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Online pornography addiction

Is anyone else dealing with an elderly partner who seems to be addicted to online pornography?


Created By on 21/01/2019

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Broncrider
22nd Oct 2020 05:55:36
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I looked at porn because my wife had no desire for sex. but, after a few years, the excitement began to fade for porn. I did not want to go any further than legal porn. I stopped looking . I would not be worried unless your partner has gone to illegal porn.
CherylK6
7th Apr 2020 05:54:44 (Last activity: 17th Apr 2020 17:38:07)
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sometimes I watch porn because my husband (75) has little to no interest in sex but I (71) do....we've been married for 40 years, but I long for someone to be able to make love to me.
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Response from Snecklifter made on 17th Apr 2020 17:38:07
Whatever floats your boat, it won’t harm you
ArchieUK
30th Oct 2019 10:01:18
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Do you know that there are over 1 millian pornographic films available on the internet that are betwwen 5minutes and 95 minutes long ---- all for free,no need to pay'
My wife is addicted to games on her iplayer, do I grumble -- NO, it is annoying but it is one of her pleasures

And what has e-mail gotto do with it?
giddyygoat
26th Oct 2019 14:09:23
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OK, he is watching, whats the issue for you with this? Why do you need to ask this question?
ArchieUK
22nd Jan 2019 09:00:59 (Last activity: 1st Mar 2019 09:41:11)
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I am not sure what you mean by pornography, some people complain that top shelf magazins are pornographic others take a differnt view. and what do you mean by addicted, once a day three times a day or once a week, and what do you mean by "dealing with" is someone viewing something that you do not approve of and think that they should alter their ways to suit what you think.
P{lease be more specific.
Response from jeannie46 Original Poster made on 24th Jan 2019 09:25:19
My elderly partner watches it on a daily basis at every available moment apparently, no it's not top shelf magazine stuff, once l told him l was aware of it he told me he would stop but we share an email address and l know he,s still watching and l think it's an addiction. We,ve been together a long time and l know he never looked at stuff that was around when we were younger , he never showed any interest at all in that sort of thing. I
Response from ArchieUK made on 25th Jan 2019 10:11:40
Is it doing him any physical harm or are you just worried abou a mental state.
I know it could be a little embarassing but try to talk to your doctor and ask for help and advice, they have many ways to give help.
Response from CaroleAH made on 25th Jan 2019 23:57:11
Wise words, Archie.
Response from StewartY made on 26th Jan 2019 11:51:56
Hi Jeannie46

As long as its 'porn' and not abuse he is watching then personally i would say leave him to it, obviously if its draining funds then keep an eye on it.

Regards
Response from CaroleAH made on 27th Feb 2019 14:01:14
That must be so difficult for you, Carol. I'm sure that I couldn't cope with that type of behaviour. Have you tried confronting him about it? Not to have an argument but to tell him exactly how you feel. If he won't listen write it all down and make him read your letter. He will no doubt be on the defensive as he probably thinks his behaviour is "normal". Realistically, I suppose that you have three options - you can stay with him and carry on as you are and feel bitter about his lack of empathy, or stay on condition that he modifies his behaviour or leave him and start a new life on your own. No matter what your age, size, shape or appearance you deserve more than being belittled by an inconsiderate man!
Response from CaroleAH made on 1st Mar 2019 09:41:11
Hi Carol, have replied in private chat. CaroleAH

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