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Relocating alone

Hi everyone. I've just read some posts which were put up some time ago but are so relevant to my current situation I'm hoping someone out there can share an experience or offer some insight.

I've just turned 63 and live alone. My only family is my daughter and she lives in Australia.

I'm fortunate in many ways; I have a good job I enjoy, a home I love and my adorable Labrador. The downside is arthritis is making it hard to keep working full time and I'm worried that it will also stop me being able to upkeep my house, financially and maintenance.

For a long time, I've dreamt of downsizing to a coastal area. But as the prospect grows closer I realise I fear losing the only connections I have in my current area. Some friends, good neighbours and several aquaintances. The saying 'Feel the fear and do it anyway' doesn't work for me with this issue. I am scared of being a stranger in a strange place and, once I've sold and left my home there's no going back. I feel so stuck!

Has anyone been through this, and made the move? How did it work out for you?

Created By on 23/09/2020

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2nd Oct 2020 00:44:02
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Hi, My circumstances are not quite the same as yours, but I moved from a big city to a fishing village in Cornwall with my husband 20 years ago. We did most things together, then unexpectedly he left me after 35 years. I had to start again at the age of 70 making new friends and doing new things. I've found that even though I live in a small town there are lots of groups and clubs, people are very friendly. Admittedly this year has slowed things rather as a lot of groups have stopped for the time being. My advice would be, go for it!!
Best of luck
24th Sep 2020 09:15:58
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Hello Henry.
Speaking as a nomad who has moved frequently and to far and distant places, I have found roots to be very important.
A move for you at this time in your life, means you will be losing all the valuable connections you have built up over the years.
Moving to a coastal area could affect your arthritis, plus sea levels are rising. It is not easy to build up a new circle of true friends.
Why not downsize in the same area you are living now?
24th Sep 2020 02:19:26
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Hi Henry,
I'm saddened by your post. I can't say I've been through what you're going through. I can say the future scares the heck out of me. I am 60, diagnosed a few years ago with Primary Progressive MS (the worst and the rarest). I can no longer drive and feel a burden to my husband who also has major health issues.
Oh my, I'm no help to you at all! lol. My point is if you ever want to talk, I can at least listen.
23rd Sep 2020 20:04:03
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Hi Henry001,
I have been retired for 4 years now and i moved to a village on the coast when i met my partner 18 years ago. We took over ownership of my sons wee dog soon after. I can honestly say that it helped me to get to know other residents of the village. Lots of people chat when you have a dog. Now after all these years our wee dog heartbreakingly had to be put to sleep and i walk a neighbours dog daily. I now know lots of our villagers and there are lots of social events. I suppose it depends on how much you want to mix. In my case i like to stop and chat and it lets me keep up to date with what is happening locally. If you want to get involved there are loads of opportunities so take the plunge or you will always be left wondering? Any good friends you have made will be friends wherever you go. Any way good luck wherever you end up.

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