18 > @Flower41
Thanks flower.
I'll take care, but i'm sad to say "I've stopped painting".
Response from Flower41 made on 17th Dec 2023 08:40:03 > @SillyOldMan
Hi 'not so sillyoldman' Just thought I'd check in with you again. You say you are not painting anymore. That's sad ... What sort of things do you like to paint? Such a great gift I hope you will or have reconsidered. It's that time of the year again. I swear it comes around faster each yeara bit like our birthdays. Where about are you. I hope your weather is as Clement as mine this morning. No fog or frost, not even rain. Such a treat from last week. Best wishes. I send you a Christmas hug
lunastar
1st Apr 2023 16:47:42
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I’m afraid I give up, why are not posts in date order, they appear all over the place and I fir one find it difficult I’m afraid.
bobbysmithley
19th Mar 2023 05:11:32
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I just signed up and saw your message KiaraR.

It is truly outrageous that no one has reached out to offer support or check in on you, especially given your circumstances. You're right to feel upset about the lack of community support, and it's incredibly disheartening to hear that your neighbours have not stepped up to help.

It's unacceptable that the NHS and your GP have not provided the necessary support or resources to ensure your well-being. It is essential for both your physical and emotional health to have the opportunity to socialize and build connections with others, and the government should be doing more to ensure that people in your position have access to these opportunities.

No one should ever be left feeling so isolated and without support. It's unbelievable that, in this day and age, individuals in need are still slipping through the cracks. The community and the authorities should work together to make sure that everyone has the care and support they deserve.

In the meantime, please know that there are people out there who care and are willing to listen- even though we may be few and far between and not right next door to you, we're here from a distance. If I were nearby I'd say hi, but I'm in London- one of the loneliest cities in the world, where it gives the impression everyone seems to have friends except yourself & everyone appears to be just completely self-obsessed with no ability to see beyond themselves & their immediate needs or gratification.

Reply here if you can.. I'd love to hear an update & see how you're getting on...
lonely2022
12th Nov 2022 21:58:21
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Hi Kiara, I have just joined, and your message from some time ago popped up! So I hope you do not mind I thought I would ask if your situation has improved? I hope so, all the very best Kim x
Arthur1
8th Jan 2021 20:09:25 (Last activity: 26th Feb 2022 23:02:40)
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I’ve lost my wife in july2019 and can under stand you feeling you having being on your own . I Just find it difficult and then to have to put up with covid does not help . Some people will not knock on you door due the covid and it a shame but it hard time at the moment just hope it all works out with the injection . Just keep your chin up and l just hope it improve for you
Cheers
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Response from Margaretbostock made on 19th Feb 2021 11:19:21
Hello I know how you feel . I lost my husband 18 months ago can't quite come to terms with it yet
I have got a lovely daughter but I don't want to burden her.
Response from Arthur1 made on 19th Feb 2021 17:20:28 > @Margaretbostock
Hi Margaret sorry to hear you have lost you partner it’s so hard and lockdown on top of it is tough.
I’m coming to term with my loss but lm still having hard time it’s just a big learning curve but lm getting there and so will you . Thanks for your reply.
Response from Margaretbostock made on 2nd Mar 2021 11:31:44 > @Arthur1
Hello thank you for your reply
Response from Margaretbostock made on 7th Apr 2021 10:56:47 > @Arthur1
Hello im just glad to talk to you . Sorry its late but haven't been on site much please contact again
Response from Arthur1 made on 7th Apr 2021 17:04:07 > @Margaretbostock
Hi Margaret sorry with slow reply just not that good with IT l have never had a face book account or any of the other site sorry to be boring .
It was nice to see you had replied . I’m just trying to find out how to use this site better so we could have a longer chat if your up for that in private.
honestly lm just so sick of not going any where so looking forward to next Monday, do a bit of shopping and in a few weeks go for coffee or a beer . Anyway Margaret hope your doing well and your a bit like me just having a coffee will make a big difference.
Hope to hear from you soon take care .
Response from Arthur1 made on 7th Apr 2021 17:09:01 > @Margaretbostock
Margaret try to contact you but having issues with this site hope this message get to you .
I will try again and thanks for your reply Arthur
Response from Margaretbostock made on 22nd Apr 2021 12:17:44 > @Arthur1
Hello Arthur yes I find it hard to follow . I hope you get this OK
I'm getting through it day by day it takes time. I keep worrying about money can I afford to stay here usual things.. . I'm on messenger but they say never give it out. Go and have a coffee and rest lovely day. Margaret. Have you a e mail
Response from Margaretbostock made on 17th Jun 2021 12:05:03
Hello Arthur please get in contact if you can lovely to hear from you
Response from Margaretbostock made on 17th Jun 2021 12:11:41 > @Arthur1
Sorry its been so long Arthur.just beenabout things its not like me to be like this. I hope you are getting there. Its a miserable day today here in the Midlands. If you have an email please get in touch and tell me and I will get in touch
That should be worryingabout things best wishes
Response from Joy32899 made on 18th Jun 2021 03:12:55 > @Arthur1
My condolence to both Arthur and Margaret. It must be especially hard during the holidays. Please take care of yourselves.
Response from Margaretbostock made on 22nd Jun 2021 11:57:12 > @Joy32899
Thank you for text. Yes its hard but getting there. I start worrying about things. It's silly really I'm not like that, but I was knocked for six. Just never though I would be in this position it happened so quickly (3days)
Response from Margaretbostock made on 22nd Jun 2021 12:00:25 > @Margaretbostock
If you have email please get in touch mine is [email protected]
Response from Safariman made on 22nd Oct 2021 18:49:52 > @Margaretbostock
Hi Margaret, have only been on this site for a few weeks but have been reading some of the more recent posts made on here, it has
saddened me to read that so many people are feeling lonely at this
time, I am single so have never lost a loving spouse so can't imagine
the loss you must feel. I am glad to see that you have had positive
responses from so many people. If you want another one my e-mail
address is [email protected]. Please don't give up hope of
getting through your loss, and it looks like you have a loving daughter. I live in Southampton but have only been here for 7 months so have not had a chance to make any new friends yet.
Where do people of our age (73)go when most people are afraid
to go out in fear of covid. I love to travel and mostly go to East and
Southern Africa, am looking to go back to Cape Town in March or
April next year.Well I have gone on a bit longer than I thought I
would,,so will finish off for now, so take care and stay safe, best
wishes, Terry.
Response from PamJs made on 26th Feb 2022 20:43:35 > @Margaretbostock
Hi Margaret. I too lost my husband in 2020 to liver cancer and I am still working through his loss. My daughter does a lot for me, but she’ has a very responsible job in the health service and I don’t like to keep asking her to sort things I can’t manage.
I have just come out of hospital due to kidney failure, but I am slowly picking up and can do things like empty the kitchen bin and put recycling items out.
I sit alone for many hours and often feel the need to just have a general chat with someone.
I have an 18 month old dog called Ruby and she is a reason to get up in the morning, and she gives me lots of love. I can’t walk her just now, but it’s something I’m working towards.
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WHT
13th Feb 2022 01:02:24
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Can text message them.

is free 24/7 service.
WHT
13th Feb 2022 00:56:28
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Hello KiaraR

I'm fairly new to SS.

How are you coping today? What part of Scotland you from? My mum came from Glasgow. I miss hearing the accent.

I understand where you are coming from as is a question I've often asked in past. But with all scare mongering that has been happening with government and covid people are afraid to 'interact' outside of their own home bubble with people.

I miss the interaction of people in passing and chatting. People I find don't want to stop but just to carry on walking. Unless you are at a bottle neck in the road where some just ignore you as are anxious to pass.

Here's hoping you've not disappeared off the forum!
sweetAlice
12th Feb 2022 21:14:56
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Hi there sorry to hear you are feeling like you are. I think the last couple of years with covid everyone is scared to mix I do hope things get back to what they were but im not sure they will. I recentiy lost my husband for the last 4/5 years life has not been easy ilityI have not been able to leave him alone except once a week when a carer sat with him, we have an old dog who has diabetes and its taken her sight but she is great and she has really helped me though. I hope you get some help with your disability, we has carers to get my husband up and put him to bed thet were lovely. try and keep posative. take care
KarenFarmGirl
24th Aug 2021 15:41:10 (Last activity: 28th Nov 2021 07:56:44)
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I live in the Ottawa Valley Ontario Canada. My family does hail from Scotland. I farm. Life can be tough.
I have no real close people to chat to....I can relate.
Response from JoannieF59 made on 30th Aug 2021 20:02:17
Hi Karen, my family also hail from Scotland. I don't live there now. Happy to chat anytime.
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Crickette
21st Nov 2021 17:51:14
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Knowyourworth,

Talk to me. I'm here. I live on the west coast of the US. I've had a lot of losses, and they sit with me. I'm trying to learn to better adjust my attitude. I'd like to give out my email address, but having just joined I'm not sure how safe it is to do that one this site.

There are so many here who need the support. If we come together we can ease the lonliness. Any one here who is feeling this way, please contact me. I can offer a digital shoulder.
KarenFarmGirl
24th Aug 2021 15:26:15
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I am rural in Canada and find what you say to be true with the new generation. No one wants the new comer basked like they used to. I cannot always be there but will talk if I can.
MickinPlymouth
12th Jun 2021 22:02:47 (Last activity: 13th Aug 2021 14:53:33)
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Hi, anybody fancy a stroll along Plymouth Hoe this summer?
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Response from sandie1416 made on 13th Aug 2021 14:53:33
Hi Mick, I've been to Plymouth many times over the years, by train, but it must be scary with today's news, I prefer Torquay and quieter surroundings.
Joy32899
18th Jun 2021 03:01:37 (Last activity: 13th Aug 2021 14:38:13)
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I know the feeling. I have been divorced since 2008 after 34 years of marriage. I have two adult children but they have not been in touch in any shape or form since 2009, not even during the holidays, my birthday, or Mother's Day. Those are the days that I feel especially sad, lonely, and isolated when I see my friends and relatives surrounded by their loving children, and I spent every holiday by myself. I am generally ok during the rest of the year.

Lately, I feel really lonely and depressed because my eldest and dearest sister passed away a month ago. We were really close. She loved me unconditionally and took care of me like her daughter. (although she had not invited me to join her for the holidays). I didn't feel like doing anything for the past two weeks, and yearn to connect with someone - just to chat or talk. Checked out a few dating sites, but they are really not for me. I am only looking for a friend for mutual support., not a date. This site may be just what I need.

Please hang in there and take care of yourself.
Response from sandie1416 made on 13th Aug 2021 14:38:13
Hi Joy, I have been single since 1983, I brought up boy/girl twins whilst holding down a job 15 miles away, my dad died of cancer and there was just me and mum, we went on holidays, day trips, cinema, church, she first got cancer in 1986 and then it came back 8 years later and she died in 1997. I had taken voluntary redundancy in 1995 and so looked after her full time for nearly 2 years. I had an elder brother and sister who didn't visit and finally my brother and his wife died 10/11 years ago and I wasn't even told. My sister went to the funeral and my nephew's wedding, I was told later, I can't express how hurt I've felt all these years. I became disabled with osteo/rheumo arthritis in 1997 after a back injury and although my daughter takes me to the coast and on holidays, we always end up falling out. I have had no friends or social life since 1995. I enjoy the tv/internet and reading and taking out my male chihuahua Peanut, who sits in my scooter basket to the lake, he loves to chase the ducks.
Jarred13
25th Jul 2021 08:36:03 (Last activity: 25th Jul 2021 09:57:10)
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Hi miss joy Houston tx here the world is a crazy place right now
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