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I do feel the need to write this, as I think it helps me go forward.
Over the past 12 years, I have lost my Mother, Father, Brother, Daughter, Niece, Great Nephew and now my wife of 45 years.
Throughout her life, she had her fair share of medical problems, which included 13 or so major operations for different reasons. Last year she was told that she had an advanced form of cancer that was inoperable and was given so long to live, that hit us like a ton of bricks.
She was a very caring person to anyone that needed help, comfort and support and after she had the news all she worried about was who was going to look after me with no thought of her own predicament.
I promised her I would keep her at home nurse her and be there till the end. I cannot describe the final few months but anyone that has gone through the same would understand. The saving grace was that she passed peacefully asleep with me holding her hand and my son the other.
Throughout the last few months we talked about it and she urged me to find another partner, but she would be a hard act to follow, this stems from us witnessing my Father ( a very fit ex-marine) dying less than a year after my mother, we are convinced that he just did not want to carry on alone.
Alfred Lord Tennyson said 'It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all', well all I can say is it is like having your heart ripped out, and it makes you wonder.
I am sorry if this has spoilt anyone's day, but if you have a partner cherish them and enjoy the time you have together, because it can be a very lonely world.
On that note, I intend to give myself a good kick and maybe meet someone and do some travelling and hopefully start a new chapter.
All The Best YOLO.
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