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Older grandchildren who never say Thank Your for Christmas or Birthday cheques

I have six grandchildren who no longer live at home with their parents and I very rarely receive a Thank You. It is so easy these days. They could easily pick up the telephone or send an email. I feel like just sending a card.


Do other grandparents always receive a Thank You?


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Hazel
17th Aug 2021 12:18:14
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Maybe I am fortunate,I do receive a thank you letter, message or text from my Grandchildren.
patmca
15th Aug 2021 13:52:05
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If i give them money personally they will say thank you but not for money in post/cards or bank transfer. Does not bother me as they are all lovely kids/young adults. I dont give expecting thanks tbh. I just want them to enjoy life.
Sharyna
10th Jul 2021 00:14:31 (Last activity: 15th Aug 2021 11:49:49)
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Not only do I not receive a thank you, they don't even acknowledge the arrival. I don't even know if they got it! So I don't bother with ungrateful people and give generously to people who have manners and check on me once in a while.
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Response from yo made on 15th Aug 2021 11:49:49
I have four ranging in age from 17-23, they have never sent even a card or said thankyou , their mum still does it for them. A thank you costs nothing, I think I shall just send a card in future without the money they expect.
flower56
9th Aug 2021 03:06:15
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you're not alone i never get a thank you my grand kids only come around at Christmas time only to see what they get and never say thank you for anything.
Donoto
19th Jul 2021 20:17:42
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Sending a card is a great way to tell them how much you love and miss them. Young people are the best of both worlds. one of t hose worlds is the loving one. I remember being young. When the cute young lady was more important than grandmother. When i thought I would never get another chance at something. We all know how bad we really where at times. we changed, they changed and how happy my parents/grandparents were.
Oh by the way love you too
Donoto
Joy32899
18th Jun 2021 04:53:45 (Last activity: 18th Jun 2021 07:52:42)
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I know how you feel. My adult children had not been in touch with me since 2009, not even during holidays, my birthday, Actually my son never sent any greetings to me on holidays or special occasions his entire adult life. When he was in college, he did not reply to my letters, my email, or my phone calls. On his birthday, I sent him follower with a mug and a teddy bear. He did not even acknowledge it.

I was a full time mother for 12 years when they were growing up. What I had hoped to be my pride and joy turned out to be a big disappointment and heart-ache. That's why I feel especially lonely and depressed during the holidays and special occasions when I see mothers all over the world are surrounded by their loving children.
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JamesN9
18th Jun 2021 07:29:13 (Last activity: 18th Jun 2021 07:52:33)
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I send mine an E-card. It’s an online card that costs nothing. Slightly more than the value of a rude son.
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formbyflyer
3rd May 2021 22:21:15
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I know exactly how you feel,my grandchildren take gifts and very seldom phone to show their gratitude,I think that the blame lies with the parents.
carriex
16th Apr 2021 10:04:09
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Yes, just sending them anything except a card.

Ingratitude and rudeness are unacceptable.
mercury
15th Apr 2021 19:38:12
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Why are you still spending money on people who are now adults? They obviously don't care about you even to ring to say thank you. Sorry to be so blunt but their behaviour says it all IMO. Save your card and present money and treat yourself perhaps to a meal and drinks with friends instead, Seriously. Grandparents don't have to be guilt tripped into this.
jeaniembe
5th Feb 2021 15:21:44 (Last activity: 7th Apr 2021 08:43:31)
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Sadly it seems the way of the world now. Have this generation had too much? I know when I was a child it was drummed into us, to say thank you in person, by phone or in a letter. A couple of years ago I just sent a birthday card, no money included. I soon had a phonecall thanking me for the card and in an embarrased round about way saying there was no money in it. I explained that the previous year I didn't know whether or not they had received it, so thought it safer not to send it in the post.
Response from Lmnop made on 18th Mar 2021 07:57:32
HA HA HS. WAY TO GO! Now that was an excellent idea. I must try it!!
Response from jeaniembe made on 19th Mar 2021 06:30:02
Good luck...
Response from MimiM made on 7th Apr 2021 03:39:40 > @jeaniembe
I love that you told your grandchildren what you did… Absolutely perfect!
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Response from jeaniembe made on 7th Apr 2021 08:43:31 > @MimiM
Thanks. It actually was a niece but same reasons.. Always get a thank you now. Sometimes they just need a nudge in the right direction.
MimiM
7th Apr 2021 03:38:03
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My Grand children range in the age from 8 to 15… I could be standing right in front of the two boys and give them a Christmas present or birthday present, they never say boo Until the mother tells them to thank Nana...As for the two girls... it’s always, thank you Nana… Hugs and kisses… You’re the best
MollyUK
22nd Feb 2021 11:39:19
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I've never NOT received a thankyou note from the younger members of my family. Clearly, your grandchildren were either never brought up to say thankyou in the first place (in which case, have a quiet word with your sons/daughters) or they've forgotten and need a gentle reminder (in which case, have a quiet word with your sons/daughters) . . .
JeannetteP3
15th Feb 2021 16:34:12 (Last activity: 15th Feb 2021 17:14:01)
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l have five that do and three who do not they get their mum my daughter to do it for them
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Radley123
9th Oct 2020 09:52:10 (Last activity: 7th Feb 2021 10:37:23)
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I convinced my older, distant grandchildren that it hurts not to be acknowledged when we go to the trouble of sending cards and gifts. I did this by inserting a THANK YOU card inside the birthday card, and included a poem I found in a book of verse which was about how happy it makes us feel to know we are appreciated.

It worked....always get my Thank You card with nice words returned....and smiley mojos!
Response from Sue - Silversurfers Assistant Editor made on 9th Oct 2020 10:00:28
What a great tip I shall remember this as I now have my first grandchild!!
Response from LynziBrew made on 7th Feb 2021 10:01:49
Would you be willing to share that poem? We have 7 grandchildren - and not one word of thanks for Christmas presents/money/vouchers sent from any of them. x
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Scoxy
25th Jan 2021 03:31:43 (Last activity: 25th Jan 2021 07:57:59)
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Yes, manners seem to be a thing of the past unfortunately.

Don't send them anything and they will suddenly remember you and maybe appreciate what you used to do for them and if anyone asked why you stopped the gifts then that is your time for the discussion. Good Luck!
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Twohoots
24th Jan 2021 19:31:08
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I wouldn’t bother in future. I don’t have grandchildren but I have many friends who do. I have 4 nieces who have all had children and I knitted lovely trendy stuff for their babies and was miffed that they never bothered to even text me. I therefore decided not to waste my time making any more.

When I was a young Mum I wrote cards to everybody which was time consuming and I also enclosed baby photos to all those who sent baby gifts whereas now with emails and texts it literally takes seconds.
chari
13th Jan 2021 08:36:07
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Have any of you explained to the parents or even better the children that it is a good thing to treat people with courtesy? There is an informality within most family circles where the individuals are in contact daily or at least regularly. More formal courtesies are not even mentioned let alone encouraged or expected. Why not simply say that unless well mannered thanks are received there will be no more gifts? You could say this to the parents first then teh youngsters themselves after the next birthday/easter or gift giving date.
Trophimus
10th Jan 2021 11:53:59 (Last activity: 10th Jan 2021 13:00:11)
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No I am in the same boat
I have 3 Grandchildren living within a ten minute walk aged between 9 and 15, all have smart phones / tablets etc, I live alone none have thanked me for the money I sent them,for Christmas ,I have 2 others living 50 miles away again they have tablets and phones ,, not a peep. When I was a child I had to write thank you letters to relatives I would not meet often before I was allowed my lunch. We had no phone in those days.
Are the children or the parents at fault ? Methinks parents so maybe I failed to educate my sons correctly ??
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Silverfoxy21
7th Jan 2021 20:15:31
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well i do think a thank you is a big relief to at least know ones support is appreciated.
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