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Moving on

How do you move on in older years ? I'm 64 and my marriage is coming to an end. Where can I go, what can I do, with no money, retired. Help!


Created By on 21/04/2017

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britishtea
9th Nov 2017 19:48:54
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can u go to low income apts
Momich
19th Jan 2020 20:48:01
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Do some voluntary work and many towns and villages have Walks For Health which are free. Join them and make friends. I did.
CarolinaGirl
21st May 2017 22:35:56 (Last activity: 22nd May 2017 12:38:33)
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Just start somewhere! One step at a time! Do something even if it is wrong then do something else!
You might be surprised to find how many others are in the same boat.
Just don't freeze yourself in time! I was paralyzed for 3 years and now I regret that!
Get moving girlie you've got things to do!
((((Hugs))))
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Response from ThePrimate made on 22nd May 2017 12:38:33
Carolinagirl makes sense. Small steps, maybe get some professional advice about your rights/finances etc and talk to your friends, the ones who will listen without pushing their opinions on you
CaroleAH
25th Apr 2017 20:24:15
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Hi Babs,
Just wondering how you are getting on - hope you are ok. Take care!
ThePrimate
23rd Apr 2017 10:55:17
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Hi Babs
Sorry to hear about your situation. Take a deep breath and make an appointment with a Solicitor specialising in maritial disputes/divorces. You'll get an initial, free, consultation (of up to 30 minutes I think). Perhaps take a list of 2 or 3 questions that are important to you and be prepared to supply documentation such as proof of ID, Ask for details of their fees, an estimate of how much this is likely to cost and that will hopefully give you some idea of the legal process. Maybe take a friend along for moral support. It's a start and I wish you luck.
CaroleAH
23rd Apr 2017 00:04:31
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Hi Babs, sorry to hear about your problems. First of all I am not an expert so can only offer you advice after having been in a similar situation, at the same age as you. You need to get your financial situation sorted out as quickly as possible - your husband can't just walk away with everything or throw you out of your house even if it's solely in his name. Presumably, if you have no money and are retired, you are financially dependent on him and he has to take some responsibility for that. Have you asked for advice from the Citizens Advice Bureau? If it's possible (i.e. you are not being threatened with violence) stay in the family home and talk to your husband about what he thinks should happen, write it all down (I find that this focuses your mind better than trying to remember everything that was said and perhaps makes for more reasonable requests than outrageous demands which often arise out of bitter arguments) and then sit and go through the list, one point at a time until you are both satisfied with the outcome. If you have an impartial friend who would sit with you through the discussion that would be good and might stop tempers getting frayed. Obviously, it will be cheaper if you can both agree on everything as the only people who make money out of a divorce are the solicitors so if you can come up with a plan and say that that is what you both are agreeable with, then it should be easier. It's also possible to do a DIY divorce on-line if you are confident enough. Have you any family who could help out as mediators? My solicitor told me that even though my ex-husband had walked out, and was living with another woman, I couldn't change the locks on the doors until the divorce papers were signed, just in case he changed his mind and decided to come back (the house was in my name only and I had paid most of the bills). I have to admit that I ignored that advice!!! There will always be people (like me??? 🙂 ) who will give advice and say that you should do this or ought to do that but really you need specialised legal advice so that you know exactly what your rights are in this situation. Once you know what's what you can then start planning for your future. Believe me, it may seem bleak at the moment, but things will get better and you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. Private chat with me if you would like to or just mull things over and try to work things out with a good result for both of you. Good luck!

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