MOVING HOME ALONE ......AND TO A NEW PART OF THE COUNTRY
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Have you any experience of moving somewhere new on your own? I would love some input into my plan for the future, if you would be so kind.
My circumstances are as follows:
I have found myself a bit isolated since I am widowed and no longer out at work. I seem to have only acquaintances rather than close friends nearby. I have joined clubs and keep busy with hobbies, but the few people I have met seem set in their existing groups of friends or are reluctant to do anything in the evening. I have retired before getting my state pension as I no longer feel well enough to work.
Lack of funds is stopping me doing more on my own.
So I have come up with a plan to sell my home and rent somewhere instead; this will give me some more disposable income, enabling me to do more and to travel to meet old friends and family. It would also take away some concerns re house maintenance.
Now for my curved ball…… It has been suggested to me that I move 100+ miles away to Warwickshire…… a beautiful area with plenty of new places for me to explore and good transport links for visiting friends and family. I have done some online investigating and it certainly has potential. Now I am wondering what pitfalls there might be that I have not thought of.
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I live in a tiny rural farming community full of young families and very old people, I am 58 and I have no friends or relatives now, most passed over from Cancer.
I spend 24/7 alone, no company, no one to talk to and I am dreadfully lonely and isolated.
There are no places to socialize anywhere near here, for my age group and I crave company, new friends, a new life and someone to share good times with and have intelligent conversations with.
I am not sure where to move to, where I can find a decent rented home, not on a flood plain which gets flooded every year, low crime rate but not highly expensive that I would struggle to pay the rent.
I have a house to sell which has been on the market for almost 2 years and no viewings or offers, has 4 bedrooms, and I use one, can't find someone to share it with so may as well move on.
I am not having an easy time of things financially I work at home on the phone as a life coach and work has all but dried up so might be forced to move anyway if I can't continue to meet the hefty mortgage payments.
Just feel stuck in a terrible rut and I don't know what to do for the best, I would need to sell the house for what it is on the market for just to afford a move and then I need work in a decent area, don't mind what I do.
But I need friends and company too.
Is anyone in the same boat as me?
Any ideas on where a good place to move to us, where it is easy to meet others and fit in as a single person in their late 50's where the crime rate is low and you can get a nice home for rent and a job or is this asking too much in the UK today?!
I would love some company too.
I am friendly, easy going and a people person and would love to find a nice guy to settle down with and share life with.
I love cooking, home making, driving, travel, internet, art, design, music and entertaining.
I am compassionate, caring, genuine, good sense of humour and easy going.
Anyone out there to connect with?
Thanks,
Kaz
That was when she decided she didn't have many friends left in the local area, and she needed to find something for herself. She sold up (although she was prepared to rent her house out when the market wasn't strong), and moved from England to the West Coast of Scotland - to a town she'd only visited once many years ago-but had researched on line and via local papers.
Her first accommodation wasn't great, but she is now renting the flat next to me on a long term lease.
I get quite tired/exhausted hearing all she does 🙂 Gaelic classes, SNP Meetings, local pub Fun Bingo night, photography, cinema club, and writing!!!!! All of this whilst she's waiting to have a knee replacement op!
Hope this gives you a bit of inspiration and food for thought - take good care, and maybe take a deep breath and 'go for it'....Best of luck. Jx
You are both very kind and I thank you for your well wishes and inspiration, and I am sending you the same back, I am here for you if you want to chat.
Take care,
Bless you both,
Kaz XX
Thanks for your advice it is appreciated greatly.
I have tried to contact these property agencies, yes, but the market value of my 4 bed home is £250,000 and my outstanding mortgage is £232,000 so unless I can get £250,000 I won't have enough money to move, put a payment down on a new rented home, and I won't get another mortgage at my age, I have no savings, limited income, and at 58, it will be hard to cope with the physical aspect of moving and finding new work, which will pay my rent etc, and I have no pension arrangements either, so might have to work until I pop my clogs, health permitting, not that easy really, bit of a trap.
My home is beautiful and substantial but it has been on the market since October 2014 and no buyers as yet. This is my home on the estate agents web site:
http://www.reganandhallworth.com/property-details/5069901/lancashire/rufford/holmeswood-road-3
Hard to let go of but too big for me alone and hard to maintain the mortgage on alone.
I desperately need a new life and some company!
Problem is not just selling the house but knowing where a good place to move to is and where I would meet new friends easier and be safe, find work, be able to settle and enjoy living again.
Not easy is it?!
Thanks millions,
Kaz
I was fortunate. I sold a one bedroom flat (no mortgage) in London 18 months ago for sufficient to buy a 3 bedroom house in Scotland, with still enough left over to buy a reasonable 2nd hand car. My daughter who already lived up here, sold her flat and moved in with me. She and her brother get the house when I go.
Thanks for saying my home is stunning, it is a comfortable place, with a beautiful Zen garden in the front of it and the solid granite hand carved Zen ornaments cost £7,500 alone, I have inset mood lighting in the ceilings on the landing, in the hall all 3 bathrooms and the kitchen, so the ambiance is relaxing and calming, but being here alone 24/7 with no company is soul destroying as I am a people person, who thrives on good conversation and good company, it is now a house rather than a home now that I am home alone!
Sounds like you are settled and better off and that is wonderful, I am really happy that you are in a better situation than I am.
Bless you and best of luck.
Kaz X
Thanks in advance!
One thing that supports my sanity about this and the whole adventure of much-later life is writing about it. Any (polite) comments welcome!
Tessa
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It sounds very intriguing. I hope you moved well to your new house and already met new people, who are ready to spend time with you too, and not only in their closed circles.
Personally, I do not like to move in new places. It is always stressful for me. For instance, I am planning to move again from LA to somewhere else. And I still do not know to where. I am planning to rent a small flat, maybe a studio with a kitchen, so it will be only I and nobody else.
I will edit my comment when my moving will be done too. Just if somebody will be interested :3
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Now, It is about 2 years that I'm happily residing in Fort Worth. I believe moving to a new place is not a bad idea if you feel uncomfortable living in your location.
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I am thinking of moving into a retirement village somewhere,, whe 're one can hopefully meet like-minded People. Would love to hear from.some one who has.made the move and is contended.
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I actually live near the sea now but want to have a bolt hole inland!
I shall go ahead and investigate the area I love, there are parks, specialist shops, buildings of historic interest etc., to explore. Always feel as if I have ‘gone home’ when I visit, getting excited already!
I hope I can get used to being more practical when I am staying there too, can hardly keep ringing up my husband for help with burst pipes etc can I? Haven’t lived by myself for so long, and son and daughter live miles away. Time to face up to a new way of life!
Don’t think my husband will even notice that I won’t be living in the family home all of the time, he just does his own thing!
I`m not single but live with my husband as friends really, after many years together. We do not want to separate, there are many advantages to staying married for us.
However I am very independent and like to do my own thing, I have inherited some money from relatives which is mine to spend. I like where we live but really want to have a place of my own too, at the other end of the county, about 25 miles away. I grew up there and absolutely love the area, visiting is not good enough!
My husband is set in his ways and won`t move there permanently but has no objection to me buying a little holiday home for myself. He has a hobby that takes him away quite a lot anyway.
Am I being selfish or weird? I do love the idea but get a niggling feeling that I will feel guilty because I shall not be doing the conventional thing.
Love reading about others who have moved away.
I am 66years old, and have arrived at a totally new lifestyle for 2020.
I have just retired.
I have just separated following my wifes announcement of an established alternative relationship.
I have put my house on the market, and after splitting the proceeds will have to move to new location to afford to buy again.
So, all to look forward to, new lifestyle, new friends and best experiences.
I hope this site will be helpful in moving forward.
Good luck with you new life - you sound very positive about it. The same thing happened to me 7 years ago - my partner announced that after 10 years together that we were incompatible; the week after I moved out there were photos all over Facebook of him on holiday with his new floozy!!! All very hurtful, but it certainly gave me the incentive to move on with my life . I'm fortunate in that I moved to a village about 3 miles away from where I used to live so I kept my old friends, made lots of new ones and now have a very busy lifestyle which keeps me out of mischief 🙂
I hope that all goes well with your house purchase and that you can start to enjoy your retirement doing things that you want to do.
Good luck with your move, retirement takes a bit of getting used to but you are going to be busy moving and hopefully creating a new life for yourself.
Have fun and lots of adventures.
Thanks for your comments.
I fully intend to go onwards and upwards on my journey through life!!
There is no stopping a man who has just found the excitement of supermarket shopping on a Friday morning!!!
I think what I'm trying to say, because it's what I feel, is are there really any pitfalls to relocating? If I add up what I have where I am, what's the real value? I love my home but I have to work full time to keep and maintain it, so I if I downsized I'd have more money and time. I'd also be able choose a nicer environment; more rural or even coastal. I'd love to hear from anyone who has done this. By the way - I am female - Henry was my old Labrador!
I was widowed at 46...sold my home and moved, alone, from Louisiana to California into a apartment when I retired! The "upkeep" on a home that was 30 years old, and quite large, was draining me in every since of the word....let alone the constant flooding, flood insurance, and hurricanes to deal with. With an apartment, they do everything for you....and that means everything! Even light bulbs!
I rented out my home, first, on VRBO , a one year commitment, and traveled off and on between rentals that I vetted and oversaw myself. That was very easy and exciting at first but I began to feel like I was living out of a suitcase....which, of course, I was! It did afford me to decide without a doubt to move to a resort town in Southern California after spending 2 full months here.
You can make a "move" as easy as pie and affordable if you do your due diligence BEFORE you sell your home! If there is anything I can help you with, just let me know!
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Don’t leave it until you are too old you will regret it that’s for sure . Write a list and put what’s good about where you are and what’s not so good and then compare with same list of Warwickshire .