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Older grandchildren who never say Thank Your for Christmas or Birthday cheques

I have six grandchildren who no longer live at home with their parents and I very rarely receive a Thank You. It is so easy these days. They could easily pick up the telephone or send an email. I feel like just sending a card.


Do other grandparents always receive a Thank You?


Created By on 16/09/2018

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Stjustpaul
16th Oct 2018 13:12:56
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My wife and I have decided that as our four grandchildren never bother to say thank you for gift nor do they send us cards, (well they did on our Diamond wedding anniversary but we think that was to ensure their invite to the rave up!) we shall no longer give either gifts or cards and see what happens.
Response from CaroleAH made on 16th Oct 2018 16:22:19
Good for you! 🙂
LinnieSue
14th Jun 2022 02:24:14 (Last activity: 29th Jan 2024 15:29:37)
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I think parents today don't teach children to politely send a thank you to anyone...
Response from ecarg made on 29th Jan 2024 15:29:37
That's a very big generalisation
Yesterday I received a lovely card from my great niece to thank me for Christmas cash.She told me that she spend it on wool and a crochet pattern.She is13..
Crissysew52
24th Jan 2024 15:23:50
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Maybe his little brain hasn't quite developed yet so his dad gives him a little nudge....good on dad.
Crissysew52
24th Jan 2024 15:20:22
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Some Children and grandchildren take it for granted that it's their god given right to receive money on birthdays and Christmas time without ever thanking the person who sent them this gift. In my day we didn't get much but whatever it was we allways had manners and respect to say Thankyou.... and there really is NO excuse at this day and age because everyone owns a mobile phone....
Drillpush
12th Jul 2022 09:54:44
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My kids all adults 33 and 31 have abandoned me.My ex has convinced them I am a bad father.
LinnieSue
14th Jun 2022 02:26:01 (Last activity: 27th Jun 2022 06:51:21)
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Parents don't teach children to politely thank anyone for anything?
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Response from Bob2000 made on 26th Jun 2022 22:33:17
I would agree with you LinnieSue. In some cases, the child always gets what they want the value of things has gone. Sometimes no should mean no if you get what I mean.
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Bob2000
26th Jun 2022 22:24:19
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I only have one grandchild and he only says thank you for any gifts we give him after his Dad phones and tells him to.

Children in most cases get and expect too much nowadays.
emmap40
17th Jun 2022 15:34:19
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Sorry to read this - I agree that they definitely should express their gratitude. Luckily my granddaughter always says thank you, even if it's just verbally. Sometimes I get a nice card! I feel like it's just common decency.
albin
31st May 2022 03:19:16 (Last activity: 31st May 2022 11:45:31)
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I hadn't thought about it until I read your post. I rarely receive a thank you and most of the time gifts are not even acknowledged,
I wonder what's the effect of the covid pandemic on grandparents relationship with own adult children as well as their grandchildren
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28th May 2022 07:02:58 (Last activity: 28th May 2022 07:43:10)
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1st Apr 2022 04:34:44 (Last activity: 1st Apr 2022 07:55:40)
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23rd Jan 2022 16:30:47 (Last activity: 23rd Jan 2022 17:41:58)
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WHT
9th Jan 2022 21:58:42
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They should be taught that 'manners cost nothing and to use them!' yes a card would suffice. Is pure complacency on their part.
ronbradley
27th Oct 2021 02:40:15 (Last activity: 27th Oct 2021 07:58:23)
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sigh... It has become a world of entitlement as far as the younglings are concerned. My offspring have been remiss in teaching the same manners and politeness they were taught, and I can only assume that was due to a strange resentment. Life has evolved in to a strange system of reward, and with that comes a strange system of expectation. To be honest, it makes me a bit mad.
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TomSam
11th Oct 2021 16:12:49 (Last activity: 15th Oct 2021 13:59:52)
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I send my two nephews £30 amazon gift card (each) every birthday and Christmas, and rarely get an acknowledgment unless I text them that week/month. I also used to send a close friends son who is struggling the same, but never had an acknowledgment. They all have mobile phones with unlimited call and text allowance, so it costs them nothing, other than their time. A text takes a few seconds, so I do feel hurt they can't make that small effort to say thank you.
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Response from LesleyC7 made on 15th Oct 2021 13:59:52
I am sorry to hear this, but if the nephews are over 21 , I honestly wouldn't bother anymore, if they can't thank you. I would tell their parents that you are no longer sending them money, with out any further information, and if they then question you, tell them why. In this day and age teenagers and those in their 20s don't value their older relatives like we used to. X X
Mssr Chris
2nd Oct 2021 11:53:10
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Agree totally, a bit of gratitude would be nice.
I recall as a child no I didn't write thank you letters for a simple card but if aunt Bessie sent a 10 shilling postal order, that dates me, a thank you letter was certainly required.
Hazel
17th Aug 2021 12:18:14
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Maybe I am fortunate,I do receive a thank you letter, message or text from my Grandchildren.
patmca
15th Aug 2021 13:52:05
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If i give them money personally they will say thank you but not for money in post/cards or bank transfer. Does not bother me as they are all lovely kids/young adults. I dont give expecting thanks tbh. I just want them to enjoy life.
Sharyna
10th Jul 2021 00:14:31 (Last activity: 15th Aug 2021 11:49:49)
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Not only do I not receive a thank you, they don't even acknowledge the arrival. I don't even know if they got it! So I don't bother with ungrateful people and give generously to people who have manners and check on me once in a while.
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Response from yo made on 15th Aug 2021 11:49:49
I have four ranging in age from 17-23, they have never sent even a card or said thankyou , their mum still does it for them. A thank you costs nothing, I think I shall just send a card in future without the money they expect.
flower56
9th Aug 2021 03:06:15
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you're not alone i never get a thank you my grand kids only come around at Christmas time only to see what they get and never say thank you for anything.
Donoto
19th Jul 2021 20:17:42
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Sending a card is a great way to tell them how much you love and miss them. Young people are the best of both worlds. one of t hose worlds is the loving one. I remember being young. When the cute young lady was more important than grandmother. When i thought I would never get another chance at something. We all know how bad we really where at times. we changed, they changed and how happy my parents/grandparents were.
Oh by the way love you too
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