Online dating dos and don'ts
Watch this postSome things to look out for if you want to try online dating.
Remember, these sites are businesses, there to make money, not to find you love. I have tried several, all the same, even the so-called free ones, will want you to pay to access members.
Okay, so you take the leap and wow, you get loads of hits on your profile, messages too. You answer, but get few replies...why? Because many of them are fake profiles. this could make you disillusioned, worse than what you were..
I am a male, 68 and considered okay, I do not have 2 heads, so thought someone may be interested...anyway. the warnings..guys and ladies,if you see a username with a number such as "honeybun12345" its a dodgy one, from members usually in Eastern Europe, who will want you to give them your personal email or direct you to another site, they want your bank details, avoid.
Don't confuse this with a genuine member who puts their date of birth after their name such as "sue220954". The crooks put numbers with the usernames, to keep tracks of their input profiles. also, avoid all messages saying "hey there" same crooks.
Guys - if the ladies look as if they have just appeared in a glossy mag, they probably have fake pics. ladies, if the guy falls in love with you after a few chats, ask yourself, are you really that irresistible?
Don't be taken in, that he is in the US military and moves about, don't send money for their sick kids or for airfare, so he can come to visit you. common sense, yes, but we all need to believe and it's easy to think people are as honest as ourselves.
Good luck. Forgive any typing mistakes, have my damaged right hand in a splint at the mo.
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I have not looked at the site for some time but caught up today.
I found very interesting what you said about dating sites I have been on one a couple of times during winter months when feeling company would be nice. I am 74 very active and got all my marbles so when I received some of the awful messages from young & old I found it very worrying as I had said I wished to meet someone 73-77. I soon realised there were men on there looking for rich widows which I certainly am not . It appears none of these sites are safe if you are vulnerable male or female.