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Reading a poem at a funeral

My brother in laws funeral is next week, and I want to read a lovely poem. I've never done it before, he was so special to us all but I'm the sort of person that cries at the least thing ! Can't back down now, anyone got any ideas how I can get through this ?


Created By on 26/02/2016

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anmarie101
17th Mar 2017 14:38:14
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Hello, I am so sorry for your loss. Look at a poem called Do not stand at my grave and weep by Mary Elizabeth frye. So moving and says everything.
KatieK
25th Oct 2016 00:18:39
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I hope you got through your sad day, Ang35, and that you read the special poem. My mum's funeral is tomorrow 25 Oct 2016 & ive written a poem for her which I shall be reading. I hope I can do her proud without dissolving into a soggy mess.....xxx
CaroleR1
29th Jun 2016 16:22:50
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First of all practice, not just to learn the words but to feel them. Let others feel what you are feeling, love respect and pride etc. Take your time, do not rush your words, be as clear and loud as you can. Sounds difficult, and it is, but you will feel great afterwards knowing you have given your brother in law a meaningful and memorable farewell.
I did a similar for my brother in law eight years ago, so I know how you feel.
Please try and really make yourself heard. From experience there is nothing worse than not hearing what is being said. Good luck it will all be fine. Regards
Frank
30th Apr 2016 20:13:39 (Last activity: 30th Apr 2016 20:44:37)
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Not that long ago I was asked to do a little something at a dear friends funeral this was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. Believe me it is not an easy thing to carry out but I do wish you well in carrying it out. The feed back after was uplifting and well worth doing but as I said before it hurts both the loss and the speech.
Response from Frank made on 30th Apr 2016 20:44:37
I will add that I hope never to have this to do again it was far to difficult and I do admire people who carry these duties out day after day.
Joan Fraser
12th Mar 2016 09:54:19
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I hope you managed to do this Ang35. It's a beautiful way to pay tribute to someone special. I recently did a reading at an amazing lady's funeral, but another friend did the hardest part - she delivered a eulogy using a poem which totally reflected the woman we had lost. Yes her voice quivered, and her eyes filled, but she had our total respect and thanks for doing what the rest of us couldn't do. x
celtwitch
27th Feb 2016 12:07:02
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Practice in front of a mirror, memorise the words, and remind yourself why you are doing this. Good luck.
First Deb
26th Feb 2016 21:24:38 (Last activity: 26th Feb 2016 22:58:53)
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Just get through it the best way you can,if you get emotional ,just take a deep breath and start when ,your ready ,people understand ,at times like this ,if you cry ,so be it.
Response from Ang35 Original Poster made on 26th Feb 2016 22:58:53
Thank you, that's great advise, wish me luck ! x

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