How do you pick up the pieces when your husband takes his own life?
Watch this postHi, I'm new here, this is my first post. I am 53 years young! Last August my husband took his own life - I'm not going into it, it would take far too long and I would chase you all away! I have 3 children, aged 15, 22 and 25. All four of us are either on medication, receiving counselling or both. But I don't want this to sound like a sob story, I just find life so very hard. 4 months after he died I found out two things about him that devastated me and give me some answers as to why he did what he did. Our world was ripped apart by his death, and I have gone from missing him and loving him, to hating him and the hurt he has caused us all. My main concern is my 3 children and helping them to get through all this, I also have my 93 year old mother living with us (since 2008) and she has stroke damage, dementia and alzheimers and I am her full time carer. Effectively I am housebound, which I am finding very difficult now. I have my own problems as a result of losing my husband (together 31 years, known for 34) but everybody else has to come first, I am at the back of the line, which I know is not good but I also believe that the majority of people in this position would do the same. I feel very alone, even in a household of 5 people, and this gets me very down. So I thought I would check out the internet and look for local clubs, that sort of thing, and came across Silver Surfers! So I thought I would check it out and see! I hope to make friends on here, maybe socially (I live in Morden, Surrey), but just have a place to go to and chat about anything and everything to help me to stop dwelling on all the negative issues that I am going through. I love a good laugh, I do enjoy craft, cinema, theatre, music, reading, coffee shops, travel, food, driving, pubs and I am sure I can add to that list. I just don't get the chance to do much of it anymore. So if anybody is up for chats, and can help me find my giggle again, then I would love to hear from you. Thanks x
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I am sorry to hear of your situation and hope that you can all put together and recover from this.
Please message if you would like to chat.
Chris
Very sad to hear your story. I have had some bad times too, although nowhere near as bad as yours. If you would like to chat please message me. More than happy to chat with you.